Who Are the Angel Mamas?

I do, I have a tattoo of her initials and a halo above my heart, and my son will know when it's time, he is 4 now I do not think his comprehension is quite ready for that just yet.

I have an angel baby.
Ironically, my first baby is named Angel.
She was too young to remember the baby I lost at 6 months pregnant to fetal demise. I have never mentioned him to the son I had 7 years later.
I was in such shock when it happened. There had been no indication anything was wrong. One day during a routine ultrasound, he was gone.
It's not that it's a secret. I just don't talk about it. All these years later, I still remember the due date and wonder what he would be like.
I memorialize him in my heart. I find comfort knowing he for whatever reason just went to sleep with the sound of my heartbeat.
It's really too painful for me to talk about so I don't.
I know people who have lost babies to SIDS and illness and it's just such a painful thing. My loss seems like nothing in comparison. That's not to say that I didn't grieve. I was a mess.
I just have a very private and sacred part of me that remembers.

That's how I have dealt with it.
The etsy link posted by Momma L. is awesome. I see one I would especially love to have.
I do feel like the little boy I lost watched over me and sent me a beautiful healthy boy.
My angel baby will always be with me.
Will I ever tell my kids? I don't know.
I don't mention it, except for here.

My heart goes out to all the mommas that have known the loss of a baby.
I think how you grieve or memorialize or remember is a very personal thing.

Just my opinion.

I have an almost-angel baby. I used to babysit for a friend, and her son was only a few weeks younger than my 2nd daughter. Long story short, he died of SIDS in my care. On one hand, I was sort of glad, in a weird way, that it I found him and not his mother. On the other hand, babies and life itself will never be the same for me. I am fortunate in that he is buried not too far from my husband's sister, so I get to visit them both often. My girls are too young to remember him, but they remember his sister as a sister of their own (we still see her often). He passed a few days before Thanksgiving, so I always have a constant reminder of him around the holidays. Since he's passed, genetic links have been found that lead to SIDS, and in a sad way, it's a blessing... I am so educated on SIDS now that I always make sure my friends that are new parents know about the new technology and testing out there, for the sake of their babies.

Bless all the angel babies out there!!

I have three angel babies - two were only 10 and 12 weeks - Alexis was 22 weeks.

Yes, my other boys know about her.

No, I do not do anything to memorialize her...we say prayers for her..to go to a grave to visit her would rip my heart out...it's been 6 years and 6 months - and while the pain never goes away...thank God I know how to type - it only gets put in a box in my head and pulled out at times like this....I can tell you it's only one day at a time and sometimes it's really easy...other days - well, it's a meltdown day.

I'm sorry you lost your child.

I have four angel babies. I think often of all of them, and it is a strange mixture of sadness and greafulness for the two healthy children I have. On the one hand I know I am fortunate to be able to experience motherhood and all it's joys, on the other hand I know what I am missing by not having the opportunity to raise all of my six children to adulthood.
I have contemplated a tatoo to memorialize my living and angel babies all at once, but haven't settled on anything that I want to do permanantly yet. Someday, I suppose.

I have an angel baby..I lost him at 12 weeks (we never found out the sex, but I strongly believe it was a boy). I had been keeping track of my pregnancy with a diary-type notebook, and after my surgery, I turned it into a little scrapbook. Added the ultrasound pictures, a few cute comics about babies, our pregnancy announcements, etc. That's the only thing thus far, but it's only been a few months. We don't have any other kids, but both of my cats know, because I talked to them about it. They're good listeners. :)

I have one that still crosses my mind every now and then. My Nikki. I thought about her just the other day and my heart still hurts over losing her.
I miscarried her at 8 weeks. My husband & I were both devastated. She was our little girl. Yes , our son knows that she was in mommy's stomach and then had to go to heaven.
We adopted a 3-yr old little girl and I swear sometimes I truly feel she's my Nikki. Like its her spirit, I know that sounds nuts. But we have such a strong connection that I can't help but feel that way. Like I have always known her.
My son adores his little sister, before we even adopted her he was telling me and everybody else too " thats my sister ". :)

I have buried two children. You caught me off guard with the term "angel babies." We refer to our little ones as Saints in heaven. All my children know about them. Each night we ask them to join us as we pray. We named them after Catholic Saints and keep pictures of the Saints near the family pictures. They each have special Christmas ornaments and I wear a locket with a small piece a each of their blankets. I also have their foot prints saved and framed on my piano.

No, my heart goes out to all of those that do.

But I found an artist who makes beautiful angel baby sculptures as a small token for families to share. She made a custom piece for us when my dad passed away.

http://www.etsy.com/shop/TheMidnightOrange?section_id=675...

Yes, I have three...Will (3 months), Billy (5 months), and Allison (5 months). I named each one to remember them, and love them so much even though they only lived under my heart for a short time. Their brothers know that they existed and were not born. Life goes on, yet I hope they are cuddled in my mother's arms in the warm light of the hereafter.

I have 5 miscarriages + the loss of my son's twin at 11.5wks. The 5th was well into the second trimester, I buried the 87 positive pregnancy tests and all the flowers I'd received when I miscarried, with the ashes of our two dogs, under a cherry tree in our yard. I think of them every day, but don't do anything official. I think if I'd held them in my arms, I'd do a balloon release each year, as other moms I know have done. HUGS!

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I miscarried my first baby at just before 12wks (blighted ovum). We were devastated since we had been struggling with unexplained infertility for over 4 years and had gotten pregnant unassisted. I still have the positive pregnancy tests and this past Mother's Day my husband got me a copy of the only ultrasound that we had (only shows an empty sac) days before the loss.

My Christmas tree has only bird ornaments on it that I've been collecting since high school. The year of my miscarriage (and while I was pregnant with my second) I found a bird ornament shaped like a duck that says, "Let your spirit soar" on it. I hang this ornament in honor of my baby every year. I also found a birds nest ornament that had 3 eggs in it. I ripped one of the eggs out and left two in there to represent the two pregnancies that I had that year, a pink egg for my daughter who was born the following August and a yellow egg for my miscarried baby.

We decided to name our baby. Since we didn't know the baby's gender we chose a gender-neutral name, Jordan. I still think about the baby on it's due date (3/14) and it's passing date (8/26).

We've had a tree planted in honor of our baby. We'd like to eventually be able to donate a tree to local parks each year in honor of our baby but just haven't gotten around to it yet.

I talk about my miscarriage often. Not too often to make people uncomfortable, but I don't keep it as private and intimate as some others may like to. I feel that we need to share our stories...it helps other women going through this...and they need to know that it's okay to talk about their baby if they want to. Also, too many people who haven't experienced a miscarriage are uneducated about it and are often times hurtful (even though they don't mean to be) to families experiencing this and I feel talking about it helps others to understand it better (and shut their mouths when they don't know what to say). I wrote a whole series about my infertility struggles on my blog including a post about my miscarriage, a post on baby's due date, a post about how and why we named our miscarried baby, and a post containing the blighted ovum ultrasound that my hubby gave me as a mother's day present.

My daughter just turned two years old and we haven't told her about the baby before her yet because I don't think she'd understand it. We will tell her someday. I think it may be more difficult for her than for her future siblings if/once she realizes that she wouldn't even be here unless that baby had died since she was conceived only 2 months after the miscarriage. I'm 15 weeks pregnant now and she knows about the baby in mommy's belly and we read books about the growing baby and about becoming a big sister and she has her own special copy of each ultrasound that we get. Naturally if anything were to go wrong with this pregnancy we would have to tell her about it. Hopefully everything will be fine.

I have had three miscarriages, so...I guess I do. I lost them all very early on, all remain un-named, and my son is not aware of these losses. I just don't see the point in that at all. We all grieve in our own ways and heal in our own ways.

I think the sad part is that many women have lost babies and don't even know it because it was lost by their next cycle and flowed out with their "period" and never knew it.

I lost a baby before my triplets early on. I don't know if it was a boy or girl, but something tells me it was a girl, maybe because I wanted one so much after having two boys. I got very depressed and had to seek counseling. I didn't know miscarriages were so high until this happened. I knew my mother had many, my 1/2 sister had one or more, but I guess it just never hit me until it happened to me. They had to do a DNC and it was upset and confused later on at how much I laughed and enjoyed myself after the surgery because of all the drugs I was on. I'd never had surgery before. I kept asking the nurses, while laughing, "Shouldn't I be more upset about all of this?" I was upset about that later and people told me that I wasn't laughing about the situation. The drugs made me goofy, of course. But I still felt bad somehow.

Later, when we were pregnant with the triplets, we found out early on there there was actually quads in there, but the 4th one had already "demised". I detested that term they used. I didn't have time to mourn because I was worried that if I got upset it may cause another baby to miscarry so I focused on making it through the pregnancy. My husband mourned alone. It wasn't until the triplets 1st birthday that it all hit me at once. To this day I feel like someone is missing at our dining room table. I sense it was a boy for some reason. I did have a dream that it was a boy too. We will never know as the baby passed at 9 weeks and found out at 11 weeks so it was already dissolving back. The tech did take pics for me to have so I have those and have looked at them a few times.

I do not do anything for the babies. All of my children know about these losses. I don't seem to think about the first loss as much as the quad baby. I seemed to have made peace with the first loss. The quad baby is remembered more probably because I look at my trio daily and see someone missing and wonder what it would have been like to have the 4th. We believe the 4th baby was lost so the other 3 would have a better chance at survival. If the 4th would have survived they would have been born even earlier than 2 months early, smaller weights, lesser lung development and I was already having a difficult pregnancy. So it's almost like the 4th was the hero.

The triplets know about the 4th. My daughter feels the loss more than the boys as she's a girl and just has that motherly instinct. We don't have a problem talking about the 4th baby.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets