Instant death seems good to me.
Perhaps a bit impulsive, but no more impulsive than a 14 year old sneaking out of the house and walking 45 minutes to stay out all night making out with a girl.
Here’s the thing…nothing good happens after midnight. Not really. Not when you’re 14 and God forbid something had happened to you without your parents even knowing you were gone.
I’d be so pissed on so many levels.
My son is 17 and luckily for him, he’s never tried anything that stupid. That’s the reason I can trust him. Also, luckily for him, his older sister did some pretty stupid things and he knew exactly what he was in for if HE ever tried it. He preferred making life easy on himself.
You can’t forbid your son to like a girl. However, girl or no girl, he needs to realize how utterly dangerous and completely stupid what he did was. He may be starting to feel that he’s “grown up”, but this clearly shows that he’s not.
I also think you should ask your son if, at 14, he is ready to be a father. Is he in any position to financially support a child? I have always told my son that I don’t care what a girl tells him about being on birth control (and as a matter of fact not to believe her), I don’t care how many condoms he has. There is only one form of birth control that is 100% effective.
Sex = babies.
If you aren’t prepared to parent a child in all aspects, ESPECIALLY as a teenager still in school with no job, you aren’t prepared to vodey-oh-doh.
It’s that simple.
They weren’t really doing anything inappropriate? I would say BULLCRAP!
The whole damn thing was inappropriate, and if they weren’t doing anything, then why were they sneaking around in the middle of the night to do it?
This mistake doesn’t have to be the end of his life, but he does need to know how serious it is so that he doesn’t attempt it again. Not for any girl, not for any reason. Period. I don’t think I would take him off the basketball team unless it’s impossible for you or other family members to be there to make sure that’s really where he’s at and can’t sneak off. That is where he’s going to have to rebuild your trust…actually being where he says he’s going to be, including his OWN BED in the middle of the night.
Your son is obviously too immature to think beforehand about the possible consequences for his actions so as his parents, you and dad have to keep a tight reign on him for a while. He may not like it, he may not think it’s fair, but he’s 14 ffs. Aside from school and basketball, it’s not like he will die without a “social” life for a while.
This is all just my opinion, of course, but I really can’t blame you for being so upset.