Why Does My 2Yo Insist That We Press on Her Ear When She Goes to Bed???

When I have ear infections and my ear hurts, pressing on it seems to warm the ear and make it feel better.

Even though your daughter doesn't have an ear infection anymore, she may be afraid her ear MIGHT hurt when she lies down. As humans we tend to avoid things that caused us pain in the past, even when they no longer present a danger. Like if you ate a food that was spoiled and got nauseated, you may get nauseated again when you smell the same food at a different time.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. She'll eventually realize her ear does NOT hurt when she goes to sleep and will stop one day. Just give it some time.

Hi J.-

My son does something similar to this when he is tired/getting ready for bed. He's 21 months and for the last few months he will take my hand and place it on the side of his face (sometimes covering his ear, sometimes not). I think it's a comfort thing and maybe a way he shows love (since he doesn't have the words yet). He doesn't do it every day, but does it in such a way that it's a very sweet and tender "request" (like he's asking for a hug for his face almost). I know it sounds crazy, but she might just want that skin to skin contact.

Do you just press on her ears for a few seconds, or does she insist that you press on them until she falls asleep? If it's that later, try using ear muffs or noise canceling headphones.

I'm not saying that she has sensory problems, but for some kids who do have sensory problems, they like the pressure on their ears.

I think I would go see an ear, nose and throat doctor not just her regular doctor. She may be having some inner ear problems. If your are really concerned that is the only route to go to give you piece of mind.
You also could just call an Ear, Nose and Throat Dr. and ask a few question to the nurse over the phone and see what she thinks. Also did you try asking this question on webmd.com You might get some clarity there.
If it was me it would be E,N & T doctor. My son had tubes before he was 2 and I am so glad he did. Solved a lot of problems in his health. Problems with the inner ear can lead to problems with balance, headaches and even nausea.

Good Luck
S.

My son wanted me to put my hand over his ear when he was going to sleep because of an ear infection. It then stopped for a while after the infection cleared up, but with his recent teething episode he started doing it again. I think it's partly to combat the pain and partly just for comfort.