Working at Home Is HARD

Updated on March 11, 2008
F.D. asks from Montclair, NJ
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I started by business laast June and have been working from home with and staying with my kids full time as well. The nature of what I do is mostly time sensitive and if I want to get this business off the ground I have to give it all I got. I decided to start this venture because, I could not find a job in my field that woul be OK with me leaving at 5:30 to get home to my 2 and 3 year old. I am just so frustrated by that! But, It has literally been a tug of war for my time to do work between the kids, my husaband and myself. I can't afford to put them in day care for a coupke of days either. I don't know if this is a good thing for the kids because I'm always dividing my time and they don't get 100% of me. Most of the time I work until 2 or 3 in the morning, when they are asleep, but the next day I'm wiped out and too tired to do the fun stuff with them. I'm in a bad cycle. Any thoughts ladies?

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S.P.

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i do the same, last night/this morning i went to bed at 3:30am and i was up at 8 for my 2 year old. i also have a 3 month old and often find it hard to make my phone calls. I really can't get my 2 year old to stop climbing the walls when i am on the phone!

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J.D.

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F.,

You're not kidding! I run a very part time little home party type business, and even finsing time for that is tough.

I know you mentioned that you cannot afford day care even part time. Can you swing a pre-school program for a couple of hours a day a couple of days a week? My son's pre-school in September will be about $1,000 for the whole 9 month course, and will be 3 hrs a day 2 days a week. EVen that concentrated time could make a difference for you.

Do you know any other Moms in your area who work at home? Could you arrange a trade off with them? You have both sets one day, she has both another day, so each gets one full day a week?

Do you know a teenager you could pay to come in and entertain the kids for 2 or 3 hours after school a couple of days a week? Since you're home, it's more like a mother's helper than babysitting, and shouldn't cost nearly as much as day care. When you have some time to really focus on your business, you should be able to make a little more money, no? Would that offset the cost of an arrangement like this?

Just a couple of ideas, F., because I know this is way tougher than people think it is before they start doing it.

Best of luck in your new enterprise!

Jess

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M.L.

answers from New York on

I agree 100% with what everyone has said. I, too, work a party plan business from my home and I know what you are going through. Have you thought about hiring a teenager to come over as a mothers helper? This can help out a bunch. I'd love to know what type of business you've started!

M.

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R.W.

answers from New York on

Hi F. my name is R. and I completley understand how you are feeling .I am letting you know that there is an easy way to work at home non stress full believe it or not.I have found a great company that cares for you and your family not to mention your precious time with them.I love what I do and I know many moms have gotten to you but if your still interested let me know remember happiness and your time with family is more important .But if you can make money AND relax thats even better http://www.workathomeunited.com/officerswife

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K.R.

answers from New London on

Hi F.,

My name is K. and I am self employeed with three adhd boys at home. May I ask what you do for a living? Sometimes, It may be our choice of at home work that we try. I am in Connecticut.
K. Reilly
http://www.kreillyfinancial.com

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S.R.

answers from New York on

You are right, working at home can be hard, and it does not sound like you enjoy your current home business. I think the key is to pick an opportunity that best enhances and fits with your lifestyle, and can easily be shared with people just like you. My home business is based on just that. I belong to a network of work at home moms, with training provided by women who have become very successful, and will give you great support and training. The best thing is that I can set my own schedule, which for me is usually early in the A.M., I don't have to do deliveries, nor do I give parties, handle merchandise, or collect money. See my website for more information, www.redefinework.com

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M.P.

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Hello F.

It's great that you've taken the initiative to start your own business. The question here is do you have the right business that allows you to earn the amount of money that you're investing into it.

You may want to consider a different business that will not wipe you out by the end of the day, yet reward you financially for your efforts.

To help you with your decision, I'd like to recommend watching a short movie on my website (http://www.IBOPlus.com/mpuglia) about this business opportunity.

Jobs can be temporary with limited earning potential, but you are in control of your earnings when owning your own business. You're in business for yourself but not by yourself.

By working this business from home you'll gain certain tax advantages which will help save you money on taxes & have you will have the flexiblitiy to stay at home with your kids.

Not only that but you will be helping other people with their needs. It's a win/win situaltion.

For other work from home opportunities you can visit the Business Opportunities or the Employment section of my online shopping mall (http://www.YourFavoriteLinks.com)

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J.V.

answers from New York on

I too work from home. Now I've tried a couple of thing and now the business that own is GREAT! I work at my own pace, I do my job while I am walking to the grocery store, the doctors office, shopping etc. I have my job in my purse. I work with AVON and I distribute my brochures any and everywhere.I have stuck with this one and you know what its really great that I've found this. Now I have time to do what I like to do, which is being with my son and shopping.lol. and do my job when I want without feeling like I have no time. My husband even thinks its great and evens help me out by taking books with him to work and giving it out. THIS JOB SELLS ITSELF. check out my posting for AVON in brooklyn,NY.

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R.K.

answers from New York on

Hi F.,

This is certainly a balancing act, but you can have it all.....

Family, Life, and a Home Based Business....

A key to success is having the right home based business as many of them are not what they initially promised.

We have found that company that affords us to have it all....

If you're interested in checking out a tremendous opportunity working with many juggling moms....just let me know....

Talk to you soon!
R. K

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M.S.

answers from Rocky Mount on

Hi F., I feel you a 100% on this. Pure Romance by M. is my business. I make alot of money for entertaining a night in with the ladies. Its adult 18 years and older only. So, it is hard to try and do some things that need to get done while the children are awake. I have to stay up late at night and yes tired in the morning. I made a qoal that I would be in bed every night by at least 11pm. During the summer this was hard as the kids would go to bed later, now schools back in section it works. If you have to work alot of hours on your home business is it worth it? I spend maybe 1hr everyday on my business, whether its making phone calls and booking partys or typing in my orders. I bought a laptop so I type in my orders online while they are doing their homework at the table. They can not see what I am doing, but I am their watching them and helping with their homework. With a laptop I can shut it quick if need be and reopen to where i left off too. You shouldnt have to divide your time to your job and your children. But also working at home is tough when you have lil ones around. But then again its great because you can watch them grow. One thing that I love about my business, is that doing these partys I get to get out of my house for about 2 hours on a party night. This helps me stay sane with 3 kids. A mother does need some time to herself. I have 3 children, ages 7,4,1. My older two go to school now and when the baby sleeps is when i make my phone calls. The best time during the day to work your business would be when your children are asleep, dont let them sleep after 4pm so that they will be asleep by 9 the latest. That would give you time to spend with your husband and or your business. One thing that I have realized about TIME, is this. Take out a calender. Can you make your own schedule first off? I can and I love it because during the summer I dont do partys on weekends, those days are for my children. I take a calender for each month. The days that I dont want to work I mark off. Summer, i work mon-fri anytime after 6pm. No weekends. Now that its sept, I work wed-fri after 6pm and sat and sun 12-6. I set my own hours on partys. I also schedule which two days of the week i am going to be on the computer submitting orders and work my business (phone calls, emails, etc) I hope some of this helps. this is the only way I have found that has helped me and my family as my husband works swing shift. It might work for you it might not depending on your family schedule.
M.

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L.V.

answers from New York on

Hi F.

I would love to invite you to visit my website and learn about our company and business. We are a fortune 500 company that has been in business for over 22 years. We work from home with our children by our sides and set our own hours and work for ourselves and our families instead of our bosses and their families!! LOL

Feel free to visit my site and request more information.
www.WorkatHome4YourFamily.com

Plus until March 20th you can get started for a special start up cost of $1.00......yes ONE DOLLAR....this is truly amazing and also 100% money back guaranteed. You have nothing to loose by visiting my site and checking us out but everything to gain. Good luck on your future endeavors.

I hope to hear from you soon.
Linda
www.WorkatHome4YourFamily.com

PS I have been with my company for 3 years and I love it!!!

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R.A.

answers from New York on

Hi F.,
I am a stay at home mom who also started a business last July. I found that I set a work schedule and stick to it. I purposely do not work my business from the hours of 4 - 6 pm. I spend the time helping my son with homework, prep dinner and have dinner as a family.

I have explained to my son that I work from the house and that when Mom is in her room, on the phone, do not disturb... unless it is an emergency. It took some time for him to get with the program, but, we have settled in very nicely to the schedule. You have little ones and I understand that it is hard. Is your husband supportive when he comes home?

Starting your own business is not always easy. But, I feel working from home gives you the flexability to work around the important things in your life. I happen to be a single parent. You have a husband who should be helping you when he comes home so you can accomplish your work. It takes team work and a basic understanding that this business is being built for you and the entire family. It is very hard but in the end it is definitely worth it.

Im not sure if that helps you, but, I found when I set a "set" schedule it seemed to work. I wish you luck and hope that this helps

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