Yeah, your jealous!
~How about instead of focusing on 'them' having the girl and not you, why don't you focus on being the best Auntie ever who gets to buy all the cool girl stuff (even the stuff the parents don't want her to have--hee-hee :) and try to make it fun, not miserable!
I would say you're envious a bit. It's normal. I have three daughters and either way would love another baby but it's not in the cards. I'm a bit envious over my SIL's 1 year old son and that I know eventually they'll have another baby. I'm excited that my brother and his wife are having their first baby in August, a little girl, and she's my goddaughter, but I'm a bit envious of them too. It's okay though.
It's okay because I'm grateful for the children I have, and I love them. I wouldn't trade them for anything. If I never have another baby, and I probably won't due to health issues and finances, I'll be fine with that but it's taken a long time to get there. I'll probably always feels the twinges until I decide on a permanent birth control.
ANY baby in my opinion is a blessing, boy or girl.... I think you might want to focus on being happy for your SIL ..afterall, it does mean a new cousin for your kids and hey, is that so bad... Also, it's only a competition if you make it one.... The idea of her having a girl is a problem because right now, you can't top it.. unless of course you have one yourself... in other words, why bother with the things you can't change.. focus on what you can.. be happy.. you have two lovely boys and what sounds like a loving family.. to me.... you definitely have it good... what's not to like about a family who can't wait for a baby to arrive....
Yes. You sound jealous.
I think you need to be honest with yourself, acknowledge the jealous feelings and move on!
When I was pregnant the second time around (we didn't know what we were having either time), I thought it would be fun to have a little girl, since we already had a boy. In fact, I think I really wanted a girl the first time! It was partly due to the fact that my parents already had two grandsons, and I know they wanted a granddaughter--I heard it a lot from my mom the second time around. Well, I ended up having a boy again, and I was actually fairly relieved. I've been raising a boy already, so I know what to expect (most of the time) the second time around. I wouldn't trade my two beautiful boys for anything in the world! And, I get to buy all the pink frilly things for my family members and friends who have little girls. ;)
Oh my gosh ~ you need to adopt a baby girl. I can tell you desperately want one from all of your posts. There is no promise you'll have one while having sex a certain way will give you one & rightfully so, you feel a bit upset that your sister-in-law is having one. Trust me I know ~ I tried for 4 years to have another baby (I did get pregnant) & both of my sisters-in-law got pregnant by mistake. I also was looking at all these other people getting pregnant that didn't even WANT a baby. I'm sure I felt the same feelings you're feeling right now about your sister-in-law.
Sound like you are really jealous. It's a natural feeling, but if you let it show, you'll be jealous AND mean. You'll have to get over it somehow. Brainstorm!
That's normal. I semi compete with mine, for no reason. It sounds like she is your husbands sister... You can't compete with a mom and her daughter. Let yours fuss. Also me and my sil discovered that her parents triggered some of the resentment. They would tell us everything they did was the best, and vice versa. It helped knowing that
I have a friend who has had difficuly conceiving and I have 2, and I know she is resentful, jealous, depressed over it. She has never said that but it's obvious. So I would be conscious over how you are in front of them so they aren't aware of your feelings. You could spin it and tell her you are happy for her but at the same time very jealous, envious. It might bring you closer.
If it's really important to you, then you could look into gender selection. Keep trying, and if you have another boy call Them my three sons... : )