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Please Promise Not to Use Your Cell Phone While Driving

by Karen B. Jones
Photo by: Jim Legans

I’m talking about Moms who are so careful about their kids. They baby-proof their homes until there’s nary a sharp corner or exposed outlet to be found. They pull all the strings out of their kids jackets and hoodies. They cut everything the child eats into quarter inch pieces to avoid any possible choking hazards. They never let anyone post pictures of their kids online for fear that a child molester might see it and somehow track them down. They carry disinfecting wipes and gels everywhere to sanitize the child every time they touch something that may be contaminated. They shop around for just the right, highest safety-rated child safety seat for the car, no matter how expensive. They agonize over whether or not to immunize their kids and fret over every illness or injury they acquire.

And yet, these same mothers think nothing of driving around town while using their cell phones. Do any of them really understand the danger they’re putting themselves, their kids, and anyone on the road with them in when they do this? Talking on the cell phone while driving, hands-free or not, increases your risk of an accident as much as driving drunk! Texting is even worse! Think about it. Whenever someone’s doing something stupid in traffic, don’t you usually see a cell phone in their hand? Often they never even realize how close they came to an accident until they actually wreck the car. They just go drifting down the road oblivious to everything else. Well, believe it or not, when you drive while using your cell, that person is you!

There have been several studies proving this. But people don’t want to believe it because, if they did, they’d have to change their behavior. What conversation or text message is important enough to risk the health and even lives of you, your passengers, and everyone else you’re sharing the road with?

But of course, they think they’re so much more careful than everyone else. They can hold a phone conversation and drive at the same time. It’s not dangerous for them. They’re careful. Maybe they restrict their cell phone usage to when they’re driving on slow, familiar routes. But is that any better? So, then they’re impaired when driving on residential streets where kids, pets, and other pedestrians may be crossing. Or maybe they only use their cell phone on the long stretches of highway where they don’t have to change lanes or merge for miles. Is that better? Driving impaired when one wrong move could cause them to hit another vehicle at speeds that could kill someone? But, of course, they’re careful. It won’t happen to them.

There are so many distractions around us all the time. Given that, why on earth would you voluntarily add the unnecessary, additional distraction of a cell phone to the din? It could be the one last distraction that tips you over the edge and makes you plow into that pickup truck in front of you or that kid riding his bike.

Think of all the inconveniences you go through to keep your kids safe on a regular basis. All that baby-proofing and vigilance. All that to protect them from dangers that are, let’s face it, fairly remote. Is restraining yourself from using your cell phone while driving any more unreasonable than that? And as a bonus, you’re not just protecting yourself and your passengers, but you’re protecting everyone else who is out there on the road with you. Isn’t that worth the minor inconvenience?

Remember, your phone does store the number of whoever called you and they can always leave a voice mail message. So, you can pull into a parking lot and call them back within 2 or 3 minutes if it’s really important. Try not to even glance at the caller ID unless you‘re stopped. Just like texting, anything that takes your eyes off the road is dangerous. Especially if it’s habitual and you don’t think about what’s going on around you before you do it. It’s best to just wait until you’re stopped to check it. Think how embarrassed you’d be if you caused an accident because you were checking your caller id or a text message. Even worse than embarrassment if the accident was a bad one. Could you live with yourself if checking your phone resulted in an accident that killed or crippled someone?

For God’s sake, put down the phone and drive! Pull over to text or talk! Make a promise to your kids that their safety is more important to you than any cell phone conversation!

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Karen B. Jones is a web developer turned children’s book author and illustrator. She lives in Olathe, KS with her husband and two daughters.

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78 Comments

I couldn't agree more! The fact that any sane(?) person would text while driving absolutely astonishes me. And I've seen women in the mall or supermarket parking lot, backing their gigantimous SUV's out of parking places with one hand on the wheel and the other clamping their cell phone to their ear. Ever consider making the call first, then starting up the engine? Drives me CRAZY, and, as you say, these folks are utterly oblivious to what's going on around them...

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Research has already examined cell phone vs radio, books on tape, and conversations with a passenger. Drivers on cell phones are slower to brake, slower to speed up, miss more red lights etc. Doesn't matter if it's hand held or hands free.

I am at fault for talking on the phone. I grew up in the cell phone industry working for cell phone companies since they were only permanently mounted in the car with a phone cord and handhelds were the size of suitcases. I agree that phone calls should be limited, only used when a call is necessary. I don't think it's very much different than having a conversation in the car, but it is distracting just like anything else that keeps one completely focused on the road...

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I agree. I saw a mom in a mini van swearving all over the place. I had to honk at her, and she was on the cell phone. Hello!! This is Houston....get off the phone. There are too many drivers on their phones....I agree with the majority. Hang up. Get hands free if you have to talk. My husband has it where it goes through his car stero. I think that is ok, it is like listening to your stero.

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I agree. I admit to using the phone on speaker phone. However, for those wondering how is it different than speaking with someone in the car... The difference according to the studies made is that the passengers are seeing the same things as you. So if a truck slams their brakes in front of you, you all stop and pay attention to what is happening on the road. The person on the phone does not see what you are seeing and therefore keeps yaking away as if nothing has happened...

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I DO NOT use a cell phone to talk to text while I am driving. I value my life, my children's lives and the lives of other drivers. I drive around town a lot and encounter almost daily someone who is talking or texting while driving and I have had many near misses because of these inconsiderate people. Freedoms and liberties are important, but I don't see adults making good choices, so a law needs to be passed in AZ to stop texting while driving and talking on the cell phone while driving...

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Driving while talking on a cell phone is illegal in many states, including Kentucky, where I live. But even some of my relatives continue to do it. I recently told my 21-year old nephew that he shouldn't just think about his own safety, but the safety of others on the road. Recently here in Kentucky a truck driver who was driving and talking crossed the center line and ran head-on into a van. Eleven people, including the truck driver (and some children) died in the crash...

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Texting has become a hot-button issue lately. Should you allow your nanny to text while working? If so, do you limit the time or the occasions in which she can text? Do you allow her to text while driving? What should a family do? Nannies4hire.com

Highlighting the dangers of cell phone use for talking or texting is admirable -- even imperative. Certain behaviors have to be raised to the public attention when it is discovered that there is danger involved. So I appreciate your citing the overt safety precautions that parents take to protect their children, while they fail to "connect the dots" on this extreme hazard that they personally perpetrate upon their own families as well as upon everyone on the road around them...

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I agree with Barbara that driving with kids is distracting...more distracting than a phone conversation...depending on the conversation. I see myself hurrying too much and don't want to be a slave to my phone. I think about how little time my grandmother spent on the phone and how many friends she had and lives she touched...

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In Los Angeles, I heard the fines are HUGE. You cannot pay the ticket via mail - you have to appear in court. So, not only are you paying for the ticket, you're paying for the court fees and any time off work you'll need to be in court.

My cousin was recently in an accident with someone talking and driving. She was coming down to visit her mom for Mother's Day. The other driver lost control of his car and his car jumped over the center divider and landed on my cousin. She died at the scene...

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Yeah, I'm not sure why this was EVER allowed.
It is very distracting to talk while driving, I could never do it - so I never have. The person calling can wait 5 minutes, there is NOTHING that important that I should take my attention away from driving. This new rage of Texting while driving is something I simply do not understand how someone can think is even possible to do. Get real people, if you're driving - Just drive!

I agree that people should not text while driving or try to hold their cell phone to talk while driving, but I see no problem with using a hands free device to talk on your cell while driving. I don't see it as any different than talking to a person sitting next to you in the car.

I completely agree with this. While some may consider this to be a form of their freedom of expression, I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have seen drivers do something completely reckless because they are so busy talking on the phone or whatnot. This is a huge pet peeve of mine. I will not even accept calls from my husband while driving. If it is that important, then there are plenty of parking lots that one can drive into to return a call or check their voicemail...

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Should we just not talk in the car at all. What is the differance between on the phone or with someone in the care? Let's just say no radio, no navigation, no kids screaming, no changing stations????? Isn't it all equally distracting? I saw a guy hit a pedestrian while speeding around a woman (in her car) on the phone. He didn't see the pedestrian because he was too busy yelling at her for being on her phone. Anything can happen on the road. We must all be aware at all times.

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