My friend is 47yrs old and desperately wants to get pregnant but the issue is that she had multiple abortions as a teenager. She has been trying for more than ten yrs without any luck. Does any one think she might ever get pregnant.
The issue is not the abortions she had as a teen, the issue is that she is 47 years old. The odds of her getting pregnant without help at this point are slim, to say the least. She should talk with her gynecologist about her desire to get pregnant.
It is possible? Sure. Is it likely? No.
Unless the abortions caused major physical harm (which would require medical intervention), they're probably a non-issue. Her AGE, however, is a huge issue. Eggs degrade over time. Later in life even though you still have your period, you don't ovulate every month (and even when one does, eggs are often too degraded).
After 10 years, and at 47, she should be seeing a fertility specialist for a LOT of tests to see if it's even medically possible, and if so, what her chances are.
Do women get pregnant in their late 40's? All the time. Many women even into their 50's. Some even during menopause. But it's FAR more difficult to concieve and carry (2 very seperate issues) for most women.
Without some kind of medical intervention...no, I don't think she will get pregnant. It probably has nothing to do with abortions and everything to do with the fact that she is nearly 50.
I would never say never, miracles do happen. But at 47? Not very likely. I'm 48 and have started "the change". I can't imagine having a child at this age. No not at all. Good luck to your friend.
A woman's fertility starts to slow down after age 35. With each year, it decreases even further. It would be very difficult for someone to get pregnant at her age without medical intervention.
At 47, it's not likely. (With or without help.) Only an OBGYN and fertility specialist can tell her what her slim chances are. Unfortunately, after 10 years and her age...it seems as though her body has told her the answer. She really needs a dr., if she has any chance. Sorry :(
Its about time she see an OB/GYN and get a complete check up.
The problem is not that she has had abortions. The problem is that she is 47 and the chances of pregnancy are strongly age related. While her chance of success is low, her best chance is to work with a fertility specialist. The sooner she gets started, the better.
I think that she needs to have a full check up with an OB/GYN who will go in and take a look. I found that I had scarring on my tubes from Endometriosis and a case of PID that I got from my ex many many many years ago.
This doc told me that my tube, I only have one due to a ruptured ectopic pregnancy, was very inflexible and that getting pregnant the normal way would most likely be impossible. That if I wanted to use any other way of doing it that he would help me. That I "could" be pregnant and carry a child just fine as far as he could tell. But doing in vitro or some other method was just too expensive for us.
So a good OB/GYN check up with a doc that will do the testing to see what might be the issue would be the best way to go.
She needs to do this now or it may be too late. If she is having regular periods, not peri-menopausal, then he may be able to find what is keeping her from getting pregnant.
Also, has the guy been checked out? He may not have strong swimmers. They both need to work with the docs to find a way if it's possible before it gets to late in her life to get pregnant.
Just to add, there are many grandparents out there today, hundreds of thousands if not millions, raising their grandchildren. They are doing just fine, thank you, if not a better job of young parents.
We see the joy of playing, of taking time to just sit and talk, forgetting about stuff that is unimportant and taking time to be with the kids. It's not something I ever did as a parent.
Being an older parent is not all that bad.
I do have several friends who chose to have children, even like a second set of kids, at later ages. They are all better parents I think.
My friend that has MS is nearly 60 and has 2 pre-teen kids. She is more relaxed this time around. She is totally a different parent now.
Life experiences teach us what is important to teach kids and what is not so important.
If you friend truly wants to have a child she should try with her whole being until she is told it just isn't going to happen. Then she can always look at other options. BUT she is running out of time if she is able to get pregnant. We don't stay "ripe" for too many years.
It could happen. I know of a few women that tried for years, adopted kids, wtc and then got pregnant when they were in their 40s. It does happen. This doesn't mean it will happen for her but it is possible.
WOW! Because of her age , not the abortions, conceiving will be a challenge. She could always consider a surrogate if her eggs are viable. A baby at 47....I can't imagine being 50 with a 2 year old or a child under the age of 10. She could also adopt.
If she is depending on luck, I doubt she will get pregnant.
That said, I went to high school with a girl whose mom was 57 when she gave birth. That was before fertility specialists. Of course, this mom was in the Guiness Book of World Records.
