Were Their Answers Why You Miscarried?

I miscarried, but earlier than you did. I have a friend who miscarried at 18 weeks and no idea why but accepted that as the fact and it was very difficult for her and her husband. She got pregnant after that incident and not sure how long after and had another boy. She had a miscarriage before the first, then had two boys and miscarried again at 18 wks and got pregnant again. She thinks she may be in premenopause stage and so possibly no more babies but they are happy with the three boys they have. If you want to talk about your feeling and just to cry, letme know and we can talk. Don't worry about it right now because it will do no good until you are absolutely sure that the baby has no heartbeat. Make sure they are not mistaken. I'll be praying for you and your family.....

I've had 2 miscarriages although I wasn't as far along as you. With the second I made it to 6 weeks and developed some light bleeding. I went into the docs and they did an ultrasound and said there was a VERY faint heartbeat and told me it didn't look good. They also drew some blood which revealed that I had low progesterone. I later miscarried at 8 weeks.

Some people believe that low progesterone causes miscarriages although this is difficult to confirm since most doomed pregnancies will present with low progesterone. Most doctors won't do a formal work up until you've had 3 consecutive miscarriages but a simple blood test at the beginning of the pregnancy can be helpful. If your Hcg and progesterone levels are normal than the outcome is usually good. If you have low progesterone you might be at risk for another miscarriage and they can put you on progesterone supplements early on in the pregnancy if you get tested right away - although the effectiveness of supplementation is also open to debate.

Not all doctors are this proactive but you can talk to your doctor about it and if they are not receptive you can find another doctor who will listen to your concerns and address them.

My first pregnancy was a miscarriage, then I had a healthy baby the next time. Then we tried after our first child and I had another miscarriage. Then I went to a fertility specialist and confirmed that I have polycystic ovaries which can lead to low progesterone levels which in turn can cause miscarriages. I was having a hard time getting pregnant the second time around so I took Clomid (tablet that induces ovulation and can help the body with progesterone production until the placenta takes over at 12 weeks gestation) and now I have two healthy twin boys that were born 2 weeks ago. :)

I wish you all the best of luck. Take some time to heal and grieve. I was devastated the second time around and didn't think I wanted to try again but over time the desire to have another child returned and I was ready to try again.

I have heard that sometimes the placenta is inadequate so that soon after 12 weeks or so when the placenta 'takes over', the baby can't survive. Be well and good luck.

Samantha's reply was quite interesting. I'd never heard that but it makes sense. Low progesterone is one indicator of toxicity and high levels of lead and other toxic metals and chemicals will be detoxified into the fetus. The miscarriage is nature's way of detoxifying the mother. Better to do a good detox BEFORE pregnancy. Do a metal challenge test or go to a naturopath who does testing to make sure everything is in order. Fill up on needed minerals BEFORE pregnancy in a form that your body will understand. Most supplements are simply excreted without being absorbed. Whole food supplements are best.

All the best and sorry to all who had to experience a miscarriage.

The exact same thing happened to me last year; I went for my 12 week sonogram and did the triple screen, and everything was fine. THen, when I went to my 16 week visit, there was no heartbeat. After the D&C, they did more genetic screenings and analysis, and everything was normal. It was a total mystery until about 4 months ago, when I went for a routine visit and one of the doctors suggested I get a clotting study done. And sure enough, something is wrong with one of my clotting factors, which is probably what caused the miscarriage.

Just my two cents.....

first of all, my condolences. it is just so excruciating to go through. if it's going to happen, you definitely want it to happen earlier. for me, it happened at 11 weeks (found out at 12...when i thought i was safe). i had genetic testing and it turns out it was down syndrome. i'm now 7 mths pg (got pg again on the first cycle). it's been hard to relax this pregnancy, but i'm hopeful.
all the best to you!!!

hi K., im so very sorry for your loss. just wanted to let you know, one of my friends miscarried at 4 months, no reason. she was devastated. she went on to have 2 amazing beautiful kids. her sister in law miscarried at 7 mos, it was awful, they said it was turners syndrome, she went on to have 2 beautiful healthy kids. my cousin miscarried at 5 months, twins, no reason. she is pregnant again right now... hooray!! and is in her 7th month, she just went on partial bedrest as a precaution, but all is well. by the way, while i was pregnant with my first, i knew 5 people who miscarried, i was completely freaking out, i went running to my doc in a panic, told him that my 5th friend had just missed, (she was the first one i mentioned above), and my doc just nodded and said, "thats about right", said its about 5 out of 15 normally. i was shocked. my point is that i suppose its natures way, as awful as it is, and i dont see that it usually has an impact on subsequent pregnancies. i wish you all the very best.

Hi K.,

Yes, I did and unfortunately it was my first pregnancy so I was inconsolable. I did have two successful pregnancies after that and they are now 24 and 20 years old. They never did give me a reason just that it happens sometimes and that I could try again in three months which I did successfully. I remember I stopped feeling pregnant at around 14 weeks, my breasts were no longer tender, I wasn't tired, nausea went away and I didn't think anything of it. At my check-up I told the doctor and as with you there was no heart beat. They had to do a DNC and I was fine after that. I know how hard it is to go through this and it doesn't make it any easier but trust me you are not alone. Good luck

K.,

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. I recently miscarried at 6 weeks and was heart broken, I can't imagine how awful it must be to go through that once you believe you are "safe".

I got pregnant again right after, never even got my period and I'm now 9 weeks along and everything looks good so far. I am cautiouly optimistic, but we did decide to wait longer to share the news. I wanted to try again right away because I want my son to have a sibling and I'm 38 years old. If I was younger I would have taken a few months off to collect my thoughts.

Both my mother and mother in law had miscarriages, as did all of their friends and many of mine. Its just something that happens, I guess, but luckily it rarely indicates trouble for any future pregnancies.

Good luck,
R.

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 7weeks and did have a healthy pregnancy after. The baby is now 6 weeks old. Give yourself time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally. Also see your doctor and have a full blood work done to check thyroid and other basics and then try again if you choose. God Bless! A.

Dear K., I am so sorry for your loss and yes you must grieve for you unborn child. Although I do not have answers for you, I hope the exam will. I trust that the Lord had His reasons and your baby is safe in His hands. You and your family will be in my prayers. Grandma Mary