Weaning 14 Month Old Picky Princess

Updated on January 28, 2011
A.T. asks from Tracy, CA
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my 14 month old daughter stopped drinking breastmilk from bottles at 5 months old. She drinks water and juice from a sippy cup, a normal cup and even a straw. She won't drink breastmilk from anything but my breast - and I've given her cow's milk and she looks at me like I've lost my mind and spits it out.
She eats cheese & yogurt and will drink milk off a spoon while she is mooching cereal off us at breakfast - so I know cow's milk does not bother her tummy.
I am soooooooooo tired of breastfeeding and every month when I get my period she refuses to nurse for 3 days - so I know she is physically ready to quit. Any tricks???
My son was weaned at 10 months because I went back to work - but he always drank from a bottle and was not picky if we gave him formula, breastmilk, cow's milk or a mixture of them. He was really easy-going - tyypical guy - didn't care how the food was delivered as long as it showed up!
My DD is very picky...

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Thanks to all for the ideas! I have tried mixing milk with banana juice to make it sweet - but that was a flop - the juice was yucky so I'm looking for an alternative. I want to wean so I can go on a diet and loose my baby flab AND I do not want to keep nursing because it is exhausing for me and playing havoc with my body - my periods are brutal. I don'twant to be one of those moms that can't stand up to her kid and end up breastfeeding until Kindergarten. LOL!! DD just cut her first tooth yesterday so nursing days are now numbered for sure! I was starting to worry we were going to have to get tiny dentures made! ;)

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answers from Tampa on

Congrats on nursing past 1 year!!

Sounds like your daughter still wants to nurse. Why is it such a hardship for you to continue nursing your daughter? At this age, her nursing is probably at MAYBE 10 minutes per session - if that long. How can that ruin your day even if it's 5-6 times a day? Maybe you need to ask yourself why you are so frustrated with breastfeeding and try to work towards solving that rather than forcing your young barely into toddlerhood toddler to stop what she needs.

Nursing at this age soothes so many problems, insecurities, hurts and allows her to recharge with Mommy. Nursing makes them feel safe, loved, comforted and gives them a steady access to superior nutrition and antibodies - no matter at what age.

I should also remind you - each child is different just like each pregnancy is different.

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answers from Washington DC on

My DD didn't like cow milk, either. I've done two things:

1) given her lots of other dairy (or fortified OJ) for calcium and given her flavored milk to get her to drink it

2) Pick a nursing that she can do without (like mid-day) and distracted her. "DD are you hungry? Here's some cheese. Are you thirsty? Here's your cup." Then I slowly worked down each nursing session til we eliminated it. Bedtime has been last, but she has a 3 minute countdown and that's it, no more. If she asks during the day, she gets reminded that "mommy milk" is only for nighttime. I started with afternoons, then morning. It seemed to be easier. If she associates your bed or the couch with nursing, sit with her somewhere else when she's likely to ask to nurse. Change the association.

Our pediatrician said that as long as DD eats well and gets other dairy, cow milk was not necessary. You could also try goat milk, but I'd just give her what she will eat/drink as long as she gets it somehow.

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answers from Sacramento on

The idea I'm getting from your post is that though you do want to wean her, you are concerned that she won't get enough milk. I wouldn't worry about that. Just continue to offer her milk, maybe put just a small amount in the bottom of a cup, so that if she refuses it you aren't wasting a lot of milk. Then be sure you give her more dairy products to make up the difference. Yogurt is my main choice in replacement of milk for children, but cheese, cottage cheese and other options are plentiful. So what if she never likes to drink milk as long as she's getting the nutrients from other sources. I wasn't a big milk drinker as a child either.. in fact my parents always had to add chocolate to mine to get me to drink it (which is NOT an option I would highly recommend). However I have strong teeth and bones and have not had a problem from the lack of drinking milk as a child.

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answers from Cleveland on

I guess I am kind of a "bit the bullet" type of person, but if you are ready for this to be over, end it. Tell her you guys are going to count down until she is a big girl and give it week. Every day in the morning say "Only six more days until you are a big girl and don't drink from Mommy anymore!" Remind her of this every time throughout the day when she's done nursing. Make a chart where she can rip off the day in the countdown, or let her X off days on a calendar. Make it an exciting thing for her to do. The day she wakes up and there's no more nursing, have a party in the morning. Get paper hats and little toys that make noise and celebrate her being a big girl. She might get upset when she really realizes what it means. That's ok. Just stick to your guns and tell her you are a big girl and there is no more milk in mommy. Trust me, when she wants it enough, she will finally drink her milk from a bottle or sippy. Good luck mama!!



answers from Sacramento on

Congrats on BFing for over a year - you're definitely in the minority and you should be very proud of yourself for making it this far, especially if it's been less than pleasant for you.

The book "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" has a lot of great suggestions on ways to wean - both cold turkey (and why they're probably not the best option for most toddlers and their moms!) and slower ways that are less traumatic and difficult for both parties.

To play devil's advocate: You can go on a diet even while breastfeeding. You don't want to lose more than about a pound a week, but if you're dieting in a healthy way you shouldn't lose at a much faster rate than that anyway. And just because a child is still breastfeeding at the age of five doesn't mean that her parents can't stand up to her! It means that they have weighed their options and feel that it is in their child's best interest to continue to breastfeed. Trust me, you've got a long way to go until five! :)



answers from Gainesville on

Just because she refuses to nurse while you are on your period doesn't mean she ready to wean. It means she doesn't like the taste of the breastmilk when you have a hormonal shift. Very common.

You might try organic whole milk. It has a better flavor than regular whole milk. My 1st didn't care for regular whole milk but would drink the organic. Warmed is best since that's how breastmilk comes. You could also try a bit of Ovaltine. It's not pure sugar like chocolate syrup and it has some vitamins/minerals.

If she is eating yogurt, cheese, other calcium rich foods or calcium fortified drinks and you are ready to wean then she'll be ok till she begins to accept whole milk. She won't get depleted in the time it takes for her to figure out her new milk delivery system. Nursing is a two-way street so you both need to feel good about it to continue. Over a year is fantastic!



answers from San Francisco on

My suggestion is that when you get your next period and she refuses to nurse, continue on with no nursing when she would normally nurse. Tell her mommy milk is all gone.
Make sure she gets enough dairy products if she still will not drink milk. You could also try to warm it up or give her chocolate or strawberry milk.
Good luck!!

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