"What Did You Do....?!?!" - Aliquippa,PA

Keep it simple. When they're newborns, you really don't need to buy gender specific stuff if don't want to. There are plenty of adorable neutrals out there.

Just invest in enough sleepers and onesies to get you through the first month and worry about pinks and girly later if that's why you get.

Besides, even though you may not have a second baby shower, people WILL buy you new things anyway. So you can tell them to keep it neutral. Pastels are safe for both boy and girl. Just avoid pink. Everything else will work for either.

Until recent years no one knew what they were having until it came out...you'll do just fine. You will get so many gifts when people visit you in the hospital plus someone will offer to have a baby shower for you. If not that's okay too. Some people think one is all a person should have but I think baby's are so much fun they should all get several showers.

I would not worry about it another minutes. Just plan on using what you have and then if it is a girl you can put the boy stuff up for the next one.

Does it really matter if your little girl wears blue? Does it really matter if her initial toys were "boy" toys until you were able to get more "girly" things? Honestly does it matter?

you know what? kids don't need a lot. Your baby is due in April (CONGRATULATIONS!!) so instead of panicking...take a deep breath and know that you have enough to get you through the first few weeks....and to be honest - it doesn't matter if you put your child in boy or girl clothes. Use what you have.....the first 3 months are mostly in PJs or onesies...

You are good!!! Relax! Deep breath!!! Let it out slowly....everything will be fine!!

Wow!! Go talk to your grandmother or women of her generation. When I had my first 2 sonograms were not standard so we never knew if we were expecting a boy or a girl, my oldest is 36. You purchased a lot of unisex outfits and exchanged the stuff you couldn't use. I don't see the big deal. We were simply thrilled to have a healthy baby.

Oh, my can I answer this one. When I had my kids back in the old days there was no sonogram until my last two. We had to plan for a 'baby' period with things either could wear but also most showers, etc. were after the baby came to know what to buy. If not you got necessary things and got the others later. You can put yellow, green, etc. on both. Little sleepers for the first weeks/months can be a unisex color. We have lost the excitement of the surprise of finding out so enjoy it and if they're right then go shopping when she's a bit older and you feel like getting out. Just enjoy her/him. :-)

I just dressed my girl in boy clothing and then put a bow in her hair.

Think about it. Little girls can dress in a baseball outfit and have a bow in the hair to signify gender but you can never ever put a new born boy in a tutu dress.

Also we chose to not to know any of the genders of our children until they were born. In felt that knowing the gender before the birth would be like peeking at the presents Santa gave you before the big day. I like surprises.

Back in the time after the great depression my mom had a boy after having me, a girl. She used my clothes on my brother. A baby doesn't care what he wears. Find a way to relax and let go of needing perfection. Boy or girl. It will work out.

As Cheryl O. says your baby won't need much. Sleepers, even if blue, will look just fine on a girl. My 8 mos old granddaughter wears blue. It just doesn't matter in the scheme of things.

Later: You can go ahead and buy some girlie things. Just don't remove the tags so you can exchange or return them if you have a boy.

Okay, first off...why aren't you sure? I mean I know that ultrasounds can be mistaken, but they are usually pretty accurate, so unless they said they didn't get a good read, I'd be pretty confident that you're having a girl. And secondly, I agree with the others.

I had a girl first and then a boy but we didn't know what were having either time, so granted, I did have quite a few unisex clothes to begin with, but you'd be surprised how much stuff can be used again. Plus, and here's the biggie, if you're really concerned about the clothing issue, people will want to buy you more stuff once that child arrives. Family, friends, whoever will be buying you girly stuff b/c people can't help themselves. So, don't stress, wash what you have and let it ride.

didn't know with my 1st two pregnancies....& then we weren't totally sure with our youngest. Life happens.....relax!

Wildest story: my SIL didn't know she was having twins....until the 1st one was born. This was 25 years ago when ultrasounds were used only for medical issues.....:)

Babies really don't need all that much at first, right?
Don't stress! Be blessed!

You can always stick with buying diapers, wipes and formula (if you use it) cuz that's stuff you will need no matter what. I'm sure it probably is a girl so have names ready.

You can buy things you will need in generic colors right away and worry about other clothes later. I mean, a newborn doesn't wear much exept gowns and socks since all they do is sleep for a while. I wouldnl't worry about clothes until later, and then hit all the clearance racks at all the stores first before paying full price cuz they grown out of clothes quickly so young.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

You can get pay out of pocket for another ultrasound &/or a 3-D ultrasound, as well, to be more sure of the sex.

Just wear what you have on the baby, no matter what the sex. It doesn't matter when they are tiny. If you end up having a girl, just laugh and tell others that you don't have anything for a girl - maybe they will throw you a shower! You sure could use one!

Dawn

My first was a girl, second was a boy, and so I did put him in some girly sleepers, but my family didn't think it appropriate and bought a lot of boy stuff. I think tho it is more acceptable for a girl to wear more boyish looking things. I had lots of blue for my daughter. I love girls in blue. Then again I love boys in blue too. and white. I would say use what you have. If your next is a girl, she won't mind being in her brothers clothing, and people will buy her gifts as soon as she is born if she is a girl. You could always get a few of the headbands to put on her and then everyone will know she is a girl even in boy sleepers and onesies.

easy, get another ultrasound. you can either demand one from your OB. our OB gave me a second ultrasound at 10 weeks ( I was going to a perinatologist due to medical issues so I had my first ultrasound at 8 weeks which is when we found out our 2nd child was really our 2nd AND 3rd) because we were overly worried about loosing one of the babies. she said that she didnt want me overly stressed or worried and that a simple 5 minute ultrasound wouldnt hurt. Or you could pay for the 3d/4d one. but if you have a doc that refuses to give you and ultrasound if you ask then you should really switch doctors.

I say that you are in a good position either way because if it is a boy you are set with boy stuff but if its a girl then you have the essentials and can build from there if need be but can you imagine if you had all girl stuff and were expecting a boy? You just cant feel right about dressing a boy up in frilly pink tutu stuff but a girl in 'boy' clothes is not that bad at all
Plus how often do you really plan to dress them up in the first few months with a total 'boy' get up? Im sure it will all work out and you will have plenty of time to get 'her' some appropriate clothes as time goes by if it is a girl
Congrats on the baby and try not to stress =)

Doctors can't say 100% sure, because there's always a slight chance their wrong. If they told you a girl then it is probaly a girl. I worried the same way and they were right. I would get stuff for a girl. Just don't go crazy on taking tags off and washing stuff until she is born. Since its a different gender than your first you should have a sprinkle. ( not a full blown shower but one where friends and family get a few things you would need for a girl since you have boy stuff). Best wishes!

We didn't find out the gender of any of our babies because it saved us the hassle of pre shopping. Babies only need onesies to sleep in for the first weeks of life, so there is plenty of time to go get some pink stuff if you must :).
Baby #1 was a girl. When she outgrew her newborn unisex jammies, we bought her some girl clothes, but most of we what she got was gifts form relatives, and we leaned toward gender neutral stuff when it was an option. We saved all her stuff.
Baby #2 was a boy. Just jammies for first few months. He got hand me downs from boys we knew and wore some of big sis's unisex stuff.
Baby #3 is a girl. We've never had to buy her anything and she has MOUNTAINS of clothes between hand me downs and gifts.

You are stressing WAY too much over this. We knew our first was a boy...the 2nd wouldn't cooperate on the ultrasound, so we didn't know until she was born. I'm sure you must have some neutral colors from the first one. (Yellows, pale greens etc.) Have those washed up. If it's a girl, I'm sure there will be girl gifts from family and friends...you know he/she will grow quickly so don't really need that many newborn outfits anyway.

I am expecting #4 (3 boys already) and haven't know with any what the sex is. For me even though I already had children people still bought a lot of clothes. I plan on just getting out gender nuetral clothes and see what happens. I am sure as for me if you have a girl everyone will jump at the chance to buy you clothes!

Well, until around 15 or 20 years ago when ultrasounds and amnios became popular, normal procedures, no one knew what they were having! Plenty of people still don't find out. Stick with neutral colors until the baby arrives. Newborns don't need tons of gender specific outfits! There are tons of precious yellow, green, white, ivory, brown/khaki, red, etc., onesies, blankets and swaddlers out there.

You can also go pay for a 3D ultrasound later on if you really want to know before the birth.

with all 4 of mine we never found out the gender, i went to the store with the first and got tee shirts and white socks, and a unisex white sleeper, and hat. i was given a few unisex sleepers as gifts too, but babys dont really whear alot during the first few days, a warm blanket hat and tee shirt and mommy, is all they really need, and we did the same thing w each baby, each baby gets a new white (what ever i like at the time) sleeper and matching hat for the first day, but i found people drop off cute outfits as gifts too. with one baby we went and registered for clothing for both genders but didnt tell anyone till baby came (you can go online and cancle the clothing for the gender you didnt have) and then if people ask when you call to announce babys born you can tell them where your registered, pluss when you go shopping you can pick what you want. and baby clothhes are so small its only one load of laundry.

go by the heart rate... if its a high heart rate its a girl, if its a lower heart rate its a boy

I didn't have a second child, but I did not find out the sex of my first. Wanted it to be a surprise. So, I just got things that were neutral. I will admit I did have some boy clothes and she wore them. I didn't have any money to go out and buy things so I had to use what was given to me. And guess what? It was okay! Nobody died! The fashion police did not arrest us! Use what you have.