What to Do, If Your 6 Yo Comes Home with Clipped Hair.

Updated on April 26, 2012
B.Q. asks from Lincoln, CA
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My daughter came home from school. We were doing home work. Then I cooked dinner. As I was cleaning up. I found about 1 inch of her hair on the table. Her hair is long to waist. I comb it out and you can tell it has been cut. to shoulder about. Only on one side. I have scissor put up high. So I know she didnt do it. I pretty much spend sitting right by her doing homework. Her hair was not like that before school. She is having some issues with 1 girl at school. They are in kindergraten. What should I do. She can't tell me what happen. But her vison is real bad. Should I tlak to teacher. Being she had a sub yesterday. She swares up and down she didnt cut her hair.

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So What Happened?

Thank you for your responses. Yes my daughter hair is to waist. it's cut rounded. not stright at bottom more rounded. but on the right side it's cut higher liek someone took scissor to it. Yes about a year ago. i caught her trying ot cut her hair. So I put anything she can cut with high. I know she didnt cut her hair at home. Becuase I was sitting with her. Had not noticed anything because I was sitting there. But once I cleaned the table I ntoiced it. But her hairs is so noticable now. I have to cut it. I talked to her until I was blue in the face yesterday. She was even crying saying that she didnt do anything. I will be speaking to teacher today. Just to see if there is any hair on the floor. She cried because she didnt want her hair cut. yesterdya morning I was telling her I wanted to cut some off. She got really mad. I don't think she would do this. as she wants long hair. But it does happen . abotu 2 years ago she tired to cut it before. But this time I can tell she is telling the truth. normally she will fess up. and she is really upset about this... There was also hair in her sweater when she took it off from school. So I know tis happen at school.

update**** I spoke to teacher this afternoon. She said one parent had called her. Said her daughter told her what she had did. She felt guilty for cutting my daughter hair . She did it why she was at the table. She walked behind her when my daughter was working. She didnt even know she did it. teacher said she is just mad a my daughter because she longer hair and this girl doesnt. Teacher said they are going to have a talk in circle tiem about this. This is so upsetting to me. Thank you for some of te NICE comments on her. Some people should keep rude options to yourself. I get on here to get suggestion or help to sometings going on in my lefe ith my children. but dont need to be put down.

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F.H.

answers from Phoenix on

Is this for real? Her hair is down to her waist but now its up to her shoulder on a whole side and there is an inch of hair on the table. None of this even makes sense. Where did the inch of hair come from if it wasn't cut at home and she didn't have access to scissors? You do homework, cook dinner, etc and you don't notice that HALF of her hair is gone until later? This doesn't make sense. Take her to the hairdresser and have it evened out. Good luck.

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☆.H.

answers from San Francisco on

What I would do is get it evened out, then start putting it up for awhile. If it's another kid doing this, pigtails or a bun would leave less opportunity for cutting.

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M.P.

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If you found her hair on the table at home it happened at home. Your daughter did it and is not fessing up. Either she found something to cut it with or she chewed it off. Think about it-if it happened at shcool it would not have made it home to sit on your table. And if it did make it home your daughter would have had to bring it home and then she would "know" what happened.
Tonight I would lie down with her at bedtime when it is dark and initiate a conversation about this. Be very low key and loving so that she feels perfectly safe that she would not get into trouble if she told you. I have found out so much from my boys using this method.

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M.R.

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Laugh and take a picture of her new 'do.'

I'm pretty sure ALL girls do this between the ages of 5-7 years old. And usually right before an important event, like school pictures or your sister's wedding...as was the case for me.

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N.G.

answers from Dallas on

Your daughter cut her hair at home and is not fessing up. If it was cut at school how was it on your table?

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B..

answers from Dallas on

There is hair on the table. Are you trying to tell me, that she went all day at school without the hair falling off! She cut her hair, mama. Of course, she is going to deny it.

Vision has nothing to do with it. She would know if someone was cutting her hair. Don't be naive here...

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Both my girls cut their hair when they were little, as did a few of my nieces. For some reason the boys never had this curiosity!
They ALL swore they didn't do it, played dumb.
Of course they did it, they felt stupid afterwards and they didn't want to get in trouble :(
I didn't make a big deal out of it. It's just hair, and they never did it again.

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A.C.

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I would think that if the hair had been cut by another child at the school that it would have fallen off LONG before the child reached home. Especially if the hair was cut at the shoulder and the hair was originally waist length. There's gonna be some weight to the hair and gravity works.

Therefore I'd be hesitant to talk to the teacher and accuse the other child. You can't be sure that your child didn't cut her own hair, nor can you be sure the child at school didn't cut your child's hair.

At this point I'd let the hair issue go and just get a haircut if it's bad enough. HOWEVER, if the problems with the other child continue I'd suggest a meeting with everyone involved.

Loving M ... I was assuming it was an inch wide section of hair. But I could be wrong. Maybe B. will clarify that part.

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S.H.

answers from St. Louis on

most kids swear up & down....in full denial....in situations such as this! :)

in most cases, hair cut at school would not fall out at home. The exception would be hair such as my son's, my sister's, & a couple of ILs. They all have tight curly, frizzy hair....it's fun to hide twigs, lizards, caterpillars in their hair! Stuff stays in there forever!

But back to your daughter, even with issues with another girl & having bad vision, it's pretty hard to believe it happened at school. What I'm really seeing here is Mom trying to place the blame elsewhere. Even if another child cut her hair....it's pretty hard to believe that your daughter didn't feel it, cooperate in the event....let alone not see it!

Sadly, this is a normal rite of passage for most kids. I've seen so many girls end up with "boy" cuts....& it's amazing how frequently it occurs around holidays & special events!

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R.H.

answers from Austin on

Lets blame EVERYTHING on a teacher...

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

Even a kid that would normally fess up isn't going to if mom is upset and you sound upset. She probably cut it herself whether at home or at school. Other kindergartners aren't the only ones with access to scissors at school, so is your daughter.

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H.W.

answers from Portland on

Let the teacher know to watch out for 'hair cutting'. No one witnessed this other girl doing it, so to accuse her or even bring her into the conversation would be unfair.

I'll say this as a kid who once (same age!) cut my own hair AND my little sister's hair-- I lied, lied, lied about it because I didn't want to get into trouble.

I also have nannied for a few families of 'young haircutters'.... they all lied about it too. They KNOW they aren't supposed to do it, and in the grand scheme of things, this is small potatoes. Hair does grow back. Keep doing what you are doing by keeping scissors where your daughter needs to ask for them, and then just tell her "if your hair gets cut again, you need to tell me". Also remember that our kids may see us (moms, esp.) getting our hair cut or trimming our hair, so some of this may be imitative play for them.

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H.M.

answers from Dallas on

If it had been cut at school it would not be falling off at home. I had a bad habbit of cutting my own hair when I was that age and would denie it like crazy. I got in trouble so many times for it. What finally stopped me besides getting in so much trouble for lying about it at school since I was the only one the hair matched. Darn that red hair. My mom made me get my hair cut very short. My son saw a picture of me looking like that actually last night and he said I looked like a boy. I would talk to the teacher but don't rule out that she could have done it.

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C.B.

answers from San Francisco on

Are the scissors the kids use in kindergarten sharp enough to cut hair? And how would that hair have gotten to your table? Seems to me it would have fallen out way before she got home.

Sorry, but I think your daughter did cut her own hair. Either that or someone else in your household. It doesn't make sense to think that the cut hair would not have fallen out before you got home, especially given the windy conditions yesterday.

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J.B.

answers from Atlanta on

If it was cut at school, it would have fallen off at school. She probably cut it and just isn't telling you. If this other girl cut it at school, and it somehow managed to not fall off until she got home, then why wouldn't your daughter tell you the other girl cut it? At any rate, kids cut their hair, sibling's hair, doll's hair, you name it! My 6 year old cut a huge chunk out of the middle of his head last year. Oh well, he knew he looked like a doofus, so he learned his lesson!

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L.M.

answers from Chicago on

I have to say I'm a bit confused though. You say you found one inch of hair on the table - her hair is down to her waist, but now it's short to her shoulder? That's clearly more than one inch. If it was cut at school, the hair would probably would have fallen away and not made it's way to your table. Not sure what to tell you, but ask the teacher if there was hair found in the classroom where our daughter usually sits, and tell her what you suspect and to watch out for it.

Is your daughters sight so bad she can not see what those around her are doing? Could she not feel her hair being cut? Thinking about my haircuts, you can feel your hair being tugged. Maybe ask her if she felt anything.

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

Hmm.
Hair pretty much falls off when it's cut.
There could not be an inch of it on your table if it had been cut at school (unless some got saved and if fell out from somewhere?).
Well, you're going to have to get the hair cut to even it out.
Ask her if she likes her hair long - she might want it shorter - waist length hair can be a bit much to deal with all the time.
If she likes it long, work on keeping it braided so it's out of her way.
It's hard to cut a little hair if it's all in a braid.
Maybe someone at school cut it or maybe she's experimenting (many kids that age do) and she cut it herself and is afraid to fess up.
Hair grows back.
It won't hurt to talk to the teacher so she keeps her eyes open but no one is sure what is happening yet - try to keep an open mind.
Take it in stride!
Just wait till she's 15 and wants to dye it hot pink and purple.

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

I don't understand. It was on your table and you think someone from school put it there???? That sounds odd.

I think she cut it once she got home or it would have fallen off.

How sad her sight is so bad. Do glasses help? Is she legally blind. How sad....

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J.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

Wow, just reading through the responses here and I can't believe how many people came off as catty, mean or attacking. Even if the original post was a little unclear about the circumstances about how the hair was continuing to fall out (I suspect the culprit did a 'choppy' job and the little girl has thick hair and it was 'stuck') there are nice ways of suggesting that there may have been a problem without being so rude. I've been on this site forever (my profile says 'charter member' lol) and I thought we were here to support and help each other, not point out what's wrong with everyone and everyone's kids. As for the person who freaked out with their blame EVERYTHING on teachers post comment, I don't think anything was blamed on a teacher. I think the question was just if she knew of anything unusual going on in class that day. Yikes! B., I'm glad the other mom called the school and you got the whole thing straightened out. : ) You are the best person to know your own child, and you know when they're telling the truth.

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L.A.

answers from Austin on

The only thing you can do is mention it to the teacher.

Not sure what she can do if it happened yesterday at school.

Just keep an eye on them.

Also remember even safety scissors can cut hair.. so if the hair was in the chair at home. hours after school.. ... Just saying.. She (your daughter)may not have been thinking when she did this.

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M.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

Aw, I just read your updates. Poor thing. I'm so sorry to hear that she's getting picked on in school. Do you know if this was the same little girl who was picking on her previously? I'm glad the teacher will be addressing it and good for the other mom for calling and fessing up!

Thankfully hair grows and hurt feelings heal.

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