Your the only mom your child has. Do what is right for her.
You are NOT overreacting.
She needs to deal with her problems and not take care of children right now. You need to find someone else to take care of your child.
Do the right thing, Mama~
Dawn
You need to be able to trust your child’s caregiver. If you don’t currently feel that this woman is providing a safe environment for her, then making other arrangements is definitely the best thing to do. See if you can offer to help her through whatever her personal struggles are. Make it clear that you still value your friendship and want the girls to stay friends as well. Just say that, right now, you feel she needs to focus more on whatever it is she’s dealing with and that you’re going to take the burden of watching your daughter off her shoulders for awhile.
I am going to 70yo in June and I have 8 children, 19 grandchildren and 10 great-grandchildrendren. When I was raising my children, it would have been fine for a first grader to go up the street with her friend because all the people in the neighborhood knew each other and DHS wasn’t even heard of. But in this day and age I would not let a child of mine go ANYWHERE I didn’t know the parents unless they were supervised by an adult I did know and knew they would be AWARE of exactly what was going on at all times my child was in their care. I believe you are are very wise to find another baby-sitter. Or maybe you aught to consider a job that you wouldn’t have to leave your child ANYWHERE. I have been a Professional Recruiter for AVON and it is a perfect job for a conscienceous Mom like you. It only costs $10.00 to get started and there are people who DO make 6 figure incomes in AVON within 2 years time if you follow the advise and instructions of a GOOD MENTOR! Go to my website Avon | Shop Skin, Makeup, Bath & Body, Fragrances and more!.
It is so hard because I care about this friend deeply but she really seems to be struggling. For example, she watches another child who is three. She picks this little girl up at her preschool. My friend told me she feels badly because “she took some pain pills for a bad period and fell asleep and did not pick the little girl up at her school.” I was somewhat alarmed but gave her the benefit of the doubt that it was an isolated bad choice. Also, my friend has vented to me about all sorts of serious problems happening at
this house. I am just so puzzled why she would have our kids there without her.
Thanks Mamas for your feedback. I have made other arrangements for my daughter. I tried framing it to my friend that she is more laid back on things that I am a safety freak about and that I thought we should no longer stress our friendship with adding daycare to it. I thanked her for the fun times my daughter had there and said I hope we can be friends.