Photo by: Mary Rentoumis

Does Peer Pressure Keep Your Child From Eating Healthy Food?

Photo by: Mary Rentoumis

Today, I sent my son to kindergarten with turkey, carrots, and lettuce rolled up in a spinach wrap. green tortilla wrap Delicious, healthy, and colorful. My son picked the ingredients himself, so I knew he would eat it.

What was I thinking? I sent my child to kindergarten with a GREEN sandwich. So much for mother of the year.

Needless to say, the other kids at my son’s lunch table teased him about having a green sandwich, saying “Ewww, gross” when they saw it. When the sandwich came home in the lunchbox, with only a few bites eaten, I knew something was wrong.

Clearly my poor son is a victim of his mother’s obsessions.

My husband chastised me for sending my son to school with a green sandwich. Had I become the mother in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, sending my child to school with weird food?

Why couldn’t I just give him Wonder bread sandwiches, juice boxes, and Cheetos like everyone else?

After a family huddle, I realized all my children are regularly teased about eating healthy food. Peer pressure and healthy eating was a problem. My son’s sisters were more than happy to dish out advice on how to handle the comments on his lunches.

Diplomatic sister #1: “Tell the other kids your food is yummy and that you really like it”.

To-the-point sister #2: “Tell the other kids to ‘cut it out’ with the teasing. Tell them to ask their mom to buy food like yours so they can try it too.”

So what should you do about the negative impact between peer pressure and healthy eating?
How to Help Your Child Handle
the Healthy Food Teasing

What a child can say to their peers

  1. My food is really tasty and I really like it!
  1. Cut it out! Why don’t you ask your mom to buy this food for you so you can try it too.
  1. My mom loves me so much, she lets me eat this healthy food.
  1. Yes, you are right. My food is “ ______”. Fill in blank with weird, gross, creepy, disgusting, etc.

What you can do as a parent

  1. Pack lunch together, so you and your child agree about what’s in the lunchbox. Better yet, have your child involved in the shopping, selection and preparation.
  1. Don’t try new food items in a school lunch. Test them at home first to make sure your child likes them.
  1. Put only one “weird” item in their lunch box every day. After several days of jicama in my daughter’s lunch box, no one at school cares about it. Now they are actually interested in what emerges from her lunchbox.
  1. Never make a child feel that unhealthy foods are off limits, or they will feel deprived, which causes bigger issues with food. At our house, we talk about food choices in terms of everyday and occasional foods. My kids do have “occasional” foods in their lunch boxes once in a while.
  1. Be a good role model to give your child confidence. Pack you own healthy lunch, and make healthy choices when you are with your adult friends.

As for my son and the humiliation of the green sandwich, he is ready to speak up for himself. He wants to bring purple peppers and pink apples for snack tomorrow.

Bring It On, kid style.

I love these children. They can handle the peer pressure and healthy eating better than their mom.

Mary Rentoumis writes about her humorous adventures in feeding her family a healthy diet on her website, Healthy Diet.com. Although Mary cannot cook, she endures kitchen disasters and grocery store mishaps to create a healthy diet program. With an Ivy League degree in History and Chemistry, Mary is comfortable understanding on a molecular level why some foods are not healthy choices. Mary regularly uses her scientific background to explain to her youngest son why he can’t have candy bars for breakfast.

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57 Comments

I get so disappointed with our society when I see articles like this. Why on earth should our kids feel embarrassed by eating healthy??? It's ridiculous that bringing healthy foods to school can be something to be ashamed about. I think this can be a learning experience for everyone. My son is not embarrassed by what he brings in and I feel comfortable saying that he would let kids around him know why he's eating fruits and veggies and how rude and hurtful it is to make fun of him for it...

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I work in a school cafeteria, it's great to see the kids that know what they like and don't care what their peers say. I am on the salad and fresh fruit end of the server, I often hear kids tease when the person in front of them gets a green salad and veggies, or even a fruit different than what they are used to (ie kiwi). What I do think is sad is the lack of nutritional choices for the main dish on the school menu, or worse yet....seeing some of the lunches that are sent from home...

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You're not a bad mom for sending your kids off with healthy foods. The bad parents are the ones who cave to the idea that their kids won't eat anything but expensive, convenience-packed junk foods! I'm amazed at what some parents are willing to feed their kids. If you don't actively encourage healthy food habits in your kids they'll never learn to enjoy healthy food. That said, we are experiencing lunchbox difficulties in our house, too...

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Response to Carrie - I really want to raise a healthy eater too. Start him now since we struggle as adults :)
My inlaw family I think rolls their eyes sometimes that I am picky about what my 18 mo old eats, but I feel very strongly. He eats wheat bread, natural peanut butter, and only occasional sweets...

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I applaud all mothers and fathers who take the time required to serve the freshest, healthiest foods possible to their families. This is what I have always done with my family, and my two kids, now 7 and 10, would be described as "excellent eaters." When it comes to fresh food, they eat way more than just carrot sticks and apples! I do find that if we commit to fruit for breakfast and plenty of veggies for dinner, then it is OK to "slide" a little when at school...

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Great post Mary! My 3 kids take 'weird' looking lunches to school every day - all REAL food. We talk about what to do when other kids comment and I think the conversation in our family, along with the education about food being our fuel, really helps them. They also do a great job with peer pressure and I am inspired by them everyday. They are very 'normal' kids - do well in school, socially and in sports. They have actually inspired other kids to eat healthier. Thanks for the ideas...

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I pretty regularly give our 9 yo wrap sandwiches. 'Course, I've never given him a green tortilla one so not sure if he would get teased or not! ;) My boys (other one is almost 5) are VERY adventurous,non-picky eaters & I am so thankful for that! They love fish & shrimp & would eat anything on a pizza except anchovies. I had escargot as an appetizer for an X-Mas party & both our boys tried & liked it...

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I am so glad that you posted this. We have always been a very healthy eating family. My daughter is in public school this year. She started out the year eating a variety of things, and lots of healty stuff. We're pretty much down to peanut butter sandwiches and salami. She still takes the veggies, but usually doesn't eat them. She's still pretty good with the fruit. But yesterday, someone told her that her applesauce looked like vomit. My daughter used to LOVE celery with squirty cheese...

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I have the same problem as Carrie. I always feel like I am on trial for wanting to feed my son healthy foods. Why do I have to defend wanting to feed my child a healthy diet???? I do worry that I will be too aggressive with it and would welcome any advice on how to not make the poor choices something that he covets.

Peer pressure can definitely affect one's eating. Our son ate a much more wide range of food before going to preschool. He loved spicy Indian food, hummus, all sorts of veggies. We even used to cook an extra bowl of sauteed onions and mushrooms just for him because he loved them so much. But enough comments by kids led to more stuff coming back home on a regular basis--stuff he used to love...

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The girl in "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" was having "musaka". We do have "made from scratch 100% organic musaka" on our dinner table at least twice a month and it is a healthy meal and my son loves it. Well, I don't put it in his lunch box but he gets there lots of other "weird" foods and yes, he gets the comments from the other kids. I do volunteer in the lunch room from time to time and now I know why some of my friends concider the school lunch good choice...

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Love your question Mary!

My youngest is known for eating anything including raw onion like its an apple, and whatever else that's placed in front of her. As a Child Nutritionist I have prided myself on introducing her pallet to all 5 flavors (sweet, spices, salty, bitter and sour). Since she nursed on demand for three years, I was comfortable reserving other sweet flavors until after her first year of life...

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I am a former garden teacher and have seen first hand that when kids spend regular time in the garden (especially at school) they rally around healthy food. At our school of 300 kids we had students standing in line for our extravagant salad bar twice a week, leaving the school-offered lunch waiting sadly without takers...

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My kids go to a small Christian school where they have to bring their lunches daily and I am so tired of them bringing their lunches back. Probably 90% of their classmates eat Lunchables or KidCuisine every day and my kids don't. They eat vegetarian, homemade meals, which they eat with no problem whatsoever at home. At school though they see the highly processed, colorful, over-the-top sweet foods of their classmates and will literally beg their classmates for a taste...

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I try to get my daughter to eat healthy foods and veggies. She does get to eat chips and sweets too as a treat. Fruit snacks are a reward for her being good and for small accomplishments. She does not get peer pressure as much as she is the only child with a lunchbox full of fruits and veggies and healthy snacks. She goes to daycare now so she has her lunches prepared and packed by me...

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