It will always cost someone SOMETHING. Maybe not the cheater. Maybe the cheated on. Someone is ALWAYS ruined. Anyone who cheats is despicable. I don't care if it works out for THEM, it doesn't work out for someone else. I would never in a million years associate with a cheater. I would never respect them. I would never trust them in any way. I would think they are a loser. (And, they are.)
I think people who cheat deserve to get cheated on, so they know the destruction. It makes me sick there are people who cheat and go on to be happy with the people they had an affair with. They ruined someone else, and they are happy? Happiness is not something they deserve.
You said "she's in a Mommy rut" which obviously means she has kids. If she doesnt understand what you are saying to her now, maybe show her a picture of her kid(s) and ask her how she thinks they would feel about it or how it will affect them, not if but when the cat is out of the bag
Ugggg, cheaters are just nasty, selfish people
I've never known anyone who got away with it. The only ones I saw work out were agreed upon by both spouses for various reasons...husband was impotent and wanted wife to be happy sexually, both spouses were bi and didn't have hang-ups about monogamy, wife had low libido due to medication and allowed husband to have a little on the side once in a while so he wouldn't go crazy...
But she's playing with fire, and probably won't listen to you. I suggest that you suggest to her that she open up to her husband about her unhappiness and see if he would let her have a little fling to get it out of her system. If she balks at that, then I suggest you stay very far away from her over the next few months and don't get caught up in the drama that is about to ensue.
No. Might have THOUGHT about it. But looked at my daughters and my wife and thought better of it.
I would hope that if she were my wife? She would turn that energy on me. Every marriage gets in a rut. My wife and I had a rut - maybe both flirted with the idea of someone else - so we talked - it was a hard talk to hear my wife wasn't 'happy'. But we decided flirt with each other again. I would text her during the day - something a tad inappropriate :) and then make time after the kids went to bed to make out like high schoolers again.
We have been married 16 years and not all of them easy.