When Ghada Karam decided she wanted to work from home to spend more time with her daughter, she realized she needed a way to make her dream a reality. The result? Confidential Mommy Talks, a blog and parenting resource that combines three of Karam’s passions: “Motherhood, storytelling and marketing.” So how did this mother of two and self-described “lifestyle mom” manage to build a full-scale operation that now boasts a healthy blog following, newsletters and thriving social platforms? She gives us the lowdown on how motherhood allowed her to create her dream ob.
I decided to launch my blog a few months after my first baby was born. At that time, I had a full time job, and I was completing my master’s program. My schedule was full, and I had very little time to spend with my daughter. I figured that if I had the chance to work from home, I would have the chance to be closer to her. That’s when I started educating myself about blogging, as I had absolutely no clue what to expect — this entire world was foreign to me. I had to start from scratch to find my topics, discover my voice and make sure this would be a good fit for me.
Motherhood, Milestones, Tantrums
I enjoy writing most of my posts because they reflect my day-to-day life with my kids, and my life as a mom. It’s really hard to choose one favorite as they all reflect a different aspect of my life. One post I particularly like was written recently: “Why I Was Late This Morning (And Every Other Morning).” This post reflects my new life with two kids and the hard work it takes to get out of the house each morning.
Well, that’s a hard one… Until my second baby was born, I had some free time to focus on my blog when my daughter was in daycare. However, now that I have a baby at home, I’m still trying to figure out how to best make things work. I discovered recently that on the days I really want to focus on my work, I can sit in a coffee shop and work. This way I don’t get distracted with the housework, and I can quickly take a break to assist with the baby when he needs me.
I’m a parenting blogger, so I constantly get exposed to relevant parenting tips and recommendations. The one I like best so far comes the famous philosopher Kahlil Gibran, who says that “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself […]And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.” I like this statement because it will always be true, no matter how technologically advanced we get. It also reminds me that I need to look at the big picture, at the future, towards the time when my kids will get older and mature and will want to have an independent life away from me. Parenting is not about us, it’s about our kids, and that’s an important point to keep in mind.
My morning routine is explained in the post that I described above. In the morning, I try to get out of the house as quickly as I can to make sure I drop my daughter on time at her daycare. After that, I have about five hours to spend alone with the baby, so I try to juggle between the house chores, my work on the blog and a little fun time with him. Then, I pick up my daughter and we come back home, where we spend some time with her before we start to our night routine: shower, dinner and the endless negotiation to get to bed.
I find it’s very important to prioritize the work or else things will just get postponed over and over, until nothing ever happens. I make sure to dedicate at least one hour of my day to the blog, and I prepare a checklist of the important things I need to focus on each day to avoid getting distracted. Of course, with my limited time, I can’t expect miracles, but I found that by having clear expectations I don’t get frustrated.