I'm likely just venting here, but I get SO annoyed when my "significant other" and I have been intimate NOT all that long ago, and then I catch him having turned on some dumb goofy show with with barely anything on, and I go to ask him why he is watching it. The only answer I get is that he just had it on. Meaning he was bored. Ok, so why does he have to pick something that's got women acting like that? He has said that he isn't watching it for that, but for the funny aspects. May be, but I really think he doesn't mind that it HAS those women in it. It really makes me mad, and then as many times as I've made comments, I still catch him doing it. He has only SLOWLY changed the channel when I've caught him at it. He KNOWS it bothers me, but I know that the next time he is bored he is going to just "happen" to find it again. I know men like to look, but why? Does their whole existence center around the connection between their eyes and that thing between their legs? The way they act about it makes me think they were born with something missing off it and spend their lives trying to replace the "cap" for it.
What good do they think it's going to do for them? I can understand if he wants to watch something goofy and light hearted, but why does it have to have scantily clad women acting like animals? If they know it bothers their wives or girlfriends why do they continue to do it?
But I doubt it would bother THEM too much if I were to watch a (though hard to find) show with a bunch of gorgeous guys prancing around emphasizing that thing between their legs!
I get so mad I don't know whether to dismiss it and SOMEHOW harden myself to accept that he's a man and that men are GOING TO look. I just don't understand why looking at women is so important to them, unless it makes them a little hard and that's what they're hoping for.
Even still, why tantalize themselves? Why do they seem to not care all that much if their wives or girlfriends feel objectified by it?
I believe a man will WILLINGLY sit down to watch a porno movie with their wife or girlfriend in hope that it will give them ideas on what else she can do for him. I think he will gladly tolerate HER looking at another man as long as it gives HIM something in the end.
I still don't know if I've gotten this out of my system, but I think men are going to look. But their continued looking implies that they can't ever get enough. Don't they understand that what they keep wanting to look at is a woman's PRIVATES? I guess looking there only makes it MORE appealing, like they've found a PRIZE.
I know the women who act in these movies are likely WILLINGLY doing it, so they are partially at fault, but they're getting PAID to do it, much like a prostitute gets PAID to please what I often think is a man's unsatiable appetite for a place to "stick it".
Don't anyone chew me out now for venting. I just felt like I had to get it out somewhere. I just want to know if anybody else has noticed that about men and how it has made YOU feel. I've pretty much given up hope in talking to him about it, because I know he, like most men, are still going to do it. I just get offendedly annoyed at their lack of concern about how WE might feel about it, because they still do it. What's more is THEY don't think of themselves as cheating, as that only applies to other people.
Little update: A "friendly" little question to "B from Chesapeake": Have you gone to all other posters on this website and reminded those who ask about their cars and other household objects that ANYONE can use that this is a parenting website and to go elsewhere with their snits? This CAN pertain to parenting, as children can be present when a man does this. :(