Daughters late bloomers or just going to be shorter?

I have two daughters, 6 and 8. They're both slightly above average in height, but I was a lot taller at their age. I've always heard that kids growth patterns follow the same way as their parent of the same gender, but neither one of my kids have done this so far. My husband was a late bloomer so I'm wondering if my girls will be also. Anyone else out there have the same experience?

Our kids were much taller than we were at that age.

They were also much larger/taller babies at birth than we were. So it followed that they would be - they just followed along their percentiles on the growth/heigh charts.

It wasn’t until puberty and then teen years that we started to see what their final height would be.

Well - my sister and I didn’t follow our moms pattern.
My mom grew up during the depression and had a lot of genuine starvation which affected her growth.
My sister and I never starved.

Also - kids get genes from both parents - height being one of many.
A tall dad sometimes makes for some tall daughters.
On top of that some things skip generations or takes a sideways step - something seen in an aunt or uncle will turn up in a niece/nephew.
And once in a great while there’s an outright mutation - something new never seen before in the family will pop up.
Genetics is fascinating.
For the most part unless your pediatrician has any concerns don’t worry about it and listen to some Doris Day.

Que será, será
Whatever will be, will be

Watching how children grow is one of the delights of parenthood. Enjoy the present and time will reveal how tall they turn out to be. There is no set pattern, we are all individuals.

Honestly its not something I watched or worried about when my kids were growing up. They tended to grow in spurts (usually after I just bought clothes or shoes).

welcome to mamapedia, Priscilla.

Why not let them be kids? Stop worrying about their growth, unless there is a BIG problem that the doctors even notice.

Let them be kids. According to the old wives tale, my oldest was supposed to double in height at the age of 2 to 18. That means he should be 6’ tall. He’s not. He’s 19 and 5’10. He’s not short but he’s not as tall as the “growth chart” says he should have been. I’m not worried about it. Neither is he.

Stop. Unless they stop growing? Then worry. Until then? Let them be kids.

Honestly, I never gave my kids height a thought. I don’t get why some parents are so concerned with how tall their kids will be. They will be whatever they are meant to be and in my opinion there is no need to think about it. It’s ok to be short and it’s ok to be tall! I have a friend that is so concerned about her son being short she takes him to doctors about it and all she is doing is making him feel there is something wrong with him. He’s fine. He’s not abnormal…yes he might be a slightly shorter guy as an adult but he might not. Hard to say.

Does it really matter? Stop worrying about something you have no control over.

Umm… I think you need to be like Elsa and Let it Go!

Why are so many parents hung up on height? I just don’t get it. I see lots of these posts about parents worried about children, especially children who aren’t even teens yet, and their height. If it worries you so much, why don’t you request a bone density scan? My child’s grandmother did that, since she is concerned about her being 13 and 4’6" and now my daughter is wondering about the results. The grandma whispered to me about how depressed she is that they said she will not grow anymore and to please keep it a secret from my daughter. I really didn’t, and still don’t, care about the test results. Tall, short, skinny, fat, gay, straight…does not change who she is and I still love her. I’d be more worried about whether they are decent human beings and happy kids than whether they are going to be gigantic – you already said they are above average, why isn’t that considered good enough? It says online that girls can grow up to the age of 15, they literally have almost half their life still to become extremely tall.

My 7 year old daughter is above average in height and is significantly taller than I was when I was her age. She is as tall as I was when I was 10 years old. The general rule beginning around age four is that kids grow about 2 inches in height every year until puberty.

Where did you hear that kids follow the same growth pattern as the same gender parent? I’d question your underlying assumption. There are folk tales that get handed down and people accept them as fact. I am nothing like my mother. Most women I know aren’t like their mothers.

And what does it matter? If you’re desperately concerned, I think bone age is the better indicator. It was with my stepdaughter who dealt with scoliosis and they ran a test to decide whether to keep extending her rod or to proceed with the fusion of a permanent rod. No one ever asked a single thing about the mother or grandmother. This was years back so I’m sure there are other indicators and better tests. Still, you could ask the doctor (absolutely not in front of your daughters!) or just relax and enjoy them as they blossom however they are meant to. I can’t imagine why this would matter to you at this age, or at all.

i’ve never heard that kids’ growth patterns are the same as their parents’ of the same gender. sounds like a superstition to me.

and if true, why should your husband’s late bloomership affect your daughters?

might as well ask a magic 8-ball.
khairete
suz

I have a 22 yr old son… he was always super small growing up. like the 4% percentile. Dr even had bone density tests to make sure there wasn’t an issue when he was in his preteens. His tests were just fine. He hit puberty a year later than most, but even then he kept growing until about age 20. He’s about 5’10" now with a good solid build. Wears mediums and larges.I was an early bloomer but my father wasn’t. So look at what pattern the grandparents followed. A lot depends on diet too. My 7 year old was given mostly organic and has a super clean system. She has lost and gotten most her teeth a year and half early. I was told it was because of her diet. Also, for what its worth… a lot of baby formulas out there have palm oil which prevent total calcium absorption. So do a lot of baby reflux meds. So if your child was on those it could slow growth down a small bit. All my info comes directly from doctors… not off the internet.

PS- you are correct about the growth patterns. But it also includes the grandparents growth patterns not just the parents. Things can skip a generation. :slight_smile:

why are you worried about this? You can’t change how tall they are going to be so just let them be.

If your doctor feels there is a problem? He/she will let you know. Otherwise? They will be as tall as they will be.

There is actually an equation to predict your child’s height. When my daughters were born, we completed a few questions for our pediatrician regarding our height, and some of our family members.

My oldest daughter was a preemie - almost 7 weeks early, but she was a healthy weight of almost 5 lbs and did not spend much time in the NICU. My second daughter was born about 3 weeks early due to scheduled c-section as my pregnancy was high risk. Right off the bat, our pediatrician told us not to anticipate any super model tallness and that most likely both girls would be petite, even though we have tall family members on both sides. If you meet my oldest, she doesn’t appear abnormally short and at 14.5 she is about 5’ 2". However, if you look at class pictures or see her with her peers, she is usually one of the shortest in her class.

My youngest has always been on the shorter side, but now that she is almost 13, she is rail thin she has long legs which give the perception of height but in reality she is usually the shortest girl in her class. Height never bothered my older daughter, yet for a long time it bothered my youngest to be the shortest. She has come to the conclusion now that there are hidden benefits to being on the smaller side, so she is coming to terms with it.

As a mom, I always prayed for healthy kids - period. I am not concerned if they are tall or short, as long as they are healthy, happy, and loved. Even if your daughter has aspirations to do something height dependent, many barriers are being broken, so I don’t think that will be as much of a concern as in the past.

If curious or concerned, please make an appointment with a pediatrician for an annual exam and inquire at that time. Although many of my family members scoffed at the time as to how our Dr could predict such a thing, he has basically been right on track. My oldest is expected to have one more growth spurt and then that will likely be it and he is keeping an eye that she maintain her weight in order to hit a maximum growth spurt as she is just perfect right now, but she was concerned that she should lose a few pounds (she is also on ADHD meds that take a few pounds off her over the year, so he prefers she put a bit of weight on in the summer to allow for the loss once the school year hits)

My mother was 5’10. I’m 5’1 1/2! My daughter is 5’7. So nope.

That said, going with your logic, why would your husband being a late bloomer affect either of your daughters?