UPDATE On My Niece

Updated on August 29, 2016
S.B. asks from Spring, TX
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Its with a very sad heart that let yall know that my niece passed away Wednesday night. She was surrounded by her father, step mother, my husband and myself. She knew she was loved and that her boys would be okay. Her husband was not there nor was her mother. That discussion is for another day.

My emotions range from anger at my niece to a broken heart for her boys. Addiction can get such ahold on you that nothing nor no one can pry it away.

Thank you all for your prayers and kind words. My BIL and SIL are planning the funeral. Her husband is not involved in that. I don't really have a question, I just wanted to say "Thank You for the prayers". Please keep them coming especially for the boys and my BIL and SIL.

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So What Happened?

Thank you! The funeral was Monday. It was a lovely service filled with love and heartbreak. My 5 year nephew still doesn't know his mother passed. Her husband is just a wreck. I don't think he could handle her in the hospital and dying. I really believe that is why he dis-engaged. I think that was his way of coping with this.

On the down side, her mother (my ex-SIL) and her sister (my niece) did not show up! I just can't believe it! I am still in shock. I just can't believe that any mother would "boycott" your daughter's funeral because your pissed. Ex SIL is upset because my niece's husband signed a DNR. Guess what? My niece passed 8 hours later. She was beyond the point of no return. If ex SIL had bothered to come and visit her daughter when she was in the hospital, she would have know that my niece's condition was terminal. But NOOOO, she wants to point the finger and be shitty to my niece's husband. I know I need to let this go. I do and I will but I just needed to rant about this because I just don't get it!

Again Thank you!!

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X.Y.

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Thank you for the update. Kudos to you for being so caring to her and her boys. Its an awful disease that took my moms life at the young age of 44.

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W.W.

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Yankee....I'm so sorry. May her memory be eternal. May her son only have happy memories of his mother!!

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N.Z.

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So sorry and thank you for the update. I'm heartbroken for her boys.

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S.W.

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I am so sorry about your niece. May she find peace for herself and for her boys. Please take care of yourself and her boys.

the other S.

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E.J.

answers from Chicago on

I'm am so so sorry for your loss.
I hope her soul finds peace as she could not find it here.
Her boys will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I hope you have surrounded yourself with support to talk through the confusing emotions and just remember, in grief, all range of emotions are normal.

Again, so sorry

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T.F.

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I am so sorry. Your family will continue to be in my prayers.

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L.H.

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I'm sorry for your heartache. Please take care of yourself and know there are no "right" ways to feel. Please watch over her boys closely, their dad doesn't seem like he will be any help to them. I am so sorry. What a heart wrenching situation.

Blessings of peace to you and your family.

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A.L.

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So very sad to hear this news. Indeed, addiction is powerful, cunning, and baffling (that's an adjusted quote from AA's Big Book). If you ever want to message me about Al-Anon and possible tools for you and your family as you work with your nephews, feel free. May the Eternal One bless and keep you and your family members, and give you strength during this time of grieving.

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T.D.

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so sorry to hear this. i will continue to keep you in my thoughts

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D.B.

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So very sorry for this horrible time in your family's life. Heartbreaking.

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J.F.

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I am so sorry for you and your family, and especially for your niece's boys.
All of you remain in my thoughts and prayers.

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D.D.

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I am so sorry for your family. Addiction just tears everything apart.

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M.M.

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So sorry....Hugs and prayers

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P.K.

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Sending you warm hugs and will pray for you all😢😢

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J.C.

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I'm so sorry. This is just terrible. The poor kids. Your family will remain in my prayers. Hugs.

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M.G.

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I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. Your family is in my prayers.

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K.C.

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I am so sorry to hear this. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you.

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E.B.

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I'm so sorry.

I will be praying for comfort for all of you.

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T.H.

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Sending you a giant hug. You are obviously an awesome auntie and great-auntie to have.

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M.P.

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I'm sad to know this. I will keep all of you in my prayers. Were her boys able to go to the hospital.

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I'm so sorry, mom. It is a terrible thing, especially for someone so young.

Please take care of yourselves. Losing someone takes such a toll...

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I am so so sorry to hear this news. What a heartbreaking situation. Blessings to the kids and you and your family.

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M.S.

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Sending prayers of peace and comfort to you and your family.

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C.B.

answers from Reno on

Sending prayers your way

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C.C.

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They are lucky to have you. Keeping you in my prayers.

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B.C.

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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S.W.

answers from Detroit on

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Grief is so very personal so I won't even begin to interject. What I can say is that my thoughts and prayers go out to you and her boys. Take care of you as you experience this journey. S.

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M.D.

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I am so, so sorry :(.

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N.K.

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Very sorry to hear this. I have lost many close people to alcohol and it is a mixed emotion of sadness and anger, as well as frustration because this did not have to happen! A young death is tragic enough, but when children are left behind, it is even more tragic and heartbreaking. Wishing you all peace through this difficult time. You and your loved ones will be in my thoughts. Hugs to all.

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