For to do's (non-cleaning) I alwasy have a list with two columns - one column is a to-do at home list (mail a card, re-organize a cupboard, change a lightbulb, whatever I've seen that's bothered me.) The other column is an errand type to-do (return a movie, groceries, etc.) I am constantly updating my lists - adding and crossing off daily. I have a goal to accomplish 2 things off the list daily and the errands only when I get to them. I feel crossing things off my list makes me feel like I have accomplished something and also keeps me motivated. Oh! I also have a separate list that I call project list. It's not really smaller day to day things but a list of big projects need to be done (staining the deck, going through boxes, etc.) I just tackle those once in awhile or when we have the extra time. This way I know to reference the quicker to do lists on a regular basis and not have to get confused reading through the million things going on in my mind :)
As far as cleaning, there are certain things I make myself do daily. Before I retire for the night - my dishes are done, counters wiped and floor swept. The rest, I tackle ona room to room basis. Once a week, I do a deeper clean/pickup of one room in the house. That way - hopefully nothing gets overlooked for too long. Also, I use the weekend when hubby is home to watch the kiddo so I can take an hour to do the bathrooms and vaccum. Thats basically it! Oh, and he does the laundry :)
Make chore lists maybe - if you liek to be super organized. With who has what chore and what day of the week it needs to be done.