Difinitely go for parent/teacher conference. Also ask for the conselor to be available for the meeting. Remind your daughter that a true friend would not treat her in this way & that maybe it's time to seek other friends. This classmate sounds as if she only wants to be friends when her other friends aren't available. It's time to step in & be your daughters friend as well as her mother. Peer pressure is so hard on children these days.
Your daughter is entering the worst years in school, in my opinion-Middle school. Boys and girls at this age can be so mean and hateful that it can affect their "victims" for life. I would encourage your daughter to seek out new friends and to affirm her good behavior. You must have a good relationship with her if she feels comfortable talking to you about this. I know it's hard, but if you can encourage her to befriend a "new" kid or another group of friends who have like values ( such as friends in a church youth group)and to see that what the "former" friend was doing is wrong, she may be able to ride this storm. I would also tell her that people who put other people down don't have very good opinions about themselves. They put others down to make themselves feel superior. Your daughter will be stronger for it if she can remember this and not question her own worth. I went through a similar incident with one of my sons. Today as a grown man he is kind and self confident. Sincerely, Peggy B
Thank you all so much! This is the first time I have made a request and I have to say it is so nice to have a support system of other moms who wish us the best!!! I feel so lucky you all responded. Thank you for the great advice and time you took to help me with this. I spkoe with the teachr yesterday and she was very concerned and was a good listener. She said she will keep an eye on the situation and also make the guidance counselor aware of the issue. She told my daughter if anything came up she could talk to her or go straight to talk with the counselor. Without giving me any specific info the teacher told me she would like to see my daughter make new friends with the other girls in class and led me to believe this is just the other girls way and my daughter is much better off without her. So, I told Maddie she would just have to trust me this time and politely distance herself from this girl. No call to be ugly back, but just be done with the relationship and if there was any fallout from it then I would handle it from there. Maddie seemed to feel better that she could go to the teacher and that she had a solution. Thanks again!!!