Kathryn Mayer’s humorous take on parenting makes for a great read, but if you think she’s only in it for the laughs, think again. Mayer’s blog Writing Out Loud serves a purpose beyond motherly advice: to help spread awareness for Newtown, CT and gun violence prevention. So how did she come to take on such a serious cause? We caught up with the outspoken blogger to learn more.
Tired of bragging parents and feeling like I was doing everything wrong, I thought a more realistic, humorous perspective on parenting might resonate with people afraid to speak the truth. My blog evolves as kids grow and circumstances change. I started anonymously, as a return-to-work mom blog when I was returning to work after my youngest of four was in 2nd grade. I evolved to humor essays on parenting middle school/teens then the Sandy Hook school shooting forced me out of the shadows, and I used my blog to create awareness for Newtown and gun violence prevention. Today, I’ve found balance, bought my own url name and write about all of the above.
Funny, raw, real.
I’m always surprised which essays people love. It’s never what i think, but it was with this one. While primarily a humor writer, my favorite post is not funny at all, but a tribute to my 2nd daughter.
Wait before posting; always make sure it’s a good idea in the morning then go for it. Never write about something you don’t want to discuss in the check-out line at the grocery store. And if posting/shared on a large site, either never read the comments or learn to laugh.
When kids were young: you’re allowed to be 10 minutes late per kid; I had four kids, this proved essential. As teenagers: listen more than you talk. They’re speaking volumes in their silence. Leave a costco-sized box of condoms easily accessible for the teenagers in your life. Like the fire extinguisher under your sink; they may never need it, but should have easy access just in case.
My kids are in high school and college so this will seem decadent to most: coffee in bed, exercise (use term loosely), work-work-work, review social media, log-off and write-write-write. High-school-sport-du-jour, cocktail, Netflix, rinse, repeat.
Always, always ask before you write about something. Give a funny/embarrassing story years to percolate before you post about it. They might not be over it yet. Also, your kids will grow up and resent you sharing so much; then they will fight over which kid you wrote about most and wish you wrote more about them. More people read you than you know; just because they don’t comment or share, doesn’t mean your words aren’t being read. You have a story to tell, tell it.