Hi Moms,
Here’s my issue: my husband is active duty AF and that REALLY bothers his dad. He doesn’t understand why my hubby went into the AF in the first place because then they can’t see his every day, any time they want to. My hubby and I met while I was also active duty AF. His dad wasn’t happy when we got married because he said it happened too quickly (we met in March of 04, engaged in Aug. of 04 and married in Sept. 04). Anyway, since then we’ve had a daughter and I’m pregnant with our second little girl, due in January. When we found out we were pregnant again he said we should have waited because having the girls only 2 years apart was too soon. Also, we’ve just recently been reassigned to Moody AFB, which I thought his dad would be happy about because it’s only like a 12 hour drive from TX (where his dad lives) and here. But, nevertheless, he’s still not happy. That’s not close enough for him. He wants us in his back pocket and I DON’T want to be anywhere near him because he SMOTHERS us! We’ve also just bought our first house and we’re due to close on it on the 17th of October. He’s not happy about that either because we didn’t buy an older house for our first home. We bought a brand new one and he thinks we won’t get our money back out of it when we go to sell it. Anyway, long story short, anytime we have something good and exciting happen to our family, he takes it as a personal attack on him and gets his nose all bent out of shape. My husband’s brother isn’t any help in that area either because he’s SUPER jealous of the children and nice things we have. He and his wife have been married for 3 years and can’t get pregnant. They don’t live in the nicest of houses and they don’t have the greatest of jobs, so they sit around with his dad and talk non-stop about mine and the hubby’s finances, whether or not we’re raising our child right, etc…So, have any of you dealt with this kind of thing before? I’m at my wits end here and I need to know how to approach my FIL to explain my feelings to him, without putting my husband in an akward position, because despite all this, he loves his dad more than his dad deserves. Any advise is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!