Photo by: Jim Legans

Please Promise Not to Use Your Cell Phone While Driving

by Karen B. Jones
Photo by: Jim Legans

I’m talking about Moms who are so careful about their kids. They baby-proof their homes until there’s nary a sharp corner or exposed outlet to be found. They pull all the strings out of their kids jackets and hoodies. They cut everything the child eats into quarter inch pieces to avoid any possible choking hazards. They never let anyone post pictures of their kids online for fear that a child molester might see it and somehow track them down. They carry disinfecting wipes and gels everywhere to sanitize the child every time they touch something that may be contaminated. They shop around for just the right, highest safety-rated child safety seat for the car, no matter how expensive. They agonize over whether or not to immunize their kids and fret over every illness or injury they acquire.

And yet, these same mothers think nothing of driving around town while using their cell phones. Do any of them really understand the danger they’re putting themselves, their kids, and anyone on the road with them in when they do this? Talking on the cell phone while driving, hands-free or not, increases your risk of an accident as much as driving drunk! Texting is even worse! Think about it. Whenever someone’s doing something stupid in traffic, don’t you usually see a cell phone in their hand? Often they never even realize how close they came to an accident until they actually wreck the car. They just go drifting down the road oblivious to everything else. Well, believe it or not, when you drive while using your cell, that person is you!

There have been several studies proving this. But people don’t want to believe it because, if they did, they’d have to change their behavior. What conversation or text message is important enough to risk the health and even lives of you, your passengers, and everyone else you’re sharing the road with?

But of course, they think they’re so much more careful than everyone else. They can hold a phone conversation and drive at the same time. It’s not dangerous for them. They’re careful. Maybe they restrict their cell phone usage to when they’re driving on slow, familiar routes. But is that any better? So, then they’re impaired when driving on residential streets where kids, pets, and other pedestrians may be crossing. Or maybe they only use their cell phone on the long stretches of highway where they don’t have to change lanes or merge for miles. Is that better? Driving impaired when one wrong move could cause them to hit another vehicle at speeds that could kill someone? But, of course, they’re careful. It won’t happen to them.

There are so many distractions around us all the time. Given that, why on earth would you voluntarily add the unnecessary, additional distraction of a cell phone to the din? It could be the one last distraction that tips you over the edge and makes you plow into that pickup truck in front of you or that kid riding his bike.

Think of all the inconveniences you go through to keep your kids safe on a regular basis. All that baby-proofing and vigilance. All that to protect them from dangers that are, let’s face it, fairly remote. Is restraining yourself from using your cell phone while driving any more unreasonable than that? And as a bonus, you’re not just protecting yourself and your passengers, but you’re protecting everyone else who is out there on the road with you. Isn’t that worth the minor inconvenience?

Remember, your phone does store the number of whoever called you and they can always leave a voice mail message. So, you can pull into a parking lot and call them back within 2 or 3 minutes if it’s really important. Try not to even glance at the caller ID unless you‘re stopped. Just like texting, anything that takes your eyes off the road is dangerous. Especially if it’s habitual and you don’t think about what’s going on around you before you do it. It’s best to just wait until you’re stopped to check it. Think how embarrassed you’d be if you caused an accident because you were checking your caller id or a text message. Even worse than embarrassment if the accident was a bad one. Could you live with yourself if checking your phone resulted in an accident that killed or crippled someone?

For God’s sake, put down the phone and drive! Pull over to text or talk! Make a promise to your kids that their safety is more important to you than any cell phone conversation!

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Karen B. Jones is a web developer turned children’s book author and illustrator. She lives in Olathe, KS with her husband and two daughters.

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78 Comments

It's illegal to drive and talk on the phone without a hands-free device in the state of California. I think it's a very smart law. Unfortunately, I still see some people driving and holding a cell phone.

Good to see someone voicing this concern. There is another consideration which would benefit those who use cell phones and that is to do some research into the safety of putting one up against the head or carrying it in a purse next to a pregnant belly. Children are the most vulnerable to the radiation from cell phones and WI-FI, etc.

These two websites will provide information and studies about this as well as solutions to protect families...

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There is an excellent commercial that was made in the UK (I believe) that shows three young girls texting and driving and how they cause a massive accident. You can find it on YouTube. I pass this along to anyone I know that texts while driving (especially my youth group kids). It is very powerful!

Better yet, turn the cell phone OFF while you're driving. That way, you won't even know if someone is calling or texting until you can safely respond, and it won't distract you or tempt you to check it. I realize that means trying to remember to turn it back ON when you're at your destination. But if people would learn to slow down and prioritize their time (instead of being so disorganized and overscheduled--i.e., "busy"), remembering things like that probably wouldn't be as difficult.

So glad you put this out there. We need more of this to raise awareness.

Let me share a story . . .

First off, I live in TX where the lawmakers just don't seem to want to take a stance on this. So it is addressed on a more local level. My city has recently made it illegal to use any type of electronic device in school zones . . . which is good, but doesn't really address the bigger problem...

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I find it absolutely shocking that people aren't more concerned about this behavior. No one should die, or be injured or experience the scare of a collision because someone felt the burning "need" to say "What's up. Let's hang out." or "I'll be home in 20," etc., etc. It's outrageous that we as a nation have chosen not to criminalize distracted driving when people are killed and permanently maimed...

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I understand the whole texting while driving and hold a phone to your ear while driving thing, but I really don't think that putting someone on speaker phone is any different than talking to someone that is sitting next to you in the car. Are they going to make it illegal to talk to your passengers next? Or illegal to have kids in your car since they can be very distracting? In fact I recently saw a bumper sticker that said "If I swerve then I was just hit by a sippy cup!"...

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Sorry, but I have seen people driving and swerving much worse when they are having an argument with their child in the back or with the passenger next to them or when they're trying to eat a burger with one hand while holding the soda in the other, or doing their hair and mascara than while on their hands-free headset or their cell on speakerphone mode...

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While I do think it's terrible that so many accidents have been caused, what I don't understand is why talking on a cell phone is so much worse than conversing with someone in the car. I really don't get why people are so much more distracted when talking on a cell. I'd love to see a study on that. If anyone has seen such a thing, please post a link, if possible.

A year ago, yesterday,June 10, 2009, a young man of 23 struck and killed my husband of 25 years as he was crossing the street because the man was on a new cell phone he was anxious to try out. We have 5 children, ages 23, 21, 19, 16, and 11. My children will no longer be able to share any of life's joyous moments, like getting married, having children, finishing college, high school, or even elementary. There are not enough words to share how great our grief is...

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Your kids are watching you.... if you text and drive or use a handheld while driving, your kids are learning from you. Do you want your child to text and drive when they get their license? Parents need to model the behavior they want their kids to learn. You'll never convince a 16 year old to not text or use a hand held while driving if they have been watching you do it for the past 10 years.

Couldnt you also make the case that you shouldn't change the radio station, talk to your passengers (especially children, given how distracting they are), or glance at a map while driving? Is any of this realistic? I find kids waaaaaaaaaay more distracting that having a phone conversation with my husband about last minute schedule changes for dinner...

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Don't use your cell phone in your car because of the increase in radiation exposure. The signal is much stronger when you are driving around. People really need to get hip to not speaking on cell phones anywhere near their children whose brains are still forming and whose skulls are so much thinner. It upsets me the most when I see a mother or father with a baby in a carrier, talking on their cell phone with the baby's head just inches from the phone...

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Thanks for this. It's high time people woke up. As a pedestrian who has been out and about with children for nearly 20 years, I've had countless cases of "near misses" with children crossing the street...and cellphones were involved nearly all the time.

With all the information available (time and again), it's come down to this= unless you are a first-responder, to use a cellphone on the road is to make a dangerously selfish, egotistical choice...

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