My question has to do with a whiny toddler. I know toddlers whine but I feel like my 19 month old daughter has been whining a lot lately. It is very frustrating to me because I am with her all day and I don't know what to do. Yesterday I thought if I gave her a midmorning snack, she would be fine. A short trip to the library after that was not very pleasant. She took two good naps yesterday too. After her second nap I decided to let her move by taking her to the park. And she was still whiny. We recently moved into a house with a nice size yard but I don't think having more space is the answer. I need to know how to stimulate her enough to diffuse whining. Please help. She has little interest in her toys and I bring her to a play gym once a week. Thank you.
My 7 year old has always bbeen and still is a whiny child. I tried all of the same things you are doing when she was little.Nothing worked. I think some kids are just like that. It is annoying. Now my new tactic is to just ignore her untill she can talk decent. I know you can't do that yet as yours is still little. I just wanted to let you know that i know what you are going through.
We always said "I'm sorry, I don't know what you say when you talk like that...please talk like a big girl so I can understand you." Eventually, she got the point (it took a couple of weeks) and now when she whines, we ignore her until we can't take anymore and then we answer her in an exaggerated whiny voice so she can't understand us...it helps her understand what we hear when she whines (she's 3 now), and in order us to talk normal, she has to too.
For some kids, it's a temperament issue. We all know adults who are whiny. My son went through this a few months ago (2) and I started, nicely, pointing out to him when he was whining. I literally would say to him "JD, you are whining. Use your big-boy voice and then mommy will listen". Then, I would respond when he changed his tone. It only lasted a month, but it was ANNOYING!
My daughter is almost 16 now but she was a whiner.
I used to put these words in a happy voice and sing them to her EVERY time she whined. "Wendy whiner go away, come again another day" As she golt older, all I had to do was say Wendy.
To this day she responds to "Wendy" if she gets whiny. She knew I would not listen to "Wendy"
i'd refuse to respond at all to the whining. the first time you can say 'i don't understand that voice, i only talk to people who talk like big girls' and then follow through.
khairete
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Janine has the right idea. If she gets the attention/results she wants from whining, it's not going to stop. She's really not to young to start teaching her different ways of expressing her needs. Ask her to speak in a nice voice or you aren't listening. Demonstrate the difference between nice and whiny. Then stick to it . Insist on the proper voice. Kids are smart. Also no tv at that age. Alot of the kids voices on tv are whiny.
