Anything I enjoy she gets angry . She got mad because I bought tide instead of gain because they were out and tide was on sale.
I think she has an eating disorder. She goes berserk Everytime I have a Starbucks or horrors too much salad and spaghetti and meatballs or olives.
Because some health guru says fruit is worse than candy or tomatoes are in the nightshade family. Or Splenda will give you Diabetes. Or quest peanut butter cups are not in the budget and give me hell because I bought some and hid them.
I have to hide my subway at my sister’s because she doesn’t like subway and will do things to my sandwiches because they have too much salt. sometimes I sleep at my sister’s and my buddies.
At Christmas she hid my keys and I missed seeing family that I see a couple times a year. Because she didn’t want me eating carbs. That was the death knell for our marriage.
I don’t drink much or eat sugar like I was . I have lost 70 pounds in a year and a half. I feel great 
she is not impressed.
She has someone from her church following and watching me at all times eat when I am not home. She texts me and threatens to keep me awake for eating it. Everytime I eat ham or any other food that she thinks is evil this week she fights with me for hours. I ignore her and try not engage but then she wakes me up early slamming everything around and purposely waking me up because I ate bad food and I must be punished.
She was doing this to her kids also and I stuck up for them. Her teenagers went no contact because of it.
She wasn’t always like this but it’s become unbearable. I am not a child. I don’t tell her what to eat ect.
Wow, this relationship is all kinds of toxic and dysfunctional. It’s not just wanting to divorce “over food” but having your food sabotaged, getting angry at anything and everything, having someone stalk you, and harass you and controlling everything you do, even isolating you from family. Is this something recent or has this been going on a while? The reason I ask is because I am wondering if some mental illness may be to blame, if it’s something recent. Regardless, I would definitely consider seeing a divorce attorney and would get away from this marriage and this woman before she harms you. This cannot be good for your mental or physical health. I feel sorry for the kids who need a parent and are living with a psycho that they are too afraid to even interact with. Stuff like this reminds me of why I am single!
3 Likes
What Natalie L1 said, especially about the possible mental health issue. It’s not just about food; it’s about the excessive controlling behavior over everything (the kind of detergent, threats, keeping you away from family, etc). You said she didn’t used to behave this way, which seems like a sign of mental illness. You certainly can’t live like this, so your best course of action looks like separating. You’re already sleeping elsewhere periodically anyway, right? Make sure that you secure your important documents and financial resources, and I’d suggest not leaving anything valuable or meaningful to you in the place after you tell her, because you have described someone who is unstable enough to destroy things in order to hurt you. You definitely want to talk to a divorce lawyer and make it a requirement that she get a mental health evaluation before you would ever consider reconciling. Good luck with it!
2 Likes
This reply is right on! I agree wholeheartedly. Thanks for taking the time to write it!
1 Like