Birthday gift ideas for 14 yr old girl

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My dgtrs best friend’s bday is coming up, the friends parents are divorced and she lives with Dad, very little interaction with her mother. I have taken on a small role as a surrogate mom, make her lunches, purchase feminine protection she was too embarrassed to talk to dad about, little things that are sometimes between mother and daughter. I wanted to give her a little gift for her birthday that will convey the “i’m always here for you, love you for who are” sentiment that I sincerely feel for her, but considering the cynical age of 14 and the very expensive gifts she receives from her family to compensate for emotional detachment…I’m worried that the gift won’t mean anything to her.

I’m trying really hard not to make this about me, my feelings, etc. The child is what matters. If anyone has an inexpensive idea that would be appropriate, I would love to get your input. TIA

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How sweet of you to take this child under your wing. This is such an important time in her life emotionally. I admire you for doing this.

My daughter turned 14 in Dec. I know Itunes, gift cards and cash were all her favorites.

Since her birthday, Christmas and our 20th anniversary are all in the same week…it is pretty hectic around here.

I don’t know your budget but…

My daughter is like me with jewelry preferences and only likes a couple of very nice, classy pieces. So, in July, we surprised her by going to a jewelry store. My hubby takes care of us very well and he explained that she is growing up and she needed some nice jewelry. She found a beautiful cross necklace and we also got a nice gemstone ring for her.

She treasures these pieces of jewelry.

A nice piece of jewelry could be something that she would treasure and always appreciate the person who gave it to her. You wouldn’t have to be very extravagant with it, maybe a nice necklace and it would mean a lot to her.

I don’t know about the tastes of your daughter’s friend. Juicy Couture has some pretty necklaces and bracelets at reasonable prices (less than $100) if you don’t want to go a jewelry store route.

A journal would be nice. My daughter keeps a journal and writes her thoughts, songs and poems in it.

I also might add a special card telling her how you care for her as well.

IN NO WAY WAS I SUGGESTING THAT SHE BE “BOUGHT”. I was simply thinking of something special that my child did find very special and treasures. My daughter and I are not “bought”. I am very fortunate to have a husband who works very hard, provides very well, treats us with love and respect. Sometimes Yes, he will give us some materialistic items because he is proud to be able to do it in addition to being here with our family.

Notice that the journal I mentioned is extrememly special to my daughter.

Best wishes!

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Lisa,

You are a very kind person! ISTM that the most valuable thing you provide this girl is your time and attention. Why not make up some little “gift certificates” that say “redeemable for x”, where x can be “an afternoon at the movies”, “a lunch”, “a weeknite dinner”, “a batch of fresh baked cookies”, etc. Include these in a small gift basket with some lotions, hair stuff, etc. My son has done this for me in the past for Christmas, birthdays, etc. and he includes things like “infinity hugs and kisses”, etc. But, I keep those at my desk and it is so heartwarming to have them there. I think these would show the girl that you really care and are always there for her, without getting too sentimental - i.e., they are for concrete things, but not too expensive.

Mary B.

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journal with her name or a phrase printed on the cover…
book,keepsake box

i bet that since she is USED to receiving extravagant gifts to compensate for emotional detachment…then ANY gift from the heart would mean so much to her…while people are trying to ‘BUY’ love the child only wants that connection (even though a 14 yr old may not realize it at this point…although i bet they do!)

you are an amazing woman…thank you for helping a child in need!

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I think that something personalized would be good. Maybe a picture frame and Things Remembered does a great, and not too expensive engraving job.

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Scrapbook - if you’re into that, and have the pictures, you can get a simple kit for less than $30 at Wal-Mart.

Time - pedicures together.

You clearly know the child and what she’s into - use that ‘inside information’ to tap into her needs, instead of the material stuff that everyone else appears to be trying to buy her with.

Steph

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What about something from James Avery? Maybe a necklace with a heart charm. She will think of you when she wears it.. and it would remind her you’re always there for her.

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I really like the idea of the coupons.
Another thing would be a girls day out, maybe to get mani’s and pedi’s with you and your daughter. You could go shopping at a mall after wards maybe even get a make over at the Mac counter(or another make up line)

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I have a 14 year old daughter also. She also has a friend from a broken home that we have taken under our wing. I bought her a heart shaped locket Necklace for her birthday and put a picture of me, my daughter and her in it. She wears it everyday. I shopped around and found one on sale at one of the jewelry stores in the mall for less than 30 dollars…it also came with a warranty - which we have used once when she broke the chain. Good Luck and God Bless You.

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Wow Lisa, what a wonderful person you are :). I agree with Cynthia H. on this one, a girls day out is a perfect idea. Like you said, she gets enough ‘expensive’ gifts, but the best one would be ‘your’ time. Good luck with whatever you decide and I’m sure that it’ll be great because it will have come from your heart :). God Bless, Tonica

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Get her a nice, but “cool” necklace. Let her know that it is her “special” necklace that will not only let her know that you are always there for her, but will give her strength when she needs it.

Overstock has some great necklaces! For example, you can get a diamond peace symbol necklace for under $30.

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GIRLS DAY OUT! NOTHING SAYS YOUR WORTH IT THAN GIVING YOUR TIME!
Take the girls to lunch, chick flick, manicure… do it together so you get some time for random chit chat. Give them a disposable camera to take pics… Stop by Sam Moon for some accessory shopping… go get a starbucks, etc…
You can go to beauty school for cheap nails, or massage school for cheap massage.

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What about a pedicure with you and your daughter? A letter that tells her how special she is would probably be treasured for years to come. A weekend get-a-way (my mom would rent a local hotel room and we would pretend we were on vacation ..it was great!). Good luck with whatever you decide!

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When I was 14, I would have loved a pretty diary. Maybe you could buy one of those bound books and put a little note to her in the front to get her started. That would be nice and more personal.

Debbie Kimbriel
Grandma to beautiful boys

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I love the Willow Tree figures. They have one for just about everything and they give a little explaination. I don’t know if it is something that she would like, but I know it would have meant a lot to me. Or maybe a Precious Moments figure. Something she could think of you everytime she sees it. James Avery has nice necklaces and such and you can usually find a good value for a good price.

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I have to agree with the diary. I would get her a very special one. They have some great one at Barnes and Noble. Maybe get her a cool pen to go with it. This would be something that she could use over and over. Good luck and you are a great person for caring so much about this little girl! She is very lucky to have you!

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a cross necklace or charm with an inscription on it placed on a bracelet.

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Since you have daughter the same age maybe the 3 of you could go get manicures or pedicures my daughter loved to do that at 14.. Hope this helps.

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A journal or bible.personlize it.

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How about something with her name engraved. Maybe take her to James Avery and have them pull out a few pendants that you select ahead of time (price wise) and ask her to pick, if she likes one. The time you spend doing this with her will be memorable. If she is uninterested in the pendants once she sees them, don’t feel hurt, but just say…"how about we leave here and go get some ‘fill in the blank with a food she likes’. Just an idea for you to stew over… An i-tune gift card is always good for a 14 year old.