When Did You Tell Your Older Kid(s) You're Pregnant?

I'm happily married and 18 weeks pregnant with baby number 5, and my mom won't speak to me right now either because she doesn't think we need 5 kids. Don't let your family ruin this for you. You are an adult and your life is yours. Unless the people complaining are raising or supporting your kids they have no say.

As for the rest, I m/c'd twice before my 4th child, so we waited till about 14 weeks to share the news, and like you I told my mom first and it really did make it so much harder then to tell my older kids (number 4 is only 9 months old so he doesn't care, lol), but they took it well. I'm also showing, and very obviously pregnant which is the only reason I told them when i did. I'm happy they know and are excited and it's really helped me deal with other people being stupid and nasty about it.

it sounds like your daughter wants a sibling, so share your joy! with my 4th the kids went to my ultrasound, my only daughter cried when she heard it was another boy, but otherwise it was a GREAT day for all of us and I'm so glad they were there. I like when they ask about the baby and what is going on and when we find out the gender and that they want to shop and joke about names. So really don't hide it from her just because other people are being dumb. And complicated or not, you've made it this far and chances are baby is just fine, You can't spend the next 22 weeks scared something is wrong, I've done that, it doesn't do any good. Good luck! and congrats!!!! Nothing matters more than what you feel for this baby, sure family should be supportive, but when they aren't they aren't worth your time. you have your own things to focus on.

I always tell the people in my house first... as in hubby then kids. Then I tell everyone else... we did wait longer to tell anyone about my current pregancy because it has additional risks since I had a blood clot after my July 2010 delivery. I found out in March & waited till around Fathers Day to tell outside the house... by then I almost 4 mo along & I knew if someone saw me giving myself a shot (blood thinner) while camping, there would be lots of questions - so I just got it over with.

Tell your daughter and if you can take her to the u/s... it would be neat for her to see the baby.

Oh, my family was not trilled about my last 2, but you know what... they don't pay my bills or have to live with my chooses. We love our kids & take care of them that is all that matters!

Congrats on baby #2 :) Well I don't think it matters too much when you tell a three year old child bc they don't know anything about how long it takes to grow a baby, so you are fine! I am 31 wks and my son is always asking if we are going to have the baby tomorrow, he is four and the concept of 9 more weeks is like forever!! I wouldn't tell her until you are comfortable with everyone else knowing ;) Kids are notorious for letting all know that mommy has a baby in her tummy :D If you want to wait, it's perfectly fine. You could tell her right before the ultrasound and then take her to "see" the baby. You just tell her that mommy has a baby in her belly and today you get to go to the dr and see a little bit what the baby looks like. I took both of mine to my ultrasound and they thought it was cool. My four year old especially. I don't think she will ask about the baby's father, but if she does, you just say something like 'our new baby is going to living with mommy and you, isn't that great!' If she continues asking, like well does he have a daddy, 'yeah, he does, he lives in _____' Just simple answers will probably satisfy ;) She may just wonder if he has a daddy and where he is or whatever, you can just keep it simple and truthful, works well for me. I have two SILs that have babies and the fathers are not in the picture and my four year old has yet to ask about it, so maybe you will luck out there! I am sorry your mom is taking it so hard, your baby is a gift and regardless of the relationship he/she was conceived out of, this is your child and he/she is a blessing! I am happy you came through a rocky first trimester, I hope the rest is uneventful and that your family chills out. But regardless of their attitudes, you just take care of yourself and those kiddos, they are challenging some days for sure but make life so worthwhile. Congrats!

My kids are shy of 10 years apart.
I had terrible complications with the beginning of my pregnancy.
I was scheduled for a hysterectomy due to a life of complications and didn't even realize I was pregnant. My baby was not expected to survive so we said nothing to my daughter. She had always begged me for a little brother or sister and I just couldn't see putting her through any of the disappointment.
It turned out, my baby was a fighter. He hung in there. Thank God. But, my daughter actually guessed when my boobs started getting really huge. That was the first place I started "showing" and boy, did I!
I think it's perfectly fine to wait, to make sure everything is okay. Take time for formulate how you intend to explain things, especially since your mother isn't thrilled. Maybe give your mom some more time to let things sink in so that your daughter doesn't pick up on her negativity over the situation.

That's just my opinion.
Best of wishes to you.

I'm sorry your family isn't supportive of the baby, that must be tough! as far as when my son knew,(he's 5) i told him the day i tested positive lol....and i make it a point to bring him to all my dr appointments. so he's very excited...but congrats on the baby

My son was 3 when I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd. We were going to wait til 12 weeks, but I don't think we made it that long before we told them. My husband kinda blurted it out one morning. I think around 10 weeks. You didn't mention how old your daughter is- will she understand what 'pregnant' means? I think anytime now would be good to tell her. You could tell her now, then she can come with you to find out the sex. My son LOVED seeing the baby on the monitor- made it more real and he could see his baby brothers arms, legs, head and all that. It was very exciting for him- so you may want to include her on it.

Good luck and Congrats!!

I told them right away with both of thier younger siblings. They were 7 and 4 when I found out I was prego with my current baby. I am 16 weeks with my fourth and they knew a few hours after I did. They also knew that sometimes things happen and babies don't make it. My niece was 6 when her brother was born. My sister was not with the father and was back with my niece's dad(crazy) but my niece knew that her dad was not her brothers dad. She wasn't sad about it...she could have cared less. Just excited to have a baby sibling,we(my parents and other sister) were less than thrilled. Good luck to you. If you are worried about screwing them up then you are probably a better mom than you give yourself credit for.

Right away before any friends are told.