Very Rude Team Mom - Should I Say Something?

You did the right thing all throughout the situation. Her "feelings" on the family don't matter except in the fact that she's being a bully and was out of line. She doesn't have the authority or the right to exclude a boy from a team event just because she dislikes the parents for no real reason other than being racist.

I would remain polite to her and keep it professional. Respond with, "I'm sorry that you're upset but this is a team event. Let's get on with the business of planning the team party. If you don't feel comfortable including all the children and their families on the team then feel free to step down and I'll gladly take over."

What league are ya'll with? I'd imagine that the league would love to know that they have a racist bigot representing them as a leader role for one of their teams.

You are getting a lot of good advice, I also think you did the right thing. It's a "TEAM" party not a party for who she likes. I would remind her that, if she wants to throw another one, so be it, but everyone on the team should be invited, ALL TEAM MEMBERS!

I would have simply said, "You don't have to come if you don't want to, but he deserves to be invited as much as you."

Good luck to you and yours.

You did the right thing. I would tell the league though so she is not a team mom next season.

Um....it's a team party--not her personal popularity contest.
You did exactly the right thing.
All you need to do now is to let her know you are moving ahead with a TEAM party on XYZ date, and she can either come or not. Her choice.

I would take this to the league. Aside from this being just all around horrible, someone who makes comments like that could get the league in serious trouble. They need to be aware of the situation.

It's not her choice... and it's not about the parents. This is a kids' team, right? Why should that child be excluded b/c his parents are rude. I would have done the same thing. Continue with your party plans- if she doesn't want to attend that's her issue!

How are team moms selected? Volunteer, nomination, ?? I wouldn't get the league involved immediately, but you may want to strongly consider encouraging another, more inclusive mother to volunteer for the job next year!

I personally would try to stay as calm as possible and try to gather every ounce of patience to deal with this co-team mom. Be the nice "guy" always. You will stand out to the other parents and they will support you...and it will make the other team mom look even more foolish.

I think you were totally justified in inviting the dad/boy to the party. The party is for the team..plain and simple. I don't think anyone is justified in keeping that boy away from the team...the fact that the dad&mom may be rude and talk down to others is no reason to exclude the boy.

Her comments were rude and inflammatory. I think she needs more mamas like you to stand up to her....nicely. I would definitely tell her that the party will go on with the mentioned family and it might be best if "SHE" stays home if she can not act like a grown up and put feelings aside for the children/team. This is a pary for heaven's sake...it is time to celebrate!!

I wish you luck. It is soooo sad when you volunteer your time and energy for kids and the hardest part of the job is dealing with parents who are acting like children.

You did the right thing, no one should be left out of a TEAM party if they're a part of the team, some parents choose or are able to get involved more than others and that's fine. This Dad probably ignores the mom because he doesn't care for her either and it bothers her. And if this bully mom had gotten her way the poor boy wouldn't have been invited, that's not right. Sounds like this mom is incredibly immature, I would definitely report her to the league, racist comments are bad enough as it is let alone in a Little League.

You soooooooooooo did the right thing! How aweful is she? I'm not going to write more because i am just so pissed off.

I would tell her that the team party is open to all the team participants and their families. Then I would say she exhibits more hostility and judgment than this man and is she has a problem with it then she can stay at home. I would then tell her if she can't curb her tongue then you will discuss it with the league.

If I were you I would call the league and report her. She totally crossed the line and the right thing to do here is to report her. Hoprefully her prejudice and mean spirit will get her banned from future games. That's what I would shoot for at least.

you did the right thing. with or without the muslim comment, she was wayyyy out of line. wish some moms would find a hobby rather than try boss around other people.

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I would politely remind her the party is for the KIDS not the parents. She just needs to suck it up, so what if she doesn't like the other parents - that is her issue and she needs to get over it.

The party is for the kids to celebrate their season and their hard work, and this boy certainly contributed to the season just as much as the others . You were not out of line and good for you for speaking up!

The child should ABSOLUTELY be invited to the team party. It is not about the parents and who likes who. It's about the kids, and every child on the team needs to be included- no question. How would she like if someone excluded her child because they don't like her? I would tell her that the party is for the kids, and her personal feelings about the dad need to be set aside. It sounds like she is very immature and needs to grow up.

The party is for the kids on the TEAM. It's not about the parents but the kid. She can choose not to come, but I think it would be worse to exclude the child. I would probably talk to the coach if you think she's going to raise a huge stink about it. Maybe go with the other moms who heard her. I suspect she will be outnumbered in her "vote" if it's really presented to the other parents.

I'd respond back to her that this is NOT a private party, it is a TEAM party, and NO ONE will be excluded and "not invited" If she has a problem with any of the parents, SHE is the one who has free choice to not attend. And I'd CC the coach and league director. She should not be allowed to be a "team Mom" if she is going to be so biggoted in her words and actions.

it sound to me that nobody else likes this family but her, so i would invite them and if SHE chooses not to come oh well, her loss. but it would be unfortunate if she excluded her son because she is a clown!

It is NOT a private party. It is a team party and everyone on the team is invited. No exceptions. No nutjobs(ok, the nut jobs have to come too if they are on the team).

Where is the party? If she is the host, as appalling as it is I guess it is her prerogative to not invite the family to her home although this would be so mean to do to this little boy. Any other location she has no right to demand who should not be invited.

If she wants to throw her own party in her own house, then she can invite whomever she pleases. This is a party for the kids, and about the kids, not her. She should be ashamed of herself for making racist comments, judging someone because of their race, and for what she's probably teaching her kids. Good for you for getting the league involved.

And, no, don't respond to her, she clearly forgot to take her happy pills!

How upset would you be at this momif she said everything she said EXCEPT for the muslim part?