I am awaiting results from an excruciating biopsy (they had to do it 3 times to get what they wanted). I really would like to stop feeling sorry for myself. Do you ever go through something that is huge for you, and then realize you have absolutely no girl friend to lean on? Husbands are generally clueless. What does it take to develop a trusting friendship with someone? I'm always the one who is "there" for others. But where are they when I need help?
Gee I hate sounding like such a wimp.
Pam,
If you are "there" for others than my experience is that they will be there for you. The key is to ask them for support. Don't wait for them to figure out what you need. Call them. If your "friends" don't respond to a shout out, then you need to explore what drew you to them to begin with. Are they strong women, or helpless girls that you have felt the need to rescue? As was said in the Indiana Jones move........choose wisely.
In the meantime. You are allowed to feel a little sorrow for yourself, but don't bog yourself down with negative energy. Do your best to take care of yourself and literally see things in a positive way...as best as you can. I'm speaking of actually imagining it. Truly, it helps!
Distract yourself as best you can. Don't be afraid to call your doctor and ask for results. Sometimes you get them quicker that way.
Last, I've had biopsies on more than one occasion. Lucky for me all was good on each. Don't assume just because a biopsy was needed that the outcome will be poor. If it is, don't panic. In todays world there is much help out there.
You aren't a wimp. You are scared. Who wouldn't be? Be kind to yourself.
Best of Luck,
Patty