Xmas Cards Vs. Holiday Cards

Updated on November 19, 2013
K.H. asks from Tempe, AZ
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I am currently getting my Xmas card list going and getting the card designed. I have a number of friends who are not Christian who I want to send a card to. I am not sure whether to choose a Merry Christmas or Happy Holiday design. For those of you who are not Christian, would you be offended or feel excluded if you received a Christmas card?

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answers from Seattle on

I will take whatever card is given to me. Happy holidays, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanza, Feliz Navidad, Winter solstice....whatever!
If you have a friend that would get offended by sending a "Merry Christmas" card then you have easily offended friends who are petty and looking for a fight.

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answers from Houston on

I'm black and I give cards with pics of black families celebrating the holidays to all of my pals no matter their race. No issue yet.

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answers from New York on

Very easy. Just do both. That's what I have been doing for years. I enjoy all cards whether they say Merry Christmas or Happy Han (spelling).

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answers from San Francisco on

I think the card should reflect the sender.
We celebrate Christmas, so we send Christmas cards.
Even to people we know are Jewish.
Nobody cares. Seriously, NOBODY CARES.* Everyone loves getting our cards and we get many lovely cards in return, some religious, some silly and some completely generic.
I think the media have made the whole "oh it's not PC to say Merry Christmas anymore" thing up. It simply isn't true.
*Well, maybe .00003% of the population cares but nobody sends those kinds of people cards anyway!

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answers from Chattanooga on

Only if I had a stick stuck where the sun doesn't shine! Lol.

I am agnostic, and definitely not Christian. When I receive Christmas cards, ( and yes, I celebrate Chrismas... Though I tend to stick to the original traditions of Yule rather than the Christianized holiday...lol.) even the ones that are OVERLY religious from people who KNOW my religious leanings, I choose to be happy that I was thought of and received a card... And I display the card along with all the rest.

It's the thought that counts... Though, if you have enough non-Christian friends, it may be worth getting a box of holiday cards as well as Christmas. While I am not offended by religious Christmas cards, I DO appreciate when someone puts enough thought into selecting a card for me that takes my beliefs into account.

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answers from Santa Fe on

I am not Christian and would not care what you sent. It's the thought that counts. If you happen to have a friend that is that easily offended, well...they are probably the type who likes to take offense at everything.

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answers from San Diego on

I am not Christian.
I am never offended when I get a Christmas card vs a Holiday card, I wouldn't even be offended if I got a Hanukkah card from a Jewish friend. I am just happy that someone took the time to send me a card at all and was thinking of me. I choose not to send a religious specific card personally because it doesn't have meaning to me. But the card has meaning from the sender and that is very important to me when I receive it.
I prefer cards with a picture over a generic card though. Anyone can buy a box of cards, slap a signature on it and send it off. I still appreciate them but not as much as one that includes something personal like a picture or a letter or something else along those lines.

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answers from Boston on

If you can get some "Happy Holidays" cards and send those to your non-Christian friends, they would probably appreciate your thoughtfulness. If your non-Christian friends are celebrating a different holiday at this time if year (e.g. Hanukkah) then a Merry Christmas card is not appropriate - they're not sending you a Happy Hanukkah card, right?

My husband is Jewish so we started to make life simple a few years ago and rather than keep track of two sets of cards, we just say "Happy Holidays" to everyone. And that way even if I don't get them out before Christmas, I'm covered too because of New Year's Day.

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answers from Raleigh on

No. I would just be so happy to get a card from you. :)

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answers from Dover on

I am a christian and do tend to purchase cards that say "Merry Christmas" but am not offended if I receive a "Happy Holidays" card. I feel that Happy Holidays are for every holiday from Thanksgiving into New Years so it's more inclusive; however, I don't think that Hannukah, Christmas, or Kwanza cards are intended to exclusive and am not offended if I receive any one of those or a greeting for them.

I think that if someone is offended by those three specific holidays, then they are really being too thin-skinned because I am sure that the greetings are intended to be "well wishes" from some that celebrates those specific holidays.

Just my two cents.

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answers from Chicago on

I send a card that is the appropriate holiday that is being celebrated at that person's house. Since December 25th is CHRISTMAS, I send a Christmas card to my friends who are celebrating Christmas. If they are not Christian, I send them a card for their holiday. I'm pretty sure that no one would be offended to get a Christmas card if they weren't Christian, but I figure you send a birthday card for someone's birthday, a graduation card for their graduation, so sending something that is the appropriate holiday makes sense!

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answers from Dallas on

I am Jewish and I can only speak for myself. If the card says "Merry Christmas" and then under that my friend writes "and Happy Hanukah to you!" then I am not offended. BUT I HAVE BEEN OFFENDED by a Christmas card that delves into Christianity and messages about "our savior" with no mention of my holiday.

Imagine if I sent my Christian friends a "Happy Hanukah" card with no mention of Christmas. They would think that was not only bizarre, but rather rude to ignore their beliefs and very important holiday.

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answers from Kansas City on

I don't think anyone is offended by being thought of by loved ones at the holidays, even if they don't celebrate them. I send my Jewish cousin a Merry Christmas card and she always seems happy to get it, the years she remembers to send a card, I've gotten generic holiday cards from her in return. I've also never received complaints from atheist/agnostic friends.

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answers from Portland on

I'm a secular humanist (my family does celebrate Christmas as more or less a 'cultural' holiday) , and personally, I do not care what sort of card I receive. I'm tickled to be remembered by those who took the time to consider our family and send a card.

That said, I do make sure that I don't send Christmas cards to my Jewish friends. :) I try to match up my cards to the religion or just send a more generic Happy Holidays/Enjoy the Light... I also like Happy New Year cards too. Better for procrastinators like myself, sometimes!

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answers from Springfield on

I sincerely doubt anyone would be offended. Rather, I think the non-Christians in your life would be touched by "Happy Holidays."

If I were Jewish, I don't think I'd be offended by a "Merry Christmas" card, but I would be touched if you sent me a "Happy Hanukkah" card.

On the other hand, someone whose not religious and/or atheist or agnostic would probably be just as happy about a "Merry Christmas" card as anything, because they really might celebrate the secular aspects of Christmas.

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answers from Honolulu on

I personally do not worry about nor does it matter to me, what type of 'Christmas' card a family or friend sends me.
It can be religious or not or just plain ol' generic 'happy holidays' type thing.
It is just them and their expression of it.
So what I receive from people/friends/family is fine.
I don't over think it. I don't worry about sending out a different card to each different type of person.
I just choose one that floats my boat, and our family.

Then, some people do NOT even send out Christmas or holiday or New Year's cards. Fine. No biggie.
It is also a budget thing too.
I know many people who don't send cards. Period.
And that's fine too.

Then, if you really know those people who you are sending a card to, and think they will be offended or fussy about it and what "type" you mail them, well, they are not being gracious. I mean, a card is a card.
Or just get 2 types of cards, if you feel your non-Christian and Christian friends will only.... want.... a.... certain.... type.

Personally, whatever type of card a friend or family sends me or us, well so be it.
I ain't gonna create an issue of it.
I mean, its just a card. They are thinking of us. Great!
Then, what about a person's culture? Not only their religion?
I mean, it gets just wayyyyyyyyyyyyy to complicated.

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answers from Washington DC on

We do lots of different cards because we like to, but if I was going for just one, I'd pick the holiday I was celebrating. Anybody who would be offended shouldn't be on my Christmas card list in the first place. I am not offended to get <insert your wintery holiday here> greetings. It reminds me that lots of people send us well wishes for the year and that I have multicultural friends.

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answers from Chicago on

I've asked my Jewish friends this question. They haven't ever been offended. They like seeing pictures of my kids and hearing from me. I've been sending them cards for about 27 years now.

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answers from Boca Raton on

I'm very Christian but do not mind Happy Holiday cards at all (I know this is the reverse of what you asked).

People that get jazzed up about that, either way, have their own issues to deal with. If somebody takes the time and money to address and mail you a card of any type just be happy.



answers from Phoenix on

we are jewish. it makes no difference what kind of cards they are. they are each appreciated (especially if there are photos of your family or kids!)
either way, they same warm feeling is received when the card is read.


answers from Phoenix on

I always thought my christmas card was a reflection of ME, not who I'm sending it to. So if I'm a christian, I will send out a Merry Christmas card to everyone on my list. I assume other religions would do the same. I'm not offended if I get a Happy Holiday card or whatever else. Good luck.



answers from Phoenix on

I think it's depends on what's more important to you, your faith or the potential to offend a couple of people. I would hope that if they're any kind of friend that they respect your right to be a Christian and profess your faith. I personally wouldn't alter my cards for a few when the majority of the people I hand them out to are Christians. On the flip side, I wouldn't expect any of my Jewish friends to send me a Merry Christmas card. That just seems silly and I would not be offended by a Happy Hanukkah card. I would just be pleased that they thought enough of me to send a card and at the very least, it provides me an opportunity to talk with my own children about different religions about respecting other people's religion and why we believe what we believe.


answers from Iowa City on

Nope. No offense taken.



answers from San Francisco on

We celebrate Christmas and Hanukkah in my house (I grew up Jewish, husband didn't grow up with religion but celebrated xmas). We always send Happy Holidays cards, since I do send to all of my Jewish relatives too. Personally, I don't get offended by xmas cards at all, but I do like getting cards that are more generic for the holiday season. Many of the cards that say "season's greetings" and stuff are definitely still more Christmas-y though - only a handful are truly wintery and not red and green.

Whatever you send, your friends will be happy to receive a card from you. No one should feel offended or excluded - they should be happy to be included on your list.

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