Hi Moms,
My 3 year old daughter received a few Barbie dolls from a relative for Christmas (which she doesn't seem too interested in). I'm pretty careful about buying her age-appropriate toys, and although the manufacturer's recommendation is for ages 3 and above, I'm not so sure I feel it's appropriate for my preschooler to be playing with a doll who has big breasts and a boyfriend! I was thinking about just putting them away for future use. What do you think? Am I making too much of this? My husband says to just let her have the dolls!
They are too hard to dress anyways. The style and snap dolls are awesome. Trade the Barbies in;0)
I agree with the hubby. My daughter is 3 and loves to play with her barbies and barbie house. She has never had issues with the boobies or asking about the privates or anything.
I agree with you!! The Disney Princess Barbie style dolls are a great alternative--they look much less sexy and more sweet. I especially like the new Rapunzel doll--very innocent looking. However, I think that 18" dolls are better suited to five and up. I would return them, either way. Plus, it's post-Christmas and the sales are great!
I felt the same way. My daughter probably had a few at that age, but didnt want anything to do with them. Shes almost 6 now and starting to get into them. I wasnt too thrilled though when she got a skanky outfit set for Christmas. She changed her well dressed babysitter Barbie into quite the party girl. :( We might have to lose those soon. ;)
Hi beanie-
I have never been much of a barbie fan...and in fact neither have any of my kids (I have 3 girls...4 boys...now 21 to 14 yo twin girls).
Not to be flip...but for ME...when the manufacturers were ready to let 'Ken' have a 'penis'...THAT was the marker for me to let my kids play 'barbie'...
Call me crazy!
michele/cat
I see nothing wrong with a 3yo playing with Barbie. However, there are much better more appropriate toys/dolls for her to play with at this age. I would put them away for future use.
I have a 3 year old daughter as well. She, too, got lots of Barbie goodies for Christmas. She loves them. I don't see anything wrong with her playing with them.
I think your making too much of a big deal I looked past that & see my girls playing with them also looking past the boobies they are a great doll toy not to big or heavy if it gets lost easy to replace however the small shoes I do recommend either super glue them on or take them off & stash away for future use.My hubby made our girls a huge doll house that I stocked up with Barbie furniture it was a highlight of Christmas morning & they still are interested in,now for Ken he can wait to be added.I never was into Barbies as a child but I will buy them for my girls have beed since they were a year old they don't chew on the hair the small pieces are off & there is nothing wrong with them carrying them around playing right along with them in their daily activites.Glad I have a husband who is encouraging :)
I have a 3 year old as well. I have decided to not get them for her or allow her to have them til she's older. One reason is that I don't want to spend the whole day dressing and undressing them. Also, the hair will get all tangled and messy, and she's too young to comb it...these are some of the reasons that I believe they are designed for older girls.
I was looking at Barbies for a girl we sponsored from church, also 3 yrs, who requested one. All of the dolls were dressed in trendy, short skirts, etc. Even "day care worker" Barbie! What day care worker wears a mini skirt?!
I agree that the larger princess dolls are a little better. And, I feel that there are so many other styles of dolls that are geared for younger girls...
Years ago, kids played with Barbie at much older ages...6-10. I think they are made for girls this age...They only say 3 and up because that means that they may have small pieces which means they are recommended for kids who are AT LEAST 3. The toy companies don't care whether the toys are appropriate for your child...they just want to get you to buy them and cover their butts for liability purposes!
just give her barbie with no ken.....not really a big deal to me
I would let her have it.
You don't HAVE to give her the boyfriend...
Well I don't believe Barbie is appropriate for any child so probably not a 3 year old. There are lots of age appropriate dolls (look at the Waldorf dolls) for both boys and girls. There are many with much more realistic body shapes for when she is a little older. And yes, there is plenty of research that shows girls as young as 4-6 have developed clear ideas about the 'ideal' female body. We don't need to help them along with Barbies.
OK this is kinda long, (sorry) I'll try to keep it as short as I can tho! LoL
My sisters & our friends (Boy & girl) & I LOVED barbies (including ken) from ages 2 to 10ish. Anyways, learning the anatomy of the body isn't a bad thing, every girl grows up to have breasts, so barbie who is not portrayed as a little girl, but as a grown up women doll, has breasts. Also I don't think barbie has large breasts, she just has breasts. If she looked like she had big ol double d's then I'd worry more, but she just looks like she has average, normal size breasts that fit her body. If you learn about your body at an early age you learn not to be embarrassed of your body later. I never really payed attention to her body anyways.
My 9 year old dd plays with barbies & kens & one of the only times she lets her 3 year old little sister & 2 year old brother in her room is when she asks them to play barbies with her. She loves playing barbies with them & they love it too! While I never payed attention to the barbies body's, for the first time my 2 yo son did. The other morning he just got out of the bath tub, he's running around naked for a few min while I dry his 3 yo sis, he goes to his 9 yo's sisters room, he picks up barbie & ken is playing with them, looks down at his pee pee then looks at the ken in his hand then says Mama? Ken is a boy dolly not girl? I said yeah Ken is a boy just like you! Then he looks down again looks up at me then with his arms wide out says where Kens pee pee??? LoL! My 9 year old & I got a good laugh together out of it, LoL. She blurted out it's just in his underwear's like your pee pee goes inside your diaper! His underwear are the same color as him so you can't really see them. He said oooh, yah! Then went on his marry way. :) I probably couldn't come up with much better of an explanation myself LoL Him & my 3 yo will shower with me when I haven't already bathed them so there both always asking questions about my body in comparison to there own body & each others body, so no barbie is going to teach them any body matter I haven't already discussed with them!
As far as the slutty looking clothing, I try to buy the "good dressed" barbies & buy appropriate clothes at garage sales & ebay& CL. A couple times they've had good sales on the "slutty" looking barbies so I bought them, used it a lesson for my kids, they threw the "bad clothes" away & re-dressed them with "good girl" clothes & we say yaay barbie looks so much better now! & every one claps & is happy. :) Oh & barbie & Ken don't have to be bf/gf.. They like to get married when my 9 yo has friends over, when she's playing with the younger kids they are just best friends, brother & sister, mommy & daddy, sometimes they dont' even know eachtoher, one works at a store the other is just a sustomer, LoL. Whatever kid frinedly combo they can come up with is fine with me. I'm always around & over hear everything anyways. My 9yo knows tho that they don't kiss until the man says you are now married you may kiss the bride. But never before that. ;)
K discovered Barbies around 4 and even though I remember playing for hours with my Barbies and how much fun it was I still sat down and felt a moment of sadness because withe the addition of Barbie to the toy cabinet it meant an end to some of the "little girl" play stuff, like Disney princess themed toys and parties. It seems the fashions started turning from the frilly party dresses and fun hairstyles that suddenly I had a young lady on my hands instead. She started liking her clothes more narrow, less frills and fru fru.
I loved playing with Barbie when I was a kid, but I was older than 3 when I did. And when a friend gave my twin daughters Barbies when they were 3 last year, I decided they/I weren't ready for them yet. So I put them away, and I'll pull them out when they're older. I don't think you're making too much of it -- it's up to you to decide what toys/TV shows/books/etc. are appropriate for your child. And just because it says it's OK for kids 3 and above, that probably has more to do with it being a choking hazard for kids under 3 than with it being appropriate for kids who are 3.
-Alleen
My daughters are 5 and 3 and although almost all the Barbie's belong to my 5 year old, my 3 year old plays with them as well. My daughter owns 2 ken dolls but has nothing to do with them. Only likes the girls.
And although, I don't see a 3 year old really playing with Barbie on her own, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Obviously its your decision so if you don't feel right about it, then put them away. All I can say is it brings me great joy when my girls get the Barbies out and play together. Its also fun overhearing the great stories that come from their imaginations.
For example: My 5 year old is in ballet. It just so happens her uncle got her a ballet barbie with a toddler ballet barbie. (It was the series I can be a ballet teacher barbie) She was playing the other day and the ballet teacher brought the student home. The ballet teacher told the mom (another barbie) that she learned some new steps today and why didn't she show them to her mom. So the little girl did the new steps and mom said how good and proud she was. - Anyway point to this is, every day my daughter comes home from dance I ask her if she learned any new moves and or to show me what she practiced today. Its cute that my daughter 'plays' that scenario out with her dolls.
Our 3 year old loves the Barbies she got for Christmas! I played with Barbies when I was younger, and I don't have a skewed idea of what the "ideal" female body is. I believe that every body is a beautiful body. Barbies do not have huge breasts anymore...they scaled them down a while back...now they fit her body much better than thay did when I was younger. I never thought much of her mini skirts or other skimpy clothes....and no...I didn't dress like that...it's kind of hard to clean a barn wearing a mini skirt and heels...lol. I don't think I would have dressed like that even if I didn't grow up doing farm chores. Our little one doesn't have a Ken yet, but we do plan on getting her the Ken from Toy Story 3 since she already has Barbie, Woody, Jessie, and Buzz. Kids don't learn what is or is not appropriate from Barbie and Ken, they learn from Mom and Dad (or, in some cases, a different adult roll model).
My 3 year old loves barbies! She started off playing with them at Grandma's house and then got a barbie car and 2 barbies for Christmas. She loves the car more than the barbies, but she still likes me dress up her dolls, and especially loves the roller skates they came with. :) Just let her enjoy if she wants to. My oldest daughter was never interested in them and would rather have always played with stuffed animals, so it didn't matter. If she's not really interested in them anyway, I'd give them another year or so.