Jill -
I am a compulsive overeater. I remember eating an entire stick of butter when I was 4. I'm now 46. I've had a lifelong obsession with food and have binged many times on anything from sugar (straight out of the bag) to cabbage {not recommended! ;-)}
I have been in Overeaters Anonymous for 21 years. It would be very worthwhile to check out OA for its comprehensive method of coping with the emotional, spiritual, physical, and mental difficulties presented by food addiction.
My guess is that he was eating at night because he woke up, couldn't get back to sleep, and used the sugar to soothe himself.Note: I'm not a therapist or nutritionist but I've studied this issue seriously for a couple of decades. If you want to help your son - DO get sugar and white flour out of your house; make it a very limited, occasional treat (perhaps consider using agave syrup as a sweetener, it causes a lower blood-sugar spike). It will take an adjustment on everyone's part but you'll all feel better in the long run. If one consumes a lot of sugar (and a lot is hidden in processed foods like ketchup) there may be physical withdrawal symptoms - anxiety, restlessness, headaches, lethargy, overwhelming emotions. Something best left for spring break or summer vacation, rather than during the school year! But you can get ice cream out of your freezer, sweets out of your cupboard, and lock up stuff like sugar, honey, syrups, etc. I mean PADLOCK it - don't just put it on a high shelf - I used to climb up all the time to get stuff when no one was around. For real events like birthdays, go out and split a dessert rather than hosting a large party at home, and be careful not to use food as a reward for accomplishments. If you like to bake or cook with your son, teach him to make healthy foods - Rather than decorating cupcakes, put creative energy toward tactile things like clay, leather work, Legos, painting, weaving, gardening, crafts, etc.
I was recently prescribed with Wellbutrin for anxiety and depression. To my amazement, my food cravings and obsession are gone for the first time in my life. I have very peculiar reactions to some drugs, (i.e. tylenol doesn't work on me, I'm resistant to Novocaine and highly allergic to Vicodin). So this side effect of Wellbutrin may not work for everyone, and these medications can be very dangerous for children. But meds are NOT a magic bullet; I've read a LOT and taken classes around these disorders, and one must do more than pop a pill. Anyone with anxiety, depression, or ADD really must have a systematic approach to staying relaxed, focused, and happily functional. This includes stuff like exercise, meditation, journaling, expressing feelings assertively, and building love, joy, accomplishment, and fun into every day. The best way your family can support your son is to take the journey with him.
For dealing with ADD, I also warmly recommend www.flylady.net
Her routines and warm support are absolutely wonderful!
An additional very positive approach to building better health is Suzanne Fong's "Sweet Life" program:
Sleep
Water
Exercise
Eating
Tranquility
Look for her web site online.
The family therapists who devised the "Love Logic" system have really helped me with disciplining my own daughter, who can be a relentless nag when it comes to just about anything - including sugar! I've seen real improvement since I started using their approach. Look for occasional PBS shows featuring them.
You are right - trust your instincts - your son is headed for real health trouble if you don't develop a real system to help him. Fortunately he's young and you have tremendous power to set him on the right course.
And as with all advice, "Take what you like, and leave the rest".
Best regards
Alana in Alameda