Visitation Schedule - Cuba,MO

We designed our co-parenting schedule and put it in writing with our Mediator. This got included in our divorce decree approved by the court. We have 50/50 time with an exchange every two to three days.

My schedule with my daughter looks like this:
Week 1 - Sun, Mon, Tues, Fri, Sat
Week 2 - Tues, Wed
Repeat

On school days, our daughter takes the bus to Dad's house after school, and on my days I pick her up there, or if she has a karate lesson then Dad brings here there and I pick her up there, or if it's easier for him to drop her off at my house, then he does... Because my ex and I can and do actually talk frequently and can agree to changes needed based on our work/school/volunteer obligations, we've not had any problems with our co-parenting arrangement.

No matter what you have in writing, stamped by what court, the best thing you can do is actually agree to work together as co-parents of your children.

Get an official one from the courthouse I've seen a few moms that have posted on here about there exs refusing to return the child(ren) and unfortunately if there isn't a court order cops can't help you you have to wait and go to court. My oldest goes to his dads every other weekend and that's it with Christmas split and thanksgiving rotating, mothers day with me, and fathers day with him.

There IS a standard schedule. It's generally that the non-custodial parent would get every other weekend from Fri pick up at school until Sunday evening at 7pm and then every (or every other Wed from pickup at school until 8pm. You would alternate holidays: you get Thanksgiving he gets Christmast / next year it's the opposite. You alternate birthdays etc. Your state should have a guideline.

Most people go outside of that because it's what works best for the kids and themselves. It benefits you in a million ways to try and give your ex as much parenting time as you can.

DEFINITELY get it in writing - tell him it's to protect HIM if you have to, but it's definitely NOT a good way to go to have a verbal plan - at least not a first. Too much can be misunderstood and then it's a big fat "he said / she said".

As far as pick ups - usually one parent does one / the other does the other. If you're amicable you can pick up and drop off to/from the other parent's residence - that's usually best for the kid - but if you're not you can pick up / drop off at a 'neutral' location.... like a McDonalds or whatever. My ex and I were not SO civil that we used a mediator and I took my daughter there 15 min before her dad showed up. Same for return - he got there and was gone before I arrived.

Good Luck.

I have a set schedule. Mine is every tues 5-8 and fri at 5 thru sun 5 every other weekend.
Whatever works for you schedules and the age of the kids to, and both agree upon which i suggest strongly to.You try to work it out yourselfs and not if front of judge cause you may not like the outcome or mediation if you can't work it out. Also shared holidays.
My ex drops off here at my home and picks up which usually it is one does on and the other parent does the other or meet in the middle again what you both agree upon. My spouse doesn't. I have had to have it written if he doesn't show up within a 15 minute window he would lose his parenting time. If he calls cause the weather is bad or a once in awhile thing then I let him but there is no reason for me to sit and wait around for him to decide to show up. so i did have that put in. Sometimes he doesn't bring them back on time but I am not sure what I can do other than document. File a report with cops and see if they will do anything. I hope that helps.
Depending on how well you and your spouse can communicate or agree I would have everything in writing and spelled out.

My DH and his ex had a schedule that was pretty set, but they were both flexible enough to accommodate each other if something came up. They were able to mutually agree on whatever was best for their boys and most convenient for them without having to put anything in writing. For long time when they were younger, DH had them every Saturday night - he worked every other Sunday (car dealership) so on the Sundays he worked, their mom would meet him half-way since the area was near where he worked anyway. On Sundays that he did not work, he dropped them off at Mom's Sunday night. He always picked them on Saturday when he got off from work (at the time Mom was dating someone else and really wanted at least some time every weekend to be at her boyfriend's house and driving to his place was in the opposite direction from DH's place). The times usually ended up being the same but if for some reason he was going to be late or needed to be early or whatever, he just called her to let her know and she did the same. And per his ex, DH could have or see the boys whenever he wanted - his birthday, Father's Day, etc. We could take them on vacations and travel out of state - there were no restrictions. We came to as many of their school things and sporting events as we could. As they got older, the boys started staying with us every other weekend, because they wanted some weekends to be able to hang out with their friends, and their mother was no longer with the boyfriend so having that time off wasn't so important to her. DH still did all the picking up and bringing back because it was just more time he got to spend with them, talking in the car, but sometimes he asked their mom to make an exception and drive them because of something else going on. Sometimes she was okay, and sometimes she would get all bent over it and give him a hard time, until he reminded her of all the driving he did already and he was just asking her a favor.

I have known some parents that have had to put everything in writing, even one father who had to have the kids back on Sunday by 6 pm on the dot because if he was even 5 minutes late, his ex was calling the police. I guess it all depends on how much they are willing to work out on their own, or if there is so much anger and/or mistrust on each side that a legal agreement in writing is necessary.

I have a written schedule.. You need to get it in writing, and We have set pick up and drop off times and Its always the same. Just verbal is not a good way to go.

AZ has a "standard" parenting plan. My ex has my kids every other weekend and every other year for holidays. Its in our divorce decree so there isn't anyway to argue about it.

I would get everything in black and white. Such as "father gets child on Easter Sunday from 9am to 5pm on even years" Mother obviously would get on odd years.

And "recieving parent" picks up the kid. If they want them, they come and get them.

My husband has the ex from hell. We have paid thousands of dollars to get a schedule in place. If you want me to email a sample to you, I can, just send me your email address.

Good luck!!!