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3 Year Old Won't Sleep in His Bed...

Indianapolis, IN

my 3 year old will not sleep in his room. I bought him night lights,glow in the dark stars on the ceiling, his favorite sheets, I read to him, tuck him in and even leave his door open with the hallway light on and check on him routinly. Some nights I just end up letting him sleep in my bed. I really need to stop this before the new baby comes, also I don't want my 2 year old daughter to start his behavior.

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4 Year Old Contantly Ripping Nails Off

Chattanooga, TN

My daughter is picking her finger nails and toe nails all day long. When she's bored, sad, talking on the phone, upset, anything. I can't get her to stop. I feel it is something going on inside of her that is making her do this. She especially does it at bedtime. I try to distract her, but she continues doing it. Any ideas, because she is really hurting herself and causing infected and bleeding nails. Always wearing a bandaid. Please help!

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4 Year Old with UNCONTROLLABLE Bursts of Anger

Dallas, TX

My son is normally a wonderfully sweet child. Very mannerable (yes ma'am/ no sir/ please & thank you's). However at school he has these bursts of anger (at home he is fine). I have tried talking to him. Didn't work. Disciplined him... didnt work.Switched his schools to a smaller classroom... didn't work. Placed him in a home childcare (where there was only 2 other children)... didnt work. Stayed home from work with him... didnt work. Setting realistic expectations...Postivie reinforcement.. negative reinforcement... going to bed early... time out... "if you... then I will"... prayer... patience... nothing is working and the behavior is simply getting worse. The bursts are very unpredictable and very uncontrollable that no one sees it coming. One minute he is fine, the next he is throwing chairs... SLAPPING AND HITTING... His childcare provider suggested play therapy. Does anyone know of any good Christian counselors... ANYWHERE?? I would prefer a man, as I am a single mother I would think the time spent with another male might be good for him. Before you ask, yes his father is in his life, yes we have a good relationship, however he isnt always there. Please Help

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A.d.d.??

Lincoln, NE

Okay - I have a 2 and a half year old son - so he is well into his terrible twos - he wants to do everything, and he's into everything - pretty standard. My question is if anyone has any experience with a child with ADD. I don't know that my son has it - but lately, I feel, he has been showing some signs of it. My husband and his 4 siblings all have it, and I know it an be hereditary. But please note - I cannot stand that this term or diagnosis is so overused in children just because they may be energetic or a little hyperactive. I just want to ensure I am doing what I can for my child - and that includes "properly" diagnosing him if that's the case. I'm just looking for some help from anyone who might have some experience or tips on helping to handle this. My son just won't calm down - he seems to hardly be sleeping, and has been acting out a lot lately (I know, all signs of a 2 year old as well - but this change seemed to occur just overnight!) Any advice is much appreciated!!!

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Adhd X 2

Atlanta, GA

I have a 6yo and a 10 yo.Just in the past month i've started them in counseling. At first it was becouse my 6yo had anger problems and my 10yo had depression problems. After one visit the counseler wonted to start my 6yo on ADHD meds. Then after two more visits the counsler wonted my 10yo on ADHD meds. Ive talked to their ped. and she said its worth trying. But when i look back when I was their age, it seemed like I did the same things they do. When is it that their behavior crosses the line of normal hardheaded kids and ADHD behavior. I'm a nurse and have looked up things about ADHD. I don't wont to think this will fix everything , i also don't wont to be blinded by the lable of ADHD. Just wont to talk to some moms who know what i'm going through.

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Adjustment Disorder? Neuro-Cognitive Problems?

Minneapolis, MN

My son just recently finished his year of 3-year old pre-school. He turned 4 in May. His year in pre-school was horrible. From the very first day, he was aggresive with other children (mainly hitting). He also struggled to sit still. My older 2 boys both have ADHD, so I assumed my 3rd little guy was headed in that direction as well. His pre-school was wonderful, and we kept working with my son and we have all been very consistent. All of us involved always felt that his behavior was not his fault; something just didn't seem right. We decided to have him tested for ADHD and/or autism. We just got the report yesterday and they did not find either of those in the tests they did. They are suggesting 'Adjustment Disorder, with disruption in behavior.' They are also wanting to refer him to a neurologist for possible neuro-cognitive problems. I have an appointment with the psychologist on June 17th (earliest I could get!) to review the report. In the meantime, I'm confused with what I am finding online with these two things and I am wondering if anyone is familiar with either of them and can help shed some light on what any of this means. Can therapy help? Can we turn this around in a short amount of time? Our pediatrician feels that this is a simple case of our son taking longer than most kids to be socialized, as he's been home with me his entire life. He feels we should continue socializing him. We have him in 2 Tiny Tots programs over the summer that will total 3 mornings a week. I want him to be successful; I just don't know how to help him! Thanks so much! A.

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Advice on ADHD Son, Starting Meds. Soon Would like Alterative or Herbal Advice.

Parkersburg, OH

My son is 7 years old and has been diagnosed with ADHD. His teacher brought it to our attension this year in 1st grade. I have read about many types of treatment and I go to his pediatrian tomarrow for a consultation on prescription meds, however I am not crazy about him being on harsh stimulants. I have been told there are products on the market that have vitamins and minerals only and have great affects on some children with ADHD. My son is not a really hyper child, he has a very hard time getting his work done in class because he cant concentrate, he gets perfect grades when he completes his work but that is only about 2 times a week and only if the teacher keeps on him to get it done. He never disrupts class and keeps to himself but he just sits in his own little world on some days and cant concentrate on anything.My husband was on ritalin as a child and says he does not remember much of his childhood because of it. I have a very close and loving relationship with my son and I do not wish for his sweet side to go away with prescription medications. Please help!

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Anyone Can Recomend a Good Psychiatrist

San Francisco, CA

Recently my 17 years old son came to me with idea that he might have ADD. I am not convinced he has it, though I really want him to be checked. I read quite a lot of books and information on the web. Some of the symptoms are recognizable, so it's good to do a full evaluation on him. I also have 8 year old, which has symptoms of ADHD, so we would need to check both. If anyone know any good Psychiatrist in the area - I live in Sunnyvale - please let me know. Thank you!!! M.

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Anyone Have a Child with Asperger Syndrome

Phoenix, AZ

My son has not been diagnoised yet but we suspect that he will be soon. Our 8 year does not act normal for his age and is very inappropriate with his actions at times. After years of struggling with him in school and behavior we have finally found some light at the end of the tunnel with just having him diagnoised with a disablity. Are there other mothers in the East Valley area with children that have this as well? I am interested in meeting other mothers/kids for support. I would like to know if you are a SAHM or do you work? I need to know what is better for our son.

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Anyone with Depression and Anxiety?

Phoenix, AZ

Things have been pretty stressfull lately a whole lot f things going wrong in my family and around me I just havent been able to get out of this depression I've had for quite a while now. It's starting to affect my relationship with my boyfriend and my children and I was just wondering if there was anyone else out there going through this or if u already went through something like this if u had any tips to pick urself back up? I have bipolar but dont take meds & i want to keep it that way it's just the things I normally do to try & get outta a rut havent seemed to help any. If u have any insite let me know. Thanks.

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Bed Wetting at 11 Years Old

Atlanta, GA

I have two daughters 13 and 11 who now live with their father after a terrible and stressfull divorce. My 11 year old is still wetting her bed while my 13 year old wants to commit suicide and is hurting herself....my ex-husband wants absolutely nothing to do with me even if it's to talk about our daughters...what can I do? apart from praying..

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Bedwetting and Anger

Eugene, OR

My soon to be six year old girl has a problem controling her anger and has been wetting the bed for about a year now. I don't know how long ago it happend or how long it went on, but I found out three months ago that my exneighbor had touched her and stuck his tounge in her mouth. She says that nothing else has happend to her but I just don't know. I need to know if there is a place that I can take her to get some councelling that takes the Oregon Health Plan.

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Children with Bipolar

Chicago, IL

Is there anyone else out there who is the parent of a Bipolar child? I'm wondering how you have decided to treat it, how your family has coped, how well your child is doing - basically I'm interested in your story. My daughter was recently diagnosed and I'm just looking for some support and resources!

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Counselor in Bedford Needed

Dallas, TX

I am looking for a counselor for myself... I am 16 weeks pregnant and have just moved back to the area (I grew up here) after my husband decided to leave me about a month ago. This is our first child and I am trying very hard to stay positive and deal with this in a healthy way. I am living with my parents and they are afraid I am depressed. I am afraid I agree. I have looked on my insurance and there are plenty to choose from, but if anyone has someone they can reccomend, I am appreciative. Any other advice is appreciated! Thanks!

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Deperession

Albuquerque, NM

I think I might be depressed. I want to cry all the time and recently ended a friendship after about 15yrs, it was time to move on. I don't really have many friends just one really goo one but she doesn;t live here. And a few other things. I don't know how to deal with this.

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Does Anyone Have a Child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Youngstown, OH

my 3.5 yr old son was recently diagnosed with ODD would like some advice on handling him and his tantrums. he is fairly good with everyone else but tends to defy me the most, behavoir specialist says this is common for ODD kids. when i discipline him he hits, kicks, bites and screams till i think i'm going deaf. i have tried time outs time in his room even a swat on his butt which he laughed at. positive reenforcement didn't work either. he was drinking so good from a normal cup and i commented on it and he looked at me with a smile and dumped his milk! any help would be appreciated.

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Feeling Very Overwhelmed...Delayed Post Partum Depression?

Boston, MA

Hello everyone, I'm not sure how to explain, so bear with me. I've been married for 4 years, and have a 14 month old daughter, and 29 weeks pregnant with our second child. I was laid off from my job right after I had my first daughter and was blessed to be able to stay home for about 9 months. To make up for the loss of income, my husband stepped right up to the plate, and took on a 3rd job. (Although, I did object, he thought it would be best that I stayed at home rather than drop our daughter off at daycare). Well, once I stayed home, I found it very overwhelming at being a first time mom, plus keeping up with the responsibilities of being wife and house wife. I figured it was part of the new responsibility, and I had to get over it, suck it up and step up to the plate. I never said anything to anyone, or asked for help (not to look like a martyr, but I thought if I did everything, it would help me get into the new groove so to speak). I ended up going back to work this past April full time, so between working (with a 45 minute commute each way), being mommy, and being wife, plus taking care of house hold responsibilities, plus on top of that, as I mentioned before, I'm 29 weeks pregnant. So, I am completely exhausted by the time I get home. I barely see my daughter for more than 2 hours at night when I get home. I try to talk to my husband, but between getting dinner ready, feeding my daughter, and him working on design work for his vinyl graphics business, it's just complete chaos. Dinner ends, I give my daughter a bath, and pretty soon, it's time to put her down for the night. By the time I come downstairs, the last thing I want to do is housework and clean up. I just want to spend some time with my husband and catch up on our day. I end up falling asleep on the couch after about a half hour, which upsets my husband. I can't say I blame him, but it's so hard being pregnant, and being expected to do so much during the day. My husband feels extremely left out and says that I'm not doing my end of the responsibilities. He says that he understands that with being pregnant, comes the tiredness, the emotions, but I don't really think that he understands. I'm feeling very overwhelmed, and stretched to my mental limits that I just don't know what to do. I love my husband and my daughter so much, and I want to be a good mom and a good wife too, but I just feel myself slipping into a depression. I'm not feeling hopeless or suicidal or anything, but I know I haven't felt like myself in a long time, and I want to do something about it not only for my sake, but my hubby's, and my 2 girls too. I'm hoping there are other moms out there who are in the same boat as I am. I would like to seek some counseling, but we can't afford the crazy shrink bills. I just want to learn how to deal with everything that's going on. Thanks in advance!

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HELP! Need Doctor Recommendation for Child with Asperger's Syndrome

Chicago, IL

My 11 year old son has been diagnosed with Asperger's. However, the doctor that diagnosed him is affiliated with the University of Illinois in Chicago and is a very busy doctor. I need someone more local to the Roselle area. I need a psychiatrist or psychologist to help my son and our family better deal with his issues. If you know of a doctor or group of doctors, please let me know. Also, if you know someone who has a kid with Aspergers and could ask them who they see, I would really appreciate it! Thanks so much!

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How Do I Help My Son?

Grand Rapids, MI

My 8 year old son was recently diagnosed with ADD and depression. He spent a month on meds for the ADD and I was seeing some very positive improvement. The problem is, my husband absolutely does not want our son on a narcotic medication, which all ADD meds are. My son is currently not taking any meds and his behavior and school work are reflecting that. My son is a very intelligent child, he just has troubles staying focused and completing his school work. He had several missing assignments every week. I've tried grounding him, and taking away TV and video games. None of this has seemed to make a difference. How do I help my son stay focused, yet still respect my husbands wishes of not medicating him? Any ideas would be wonderful. I suffer from depression too, and this whole ordeal has really been affecting me as well as my son. Thank in advance!

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Husbands/fathers Willing to Share About Their Depression & Bipolar Disorder

Los Angeles, CA

My husband has been dealing with depression for 15 years and was diagnosed with bipolar 7 1/2 years ago. He has talked with others with the same diagnosis, but was looking for fathers to talk to. We are both in therapy and he has been on medication as well. Any advice on: how to juggle family life and work coping strategies for ups and downs how to deal with the stressors of enlarging our family advice from moms is also helpful

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Im in a Funk

Dallas, TX

So, I am a full time stay at home mom. I seem to stay busy with volunteering and book club and other things. I do hang out with my friends and do karaoke and stuff like that. I travel,I am going to mexico in a few weeks. Everyone is always asking me where i find the energy to do all the things i do... the thing is, i feel exhausted sometimes. I have a hard time staying on a proper sleep ad nutrition schedule that leaves me feeling MORE than sluggish. As a result, i am about 20 pounds overweight and feel in a mental and physical funk. I have struggled with depression all my life but seem to have it at bay right now. I am a member of 24 hr fitness and seem to find the time to go work out and do yoga but, again, not regularly. My husband and I spend time together at dinner and movies etc. I dont know. I just want to lay in bed all day lately. I dont, but I want to. Its like I cant get enough sleep. I would like it if someone were mothering me for a change. Like, waking me up in the morning and feeding ME a nutritional breakfast and asking ME if I wanna go to the park for some exercise and tossing ME an apple when they know I need a piece of fruit and telling ME its time to turn the tv off and go to bed. I am 37. Anyone relate to what Im saying at all? I feel like I am in a funk of some sort. I am unable to motivate myself on a daily basis to stay in a healthy routine and I am taking care of everyone else but no one is taking care of me. ???

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Is Anyone Dealing with a Aspergers Diagnosis?

Detroit, MI

My 11 year old son has had many diagnosis since kindergarten. The latest is Aspergers. We do see about 75% of the symptoms but still are not sure. School is also unsure about the diagnosis. I was wondering if anyone has dealt with this problem? My son is in a emotionally impaired classroom and is still not doing well in that environment. I feel like I need to get this under control before puberty hits and things could get worse. I would love to hear if anyone knows of any support groups. Thanks

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My 8 Year Old Son's Father Died and He Is So Different Lately, He Needs Help.

New York, NY

My son did not have a relationship with his dad for two years and when I told him I am going to find your Daddy and maybe you could start seeing him again well about 3 weeks later my son's grandmother calls me to tell me that her son had just took his own life. Only 32 years old. I explain tø my son that his father had past away and that I didn't know how. He wanted to go to the church to see him, However his grandmother inform me a week after it actually happened. So he said he wants to see where he is, But now he was laid to rest in PR, okay. This happened about 7 months ago. and my son seened fine, but now I am having lots of trouble with him. His step-father and him are very close but now it seems like he doesn't want anyone. Someone please help, where do I go, What should I do?

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One Twin Stillborn --- Seeking Support

Dallas, TX

Greetings, Everyone - Since the birth of my daughter, I am finding a lot of wonderful advice and support on these boards so I'm hoping that some of you can assist me once again. After 5 years of struggling with infertility, my husband and I were beyond thrilled to find out on New Year's Eve in '07 that we were FINALLY expecting. To make a long story short, we found out at 19 weeks that we were expecting twins --- a girl and a boy. I was considered high-risk from the beginning: I am 35, pregnant with multiples, and I developed gestational diabetes during the pregnancy. During a routine exam with a perinatologist at 32 weeks, he couldn't detect the boy's heartbeat. This devastated me beyond words. To make another long story short, I delivered a beautiful daughter the next morning via C-section, measuring in at 4 lbs. 11 ozs. She was in NICU for 4 weeks, and has been thriving like a champ every since. She is now 7.5 weeks old. But while I am so happy and feel incredibly blessed with my daughter, I cannot shake the sadness I am feeling for the loss of our son. We got to hold him, we named him, we had him cremated, and I set aside time to think about him every single day. I have never felt a hurt this horrible, and it's so hard to mourn a death while celebrating a life at the same exact time. I am guessing that this grieving is perfectly normal, and probably will be for a very long time (if not forever). It doesn't consume me, but last night while I was thinking about him I got so angry at God for taking my son away, I couldn't stop crying for a long time. There were supposed to be two babies to take care of. My little girl is supposed to have a brother. One of the worst feelings I had to deal with was to return everything "extra" to the store that we received for our baby showers: the duo stroller, the extra high chair, the playpen ... Is there anyone out there that's been through this (dealt with infertility, had a stillborn baby)? How did you get through it? Or does anyone know of any support groups out there? I've found some support forums online, but have not found any that meet face-to-face. I appreciate any and all responses. Thank you.

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Partner of a Asperger Male

Dallas, TX

Hi, I'm in a long term relationship with a asperger male. Is anyone in my situation? I need to talk to someone who understands. Life is hard right now. I have a part time job and I'm a full time student with no emotional support and struggling to raise my 15 year old son .

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Postpartum

Chicago, IL

Im a new mom with a three month old son and about three weeks ago I was put on medication for depression. I have just never felt like myself since my son was born and feel like I should be so happy and Im not and most days its hard to just leave the house or answer the phone. And most times I feel all alone. I am just wondering what others do to make it through this depression?

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Referral for Dr That Treats Children W/ ADHD

Dallas, TX

Hello - Is anyone familiar with a physician in Carrollton, or Frisco that treats children with ADHD? Does anyone have a success story on a prescribe medicine that they have used for a child with ADHD? I am considering trying something for my 14year old. We have tried all of the non-medical ways of handling this however now that she is preparing to go into High School and has barely made it through the past 4 years with passing to the next grade level, I just don't want her to fall behind in her studies. Every year has seemed like a big struggle for her to focus and stay on top of her school work. Her attention span is very short and if asked to do more than 2 things at a time she has trouble. We've used a couple of things from the health food store that claim to help with attention span however they haven't seemed to make a huge difference. I would just like to see her succeed so that id doesn't affect her self esteem, because we all know how cruel kids can be in school sometimes.

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Seeking Advice on ADD

Stockton, CA

im a mom of an 8 year old boy who is in 3rd grade, im taking him to therapy and the therapist mentioned that his diagnosis might be Attention Defficit Disorder, he has a lot of the characteristics of it and i have read a lot about it . im just wondering if there are moms out there in the same situtation, im soon taking him to a child physiciatrist for a deffinate diagnosis...any advice on what tratment to follow?

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Seeking Moms' Advice on Adhd/bipolar Disorder

Sharon, PA

My 13 year old son, who is the middle child, has been having problems. His grades have dropped, he cannot concentrate for very long. He has mood swings a lot. He cannot be in a crowd of people or he gets very nervous. Although he hasn't been diagnosed, the doctors have mentioned ADHD nad also bipolar disorder because his father is bipolar. I am worried about putting him on medication. Any advice from someone who knows about these disorders?

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Seeking Stay at Home Moms with Multiple Children near Muncie Indiana

Muncie, IN

I have a 7 year old son in the 1st grade and a set of twin boys that just turned two. I had a full time job that I loved before I gave birth to the twins. My husband is always gone on the road working so I do all the mom stuff, like sports, etc. My husband is telling me that I seriously need to consider seeing a doctor about an anti-depressant. He says I've completely changed since the twins were born. I see myself sometimes getting really frustrated with life in general. Does anyone have any recommendations?

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Should I Keep Paying This Counselor....

Portland, OR

Hi, Okay this is a personal request and it's so hard to talk about, but here it goes.. I am paying a counselor $100.00 an hour to ask advice on an issue. I have done this two to three other times years ago and I only needed to see them a couple of times to get the advice I needed. The problem I am having is the counselor I am seeing wants to go into my life and I don't have the time or money to do that and I don't want to. I just want to deal with a situation that is present right now in my life. The question I am asking to the group is this a reasonable request? Can I seek advice on a particular issue that shouldn't take months or a year? I am not asking the counselor to fix my life, I just want advice and support on a particular issue and that's it. I'm not paying them to do anyting else ($100.00 is alot)! my time is valuable and I don't want to spend it doing theraphy I just want advice. I think theraphy is fine, I am not wanting to pay for that right now, just advice. Any thoughts on this? G.

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Son Suffering from emotional/ADHD - CeCe

Houston, TX

My 19 year old son was diagonosed with ADHD in the 3rd grade and was recommended for medication. I was a young mother and my beliefs back than was not to medicate but to perhaps keep him active in sports. Well he played football from the age of 7 until his junior year in high school. My son was extremely hyper and I would always get phone called from his teachers and counselors and him being a class clown and not staying on task and being able to focus. I'll try to brief 19 years of history. His dad and I split apart when my son was two years old and it seemed like when he started school he was out of control. His dad was a part timer in his life and he didn't want to here about his condition; matter of fact he stated to me he must have gotten that from my side of the family(as if he had a recessive trait gene that make him damage goods. My son told me the reason he acted out and felt sad was because he missed his dad and he wanted to stay with him some time too. He also confided to counselor this is what he wanted; so his counselor advise me to try to work with his father toward these arrangements. What a big mistake which caused him more emotional problems because he became a victim of a controling man. Long story short he has gotton himself in trouble with the law and he suffer with depression and has serious anger problems. The weight of the world is definitely on his shoulders and he has no one to turn too. He's shutting everyone out but he's unable to catch hold to life. He's all over the page when it comes to making decisions. He's trying to establish who he is and he's lost and confused. He told me the other day he's tired of people telling him what to do and he feels like he can't do anything right. Well the truth of the matter is; he can't because he is suffering with a chemical imbalance and he think's unrational and he's impulsive. He told me he's afraid he might get hurt because he can't control his anger problems. Over all my son is a well respectful young man who has taken on a lot at an early age and finds it hard to cope. My son is crying out for help he's very troubled and he just turned 19 September 2nd;I'm afraid for him. Please someone give me some referrels for a physiologist because he needs medication alone with counseling. I live in Stafford but I would travel to the ends of the earth to get him help. Thank you ladies in advance for you response.

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Trichotillomania- Hair Pulling

Philadelphia, NJ

I have a 2 1/2 year old girl who is a very good child. At 8 months she starting pulling her hair when she got tired. Well she still does it and we have to keep her hair as short as possible. I have read a lot about it and it is almost as if she uses it as her blanket. She totally loves hair. She sucks her thunb and takes the hair and rubs her ear, nose, mouth. We have tried giving her a doll with hair so she stop pulling her own until she woke up one morning with a blue finger from hair being wrapped around it.She will actually crawl on the floor when she is tired trying to find a hair. I asked her why she does it and she says "I just love it". She does not do it out of anger like some it is only out of comfort. I don't know how to get her to stop pulling her hair. Can anyone give me advice?

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Worried About a Dear Friend

St. Louis, MO

Ladies, I am up late worried about a dear friend. We started becoming good friends last year, when she wound up in the hospital with a bad cough/hole in the lung. I am so concerned about her b/c of certain stressors in her life and I don't know if I should talk to her about them; she is very overweight (she jokingly calls herself a "white fat girl"), her husband is a downer, constantly harping on the kids (I've never seen any affection come from him, nor hardly a smile/laugh...I almost don't want to go over there anymore b/c he stresses ME out), her kids are very overweight. I watch the poor eating habits they have (tho my sweet tooth doesn't make me Ms. Know it all either) and it pains me to watch. This girl is probably the best thing that has happened to me in a long time, we are like 2 peas in a pod with our sense of humor. I sense pain behind her enormous sense of humor and I just wonder if I should mention any of this to her (minus her kids and all). Please help!

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