The only thing I can tell you is that your daughter should be your main focus and if you want to be in an abusive relationship that's your business, but she doesn't have a choice and should't have to be in that situation. You can't even imagine the type of damage are letting happen to your daughter. As prior law enforcement I saw almost daily women in those type of relationships and they grew up with abusive (verbally OR physically) themselves. You are teaching her how to let people treat her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So if you want you daughter to grow up and marry a man that treats her like your husband treats you then stay with him. If you think she desearves more...get a job and move on!
This may seem harsh or dramatic...but I am sure it's fact!
Only you can make that choice..I would say pray and think about her!
Run... dont walk. It only progresses to physical abuse. Glad to see you have your family to back you up. Talk to them ahead of time to plan things. And, take anything you cant live without like pictures and such, just pack them in an extra bag. Clothing and such can be replaced. Protect that little girl unless you want to see her marry a man just like you did.. and end up in another cycle of abuse. Also, if you can, get her into counseling as soon as possible. Good luck and may God be with you both.
Also, if he is in the military, you will be entitled to some benifits, so take advantage of it, get an education for yourself where you never have to depend on a man again. Then you will find a wonderful man who loves you for all of what you are, a wonderful caring woman with a lot to offer.
I don't know if this is necessarily helpful, but I feel for you and your situation. I am in the process of leaving my marriage - for different issues than you're dealing with - and it has been a horrible, sickening decision. I know it's the right thing for my boys and myself; I know it could actually help my husband deal with his psychological issues. That being said, I love the guy and I hate to see him hurt despite all the hurt he has caused me. It sounds like your situation is much more serious than mine, so your decision is probably exponentially more difficult, but we are doing a separation at this time, rather than totally calling it quits. We live in Oklahoma now, so my hope and prayer is that leaving with my 2 sons to be in the KC area with my family will be the wake-up call my husband needs to get his act together. Maybe the same could work for you?? Good luck to you - you and your daughter are in my thoughts. Rebecca
I want to thank everyone who wrote me with advice and what they have been through. There were so many questions asked. I was up all night thinking about everything and praying and asking GOD what should I do. I am scared because I don’t have a job. My family lives in Virginia. I know if I were to ask for help to get home they would all help me anyway they can. I guess the first step is always the hardest. My little girl has her 5th birthday on the 14th and we are suppose to travel to Virginia on the 18th. I think when we get ready to leave from there, I am going to tell him I don’t want to come back here. I know he won’t do anything to me while I am around my family and it will be a safe start for me and my little girl. I will keep you updated on how things are. Thanks again for everything. It is always G. to have someone to tell you they are/have been through the same thing. Thanks, Barb