If your daughter's hair is long enough to braid, braid it at night and it should resolve the problem...
The braiding suggestions are good. Also try the California Baby line of products. I have a 2 year old with hair that tangles easily and these really work for us. We use the conditioner each night after shampooing and then I comb through her hair with the detangler. The condition can even be left in for really tough tangles or extra dry days. Sometimes in the morning I put a little conditioner in her hair before brushing it if it is really bad.
These are all great ideas. You didn't say if you were using a conditioner after shampooing, that will help. Also a ponytail at night with a soft scrunchy is good (no real rubber bands).
I have a 9 year old daughter and we would go through the same exact thing. She would cry because of all the tangles. She finally decided that she wanted to cut her hair so it wouldn't tangle as much. She wanted to get one of those sleek bobs that everyone is getting, so I took her to a real good hairdresser. (I opted out of the $7 cuts just this once). He told her that the reason that her hair gets that tangled and matted was because it was so dry. He said the sun, swimming, ect... causes hair to dry. So she got the prettiest bob and I switched her over to the shampoo that I use..Arbonne..and her hair looks and feels much healthier.I am an Arbonne consultant and have discounts for mamasource members in the member perks area if you would like to give it a try. We have a 45 day, no questions asked money back guarentee. All the products are botanically based and so beneficial for everyone. You can go to my website for more information: www.corissabell.myarbonne.com or please feel free to contact me directly, I would love to talk to you and see if I could help. Hope to hear from you soon.
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I brush my daughter's hair before bed and put it in a bun or a braid. That makes the mornings easier. I also switched to a grown-up hair conditioner--the kiddo ones weren't working. Godd luck!
My youngest has the same problem. I feel your daughter's pain. My daughter would cry at the barbershop so I had to trim her hair at times or bring her in with no tangles before a haircut. I kept my daughter's hair shorter than shoulder length until she was willing to take care of it on her own. I also bought her a special, very soft brush that she picked out at the beauty supply shop. Those kiddy products didn't work for us either. She began using her older sister's hair products that promises to keep your hair super shiny, straight, and protect against heat. These adult ones are much better at controlling knots. But the biggest help was when my daughter began to get old enough to want long hair. She is now 11 and has beautiful, long hair. She has been growing it out and taking care of it for about a year. All is well now. She still has a very sensitive scalp. Good luck.
Hi Sheri, I think you and I have the same daughter. Mine is nine and tenderheaded too. She does not want me to brush her hair at all because it hurts (too many tangles). What I have found to work best is use John Frieda Collection shampoo and conditioner. The conditioner is awesome! It makes her hair silky smooth and super easy to comb through. My daughter is a swimmer; therefore, the chlorine makes her hair brittle, but this conditioner I mentioned brings it all back. I call it the miricle conditioner. To help the tangle matter, I braid her hair for school becuase the girls play on the parallel bars and braids keep the dirt and mulch out. I just figure this is a faze she is going through and the braids won't stay in forever. For now, it's fun. We are getting creative with braids. Contact me if you have any other questions or concerns about hair. Blessings to you! Deborah
Oh yes, in the morning, if tangles are too bad and no time for a bath, I have on hand a spritz bottle with water and my miricle conditioner mixed together. I spritz the tangled area and viola!......combs right through. Have a good day.
Braid her hair. Learn how to french braid. It will also give her hair a beautiful wave.
Hi Sheri,
Try having her sleep on a satin pillow case. It works a little bit for my 4 yr old. Not a huge difference, but definately a noticeable difference. Hope it works! Good Luck!
Is her hair long or short, thick or thin, curley or straight? You didn't say. Call a professional hair dresser and find out if there's any other products you can try. What would happen if she tried sleeping in a sleep bonnet? If it's long, could she put it either in a high pony tail or part it into two side pig-tails for sleeping. When you brush, do you start at the bottom or at the scalp. Always start at the ends. And whoever heard of not brushing EVERY DAY. Of course if she skips a day it'll be a mess. At her age she's old enough to take daily care of her hair. That's a given, especially with girls who want to have pretty hair.
I have the same problem with my daughter. I have found a product called CHI, you get it from the salon. Just put a little bit of it in her hair everyday, and it works really great.
We also use a CHI product - you can buy it in the grocery store as well as the salon. The one we use is called Silk Infusion. It is about $12 for a small bottle but you only use a dab.
Sheri,
In addition to a leave-in conditioner, someone recomended a satin pillowcase. It's made a significant difference, especially when we actually remember to spray her hair before bed.
Best of luck!
Melissa
Hi Sheri,
Have you tried Biosilk Silk Therapy? I am also very tender headed with tangly hair, and I put about a dime-size amount on my hair after I get out of the shower and before I try to brush or comb it out. It really helps...and adds a nice shine too. I hope this helps!
Lindsay
Try using baby oil. Hope this works.
Good Luck.
Rosie
I have a friend with the same problem. She uses Mane & Tail conditioner at the base of her neck and leaves it in - no more matting. You can buy it at Walgreens in the shampoo aisle or for a little less at Wal-mart in the pet department :-). It's $6 to $8 for 32 oz., depending where you buy it. Smaller sizes are available.
Good luck.
i have waist length curly tangly hair, and i hate brushing my hair, i hate to say some days i do not brush it because it hurts so much, i tie it back instead lol - so i know what your daughter is going through.
there is only one way i can brush my hair easily without hurting me - this is what i do.
i get in the shower, wash my hair, then apply a very high quality conditioner, paying particular attention to the bad spot at the nape of the neck, i leave this on while i wash the bits that matter and shave my legs etc.
then i take a high quality paddle brush (kent or similar brand, the wide square type) and i stand under the water, i brush my hair through while i am standing under the water and the water almost magically helps get out the tangles.
when i have to brush my hair during the day when it is dry, i can use a high quality hogs hair brush, and this doesnt hurt too much.
you have to have the right equipment - i have had my hair brushes years - my kent brush cost around $15, and my hog hair brush the same, but they last for ever
Hi Sheri,
I am a hairstylist and see this alot. Especially little girls that want to brush their own hair, (and only brush the top layer and only to their shoulders). At night have you tried to maybe braid it in a low braid so in the morning it is easier to brush through? The nape of the neck from moving it about the day is one of the most common and worst places to get tangles. You can make sure when you wash it to condition it very well, dry hair, and clorinated hair tends to tangle worse. I hate to say it but it is very hard to get rid of tangles completely, will she wear it up in ponytails, or have you thought of cutting it shoulder length. That would eliminate most of the tangles and make it easier to take care of.
good luck
Christine
I had problems with my curly, tangly hair from the time I was very small. I vividly remember yelling, "Ouch!" as my mother brushed my hair into ponytails. After many years and many tears, here are some things that helped me (and now my daughter):
- Use a paddle brush on the curls, and brush it a MINIMUM of twice a day (morning and evening).
- Try a salon quality detangler that is NOT a spray, such as Paul Mitchell's "The Detangler" or Biolage's "Detangling Solution."
- You may need to wash and detangle it every day. If I go longer than that and try to skip a day, I pay for it later. My daughter can go a day or two if need be.
- Consider braiding it before she goes to bed at night. It worked for the women living on the prairie in past times, and it works for my daughter! (Mine just turned 3, so I have to braid while she wiggles and moves!) I keep mine in a ponytail of sorts while I sleep to help minimize tangles and to keep it out of my face.
- We do a lot of ponytails, a lot of braids, and before my daughter had enough hair for that, a lot of barrettes and bows.
I hope that helps.
Just cut her hair very short hair very short