Very Confused About Staying Married or Separating

I feel your pain. I just separated from my husband - but my husband was far from perfect, so the situation is different. I was no longer "in love" with my husband, and that's why I decided to separate. The kids go through alot and it's not always easy - but I'm happier and that reflects on how I manage the house, and therefore how my kids react to the situation. I've been fortunate in that my husband and I have been communicating better than ever, and he's even stepped up to the plate regarding the kids. I don't think we'll reconcile, but at least we're getting along.

I highly recommend counseling - you need to figure out what it is that you want and what will make you happy. Only you can decide that.

I wish you the best of luck in this most difficult decision.

Dear D. - Please don't take this the wrong way, but why did you have children with this man if you did not love him? Call me old fashioned, but you decided to take this road. You should put your needs aside and do what is right for your children, and that is keep the family together. And please try counseling. You never know, it might help tremendously.

Hi, my name is K.,
and my first question is, are you and your husband saved? At this point for you and your husband you might not want to hear go to church and hear what god has to say about it. But, in a nutshell that's exactly what i'm saying....
Even if your not saved, go and see what god says about marriage...because god takes marriage very serious and maybe you both need to seek a higher counsel, other than man....all i'm saying is try it, what else do you have to lose? I think and believe that god can help you both get back to what your both missing....just food for thought.
K

What do you mean when you say 'in love'?

I think there's a difference between adolesecent relationships when it's all about the fire and the spark, and adult relationships based on mutual friendship and admiration and yes, passion.

Passion is just something that takes work. It sounds like you have the friendship and admiration.

I second your husband on the recommendation for counseling. It can only help, and with a little effort, I'm sure you can find what's missing. You've got way too much good stuff to throw it away on an unknown.