Do you believe that is is right for grandparents to be shut out of their grandchildrens lives because of family squabbles? I am not talking about just cases of abuse, neglect or sexual predator but in regards to children being used as leverage against the grandparents. Do you feel that grandparents are an import family member for children? Try to remember that one day you may face the same situation. For more information on the topic you can find it at http://www.examiner.com/x-9752-Des-Moines-Grandparenting-Examiner and leave a comment if you like. I am a grandma denied my only grandchild because my daughter uses my grandchild as a pawn against me everytime we have a disagreement. I tried to talk to her and she called the police and tried to have me charged with harassment. I went to an attorney and found that I can't even get visitation because the mother of the child is my daughter. Crazy thing is if my granddaughter lived with her father I could get visitation but not if it is my own child holding my granddaughter hostage. I dont know what to do.