For me, I wouldn’t allow my daughter to wear a bikini til she’s 15…a more appropriate age IMO. I’d allow mine wear a tankini til then but that’s just me. Some people don’t care what their kids wear, I do. 
I see no problem with her wearing a 2 piece bathing suit. All the other judgy moms can go suck it Wow their kids suits cover 4 more inches of skin on that shameful tummy area.
other moms be danged. if your daughter is comfortable in it, and it doesn’t violate any sort of family philosophy guidelines, let them judge.
ETA many flowers to KBell!
khairete
suz
the amazing moms that Judge your parenting are helping to perpetrate what all moms would love to see go away. females to each other females to be judgmental and witchy. so as long as vital parts are covered and your daughter is comfortable in her skin let her be who she is.
The only time a bikini is a problem is if it isn’t covering properly, or if the person wearing it is overweight. It sounds fine on your daughter…I would love to wear a bikini again…
My dd is still young, but she’s a high level gymnast and has a totally ripped body even at her age. She wears a bikini with no problem and it looks wonderful on her. She hasn’t really developed yet, so it’s an easy decision for us, but even when she gets older and bigger, same thing applies.
You might look at what KIND of bikini she is in. For example, I have a cousin who allows her 8 yr old to wear them. That in itself is not what makes me cringe. What makes me cringe is that it’s a stringy bikini. There are revealing bikinis and not so revealing ones. I would take a moment to be objective as to how revealing the suit is vs just does she look good and is approved of by friends. Thirteen year old girls are not the most objective people on the planet. My SD found out the hard way that I had a point in telling her to wear a more sturdy suit while tubing on the lake several years back.
There are also various levels of tankini, too. You might suggest to your DD that she wear a shorter one (shows more stomach) or a speedo type top as a middle ground between the suit she had on and the suits her friends wear. If you feel judged, ask yourself why. Did they say something? Are they a conservative group? Sometimes you dress for the audience and save other outfits (or swimsuits) for other times. It sounds like she’ll be swimming with them frequently, so it’s something I would consider re-evaluating.
IMO, it has nothing to do with weight, but conservative vs not.
Hi, Kristy:
Today every one is so concerned with showing skin. Don’t forget, boys get turned on by seeing nakedness of a girl’s body.
When we worked in the fields, the men took off their shirts, wore boots and shorts. Women wore dresses or shorts. We didn’t go out in public displaying our skin.
Where is our common decency now-a-days.
Personally, I don’t want to see a 13 year old in a bikini or anyone else as a matter of fact.
Good luck.
Donna
“Ifelt judged by the other moms”…they’re probably pea green with envy!
I am happy to know that you have respected your daughter’s choice…the fact that some people think that not-so-covered girls will be eyed by others as ‘objects’: it is because of our patriarchal values. This debate is quiet old one and persists across the world. In some nations women not wearing ‘Burqa’ or Head Scarfs are considered immodest/‘objects of lust’, in some nations one who shows legs and does not wear skirt touching toes in considered immodest.women/girls riding bicycles are also considered .bad in some places…here it is the issue of bikini: what ever is the boundary line, there is always someone else who defines it girls and women. Media too is interested in demonstrating which woman celerity bared what part of her body: No one though defines modesty for men. the more a society is insistent on cover up, the more exited its people are to see what is beneath…the more will be the premium on revealing…when we will all stop being obsessed about women’s bodies…there will be no pressure to reveal or to cover: our girls will automatically learn to respect themselves as persons …
Secondly, men and women are both interested in each other as opposite sex but we have socialized women to control their interests and manifest them only when appropriate, we have not taught men and boys the same: it high time we teach our boys the lessons of control rather than asking our girls to be conditioned by how boys/men or for that matter other women see them.
If your daughter is happy with her swimsuit, that’s what matters. If the other moms want to to judge your parenting/morals/character by your daughter’s swimsuit, fuck them and the high horse they rode in on.
I talked to my daughter. She told me she is confident in what she was wearing. Her friends told her he looked good and she was happy, thata all that matters. Thanks for all the responses! I do wanna say that a mom said it was innaproperate for my daughter to wear a bikinni and i dont think so. she only weighs 75 pounds and i think its ok to wear one. Btw showing you body is acceptible in my house anyways thanks!!!