Thank You so much to every one of your responses. Ive had so much input, which is nice, if one thing doesnt work I can try another. And I have already begun checking out flylady.net.
The boyfriend and I talked AGAIN about this. I really stressed how he equally contributes to the mess, so he needs to equally help clean it up. I let him know how pathetic it was our daughter knows where the hamper is, but he doesnt! He agreed that I shouldn’t be responsible for all the housework AND keeping track of her. We decided on a few set duties for the both of us, and some other things that we are both responsible for daily. Lets Hope it Sticks!
Today I cleaned and organized our JUNK drawer, I even have plans for this weekend to clean out closets! Ive also found that my TV is on WAAAAY too much for a 2 1/2 year old, and with it off we have been playing a lot more with the toys that were just part of the mess before.
Thank You again to everybody, hopefully my dilemma has offered advice to others with the same problem!