I usually like vacations. I love road trips and seeing new places. I can plan a fun 3-5 day trip on very little money and can make the best of it. Since I had kids though I have to admit I would rather stay at home. By the end of the "vacation" I need another "vacation" just to relax. After running around with 2 kids for 3 days, getting them in and out of carseats, dealing with other baggage that I need for them I am usually tired, cranky, and generally just to not want to be around people any more. Until they are older I think we will stem the ideas of vacations and just do stuff around town.
I would ask him WHY he doesn't like trips of more than 20 minutes. My wife and I just finished a trip to her mom for the 4th. We left after work on Friday, drove 8+ hours and left Monday around 5 pm and drove for 8+ hours home.
To me, if he will watch an entire TV program or go to a movie and sit through the entire move, then the problem is psychological. Ask why to find the answer. Once you have the answer you can work for a solution.
Good luck to you and yours.
My husband and I have been together for 4 years and I don't think we have had a full weeks "vacation". The 2 "big" trips we went on were paid for by his company because he qualified for them and they were both only 4 days long. Which is nice because its free but I would love a "real" vacation like 2 week or so in Hawaii. We didn't even take a honeymoon. Mostly because we are a blended family its hard to get people to take our kids for more than a weekend. And money too is a factor since both of us are commission only biz owners. So we would "love" to take a vacation but it never seems to work out. We do go on weekend trips tho. We both LOVE long car drives and will go to Sedona for a weekend or Flagstaff (both a few hours away) or even Cali which is about 6 hours. A big part of being married is being able to compromise. It really isn't realistic to think its ok that you just never go on vacation or leave town. Its not realistic to think that you will take a long weekend every month either. You just need to sit down with him and tell him you need to do something. Those times together are what the kids remember. Its important for "family time". I hope you guys can work it out! Good luck!
There are different types of vacations. Some times I want to travel and see the country from the car window and take side roads, and get out at the vista points and look over the rock wall and see the mountains, then get back in the car and go a few more miles. I dont even have to have a special ending place, just GET OUT AND GO!
Then sometimes I have a destination in mind and hate the hours on the road, dont want to have a lay over, dont want to spend all that time driving, I JUST WANT TO BE THERE!
It all depends on which vacation it is. We rarely go on vacations. We have taken a few in the 37 years, but for the most part its been weekends and thats it. he takes more trips than I do just to go golf. Id say about 10 times a year he has a 3 or 4 day trip with his buddies for golf and I stay home. He also works out of town a lot so he isnt real anxious to pack another suitcase and stay in another hotel. Ive gone on a couple business trips with him and I loved staying in the hotel while he was at all day meetings. I dont drive in strange places so I am in the room most of the day and love it. I take my sewing machine and projects to work on. I have the tv, phone, fridge, microwave, and a comfy bed. I even like the cleaning staff who come in every day! yes I know its odd, but thats me. Those were a few of my favorite and best vacations ever.
We all love trips, day trips, long weekends, or longer (but we usually can't afford to stay real long or go too far.) But my husband loves to go, and I love to pack! Weird, I know! And of course my son loves to go! So we're all on the same page.
Candice, I was being sarcastic… and he HATES ice cream, LOL! 