Please, PLEASE don't let your in-laws/parents/relatives/ANYONE take away from this incredible, joyous time! If YOU are happy about #4 - who cares what anyone else thinks? It's not like they financially support you! That would be the ONLY reason I could think of for someone to be upset about a couple bringing more children into the world - is if they were taking care of the bills. This is not the case. I would just celebrate the new life you are carrying right now, and let all the other crap go! It's not fun when you have family that makes you feel like you're doing something wrong when in reality you are doing something amazing and wonderful - but don't let them spoil your good fortune!! Let it go! They are not worth all the energy you are wasting by worrying about their response. Congratulations!!!
Congratulations! That's what should be said to an expectant parent, whether it be number 1, 4, 10 or whatever. Particularly from the grandparents. Share your happy news in a happy way. If they hurt your feelings by being negative about it, share that with them, too. You don't owe anyone any explanations. Be happy!
Congrats on the little one! I know it can be hard when there is not much support but you are a good mom from what I can tell and the businesses support your family so I don't see a problem with any of it. Tell them its your life and your child and while its a surprise you are happy to grow your family and hope your business is just as lucrative :) as for the husband if he is getting snipped make the appointment. Its something you guys agreed on so it should be done.
I have three of my own. One of my friends said that it was easier for have even numbered children. They will always have a buddy to do something with, and never will one child be left out.
After baby number 2, I was finished, went in to have my IUD, and there was my "HELLO baby" There is always one child left out, and at times I often wonder what my friend said was true. It is easier to have even numbered children.
Maybe that could be one angle to share with the parents. :-)
Congrats again.
I'm a little tardy in responding but I wanted to tell you my story. I was pregnant with only my 2nd child and I wouldn't let my husband tell his family for months. Every time the subject of another baby had come up, my in-law's were always very negative about it so I was afraid to tell them. It's our life, not theirs but I was afraid at how they would react. When I finally let my husband tell them, they were thrilled. My 2nd, was the 7th grandchild and they were as excited out him as they were the first. All my worries were for nothing. Yours may be too.
About working...I say if you want to work, you should. As mom's many of us tend to put everyone and everything ahead of ourselves (myself included). If working makes you happy, by all means work. You need to be happy and healthy to take care of your family. I personally, would not be happy being a SAHM. I love my kids to death but I need to have a life of my own outside the house.
Families are great and we love them and they love us but sometimes, they need to worry a little more about themselves and less about us. Do what makes you, your husband and kids happy. Congrats on the baby...I would have another if I was younger...and would tell the in-laws straight away. :-)
Well, we now know the sex of the baby…it’s another girl. But, hubby still hasn’t told his parents. Starting to get a little more difficult hiding the belly though. As for even numbers of kids, I’ve heard that before too. But, our fourth will be more like a third in that respect. Our oldest is 12, then a 4 & 2yo. So, the 12yo is beyond the point where one of them is or would be her buddy. So, the other 3 will still be in that middle child syndrome I think. Not sure how all that will play out, but we’ll see. Hopefully hubby tells his parents soon though.
Hubby finally told his parents when I was over 6 months along. Due next month now.