Miscarriage is not your fault, never your fault! You poor thing, I really feel for you. Your body is still pulsing with hormones and you've just suffered a terrible loss so crying and feeling so horrible are completely normal, not an overreaction at all. Can you speak to your family doctor and get some grief counselling? Or try at the hospital post-partum clinics as they usually have lots of grief programs. Please don't blame yourself, though - you did nothing wrong. My thoughts are with you.
I am sorry for your loss. Life is very difficult. A good way to deal with this is to take a look around you and try to notice if other people are sad or hurting. Think of some random act of kindness that you can do for someone else. It could be a very small thing like a smile, a kind word, a compliment, or a favor.
It is okay to be sad for awhile. Please don't sink into self-pity; it is very addicting. Reach out to others who are in pain. You are loved; share the love.
You did NOTHING, NOTHING wrong. You need some counseling to let you know that you are loved and that you did NOT ONE THING WRONG. Please go to counseling - it will do you a world of good - it did me. If you would like a name of a counselor I would be happy to supply a couple.
Nadyne
You are so not alone. I have been there myself, and I have to tell you that it does get easier. One day at a time. Have you said goodbye to the baby? Sometimes a ritual of some sort, a funeral, letter, or something of that sort helps with the closure. Let your tears wash away the pain. You will never forget, but the pain gets easier to bear with time. Take care of yourself, treat yourself, pamper yourself as you heal. Big hugs.
Professional help is probably the best thing you can do for yourself right now.
I know just how you feel. The second time this happened to me I just stopped talking. I isolated myself and saw no one except our goats and chickens. I sent my children to off with their father and stayed all by myself not speaking at all. After two weeks a friend came out to see me asking if I would come out and I felt healed enough to do so.
Loss of a baby that is already moving inside you and you feel the connection to the soul is a deep cut.
It's the soul you miss. Sometimes they come back to you in a subsequent pregnancy. Mine came as a grandchild many years later.
I want to thank you all so much for your words of support. Im not being hard on my boyfriend at all, i know he’s hurt, he was very excited. The night after we got back from the hospital we just sat and held eachother and cried, ive never seen him cry like that. i know he’s hurt about it. ive started a journal…so i can get my feelings out. I knew I had to find a way to get my feelings out when my boyfriend started hiding my pain killers because he was afraid i would hurt myself., i never really had any support from any one in my family so i dont have many people to talk to. But ive been feeling a little better…I only started crying 3 times today. I feel a little bad, im so sorry for everyone else who has gone through this. I never really understood when i would hear about women that this had happened too, but now i so do. And im so sorry for everyone. I couldnt imagine going through mulitiple miscarriages, i might loose it. But thank you all so much. it made me feel better reading these responses.