What do you think of a 16 year old moving out and buy her bodyguards to act as her parents?
Here's the situation. My friend and her daughter don't get along. It is partly due to my friend's inappropriate behaviors. She talks sarcastically in front of her daughter and provokes fights with her children (she has another daughter who is 14). I think her behavior is inappropriate and I have confronted her. Her daughter has to move a pyramid before she could change her. They already go to therapy 1ce a week. The daughter came up with an idea. They know how to make money (don't ask how) and they will buy her an apartment. This mom on Dr. Phil is a millionaire buys her daughters body guards.
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The girl's parents will buy her body guards. Not they don't have t o worry about her doing drugs and doing crimes etc. The girl says she will disown her family at 18 one way or the other. She wanted to do this since she was 8. When she was 14, she told me about a plan of moving out in the middle of the night on her 18th birthday without notifying her parents leaving a not on her bed stating she's not kidnapped and not to contact her again.
Because, a body guard couldn't decide to take advantage of her in some way? A man abusing the vulnerability of a teenager without parents around...that has never happened before, right?
I think the whole "know how to make money (don't ask how)" part, could shed a whole lot of light on why their family is in chaos. Something isn't right in there home.
If their counseling isn't working, then they need a new counselor.
The more common sense thing to do here is call CPS. What is a body guard going to do? That's ridiculous. I certainly wouldn't look to the Dr. Phil show for guidance in life. That's showbiz...not reality. Bodyguards can't raise her. More important, she needs actual parents who can instill values and to provide guidance. If they (her real parents) are that incompetent they need to be reported to CPS and the girl and her siblings sent to live with other relatives who are indeed competent. If she has (they have) no family, then foster care is probably a better option.
Depending on her state's laws, she may be able to go through the court system to request a legal separation or emancipation from her parents and go out on her own. But from what you describe, this probably would be the worst option for that girl.
Sounds like she needs a responsible adult in her life with a gram of sense, but there aren't any to be found. On her own she'd be in trouble in no time if she's impetuous like her mother in any way. I can only imagine how she plans to make enough money on her own to pay a body guard a living wage, and take care of herself at age 16. With no college degree or anything going for her, she'll be used up or dead by 20. She needs parents and a stable home. Not drama.
What's with all of the questions about teenagers leaving their parents and disowning them today? I smell bored teen spirit.
A 16 year old wanting or needing to move out of her parents' home prior to 18 should go through the courts and try to emancipate herself from her parents. She'd have to prove that she can support herself, live on her own, still attend school, and everything else that comes with being an adult. If she can't live as an adult would then she needs to live with her parents or other guardians.
If they have the money I would hire one nanny and a body guard. I think the two body guards is much safer than living on the streets. 16 is young but I bet this girl had to grow up fast. If there isnt any family she can live with. Why not. It makes for a dangerous situation having two grown men living with her.
I think that they have a LOT more going wrong than bodyguards and apparently it's been wrong for a long time. If my DD was wanting to move out since 8, I'd be looking for why.
I find this all so strange. I graduated high school at 16 (going on 17), and left home. I had a loving family, but it was time to leave. I got no nanny or bodyguard. I lived a continent away from home. I had a wonderful year working and experiencing life before starting college. I would not exchange that year of my life! It never occurred to me that I was "young" or not as capable as any other adult.
I know I am in the minority opinion, but today's society infantilize our young adults way beyond what is good for them, and that itself leads to a lot of conflict and our teens getting into trouble instead of learning to be contributing citizens. That year before I started college helped me to be a confident adult with higher self-esteem, and gave me a backbone.
So, if she just turned 16, maybe she can use another year of guidance. Maybe not. She may already know how to be an adult. I don't know because I don't know her. I cannot imagine having lived under parental control for another year, and am so grateful, that I was allowed my wings!
Why would anyone think she'd listen to the bodyguards any better than she listens to her parents?
She needs to go through the courts. The parents should demand that. They are on the hook for her legally and if something happens to her with the bodyguard, they could be charged with a crime for allowing it.
Dawn
Her parents are still her parents until she sues for emancipation from them. Or she can just wait it out, keep a low profile until she's 18 years old and emancipation happens automatically.
The key with emancipation though is her parents have to sign off on it. If just leaves now, without legally severing ties, she's a run away.
Methinks this is Vissarion Z from yesterday.
Anyhoo, in case this is for reals I give the same advice I gave the mythical Vissarion - emancipate the daughter, then she can sue for custody of the younger children. Oh, and therapy and parenting classes.
Oh, and really - buying an apartment and bodyguards - BWAHAHAHAHA
Thanks for the laugh to lighten up my day.
