My mom doesn't speak english. I take care everything in house...like finance, bills and some parenting. I have a problem with my little bother, he doesn't do his homework and he doesn't like to help out. He just doesn't do ANYTHING. I don't know what to do. Does anyone know any good camp or boot camp that can help improve his behavior problems.
Wow. You have a lot on your plate. Since you are attempting to help parent your brother here is an idea.
1. Understand that there is a reason why your brother is not doing his homework. There are many different explanations for this.
2. You cannot make or force your brother to do his homework.
So: What do you do?
Try this:
Believe that he wants to do well in school.
Say to him, "I noticed that you are not doing your homework lately, what's up?" Explain to him that you are not trying to make him do it, but rather explore what is going on.
Listen to his explanation. If he cannot give you one, offer ideas, but do not find the reason for him.
Offer your concern, "I am concerned that you are going to be held back in school." or "I am concerned that you will get poor grades." or whatever your concern is.
Next, ask Him what a potential solution to the problem could be. "I wonder if there is a way for you to get your homework done and (add his concern here.) Let him offer the first possible solution. If unable, then you can offer some possible solutions.
Remember, it is not about you forcing him to do his homework.
Good luck!
Hi Olivia,
I think it's great you help your family out. I am curious though, do your mom and brother speak the same language? It seems that this could be something that could fall back onto her, while you help with things where her language barrier forces you to.
Your brother sounds very typical of every 10 year old boy I have ever met. This is not an issue for boot camp, and quite frankly it frightens me, that for such a small issue this came into your mind.
I think you will have more luck with honey than vinegar. Perhaps a reward system for good deeds instead of a punishment system for bad deeds? Positive reinforcement and not negative....especially when dealing with someone else's child!
Good luck to you all,
Deirdre