My son is invtied to a pair of twins birthday. Neither one of the kids (boy/girl) is in his Kindergarten class. Nor has he had a playdate with either child. Should I buy a joint present? Or each child a present? Your thougths. Thanks!
My husband is a twin... my nieces are twins... I have multiple sets of twin cousins... please get a separate gift for each! All of the above dislike being "lumped together" all of the time. Different kids born on the same day. That's how we have always treated them.
I'd say separate gifts. Twins get lumped together enough - no reason for them not to be individuals just because they share a birthday.
But if he's not friendly with them, how strongly do you feel about him going to the party? Don't feel compelled to accept every invitation you receive - that's how families go broke!
If your son doesn't really know the kids, then I would politely decline. You can't accept ALL the invites you get!
Otherwise buy a small gift for each. For sisters having a joint party we bought them both ice cream gift certificates and they were a hit! Who doesn't like ice cream??
I'm assuming the he knows these kids via school interaction, before/after care, or through the community...if not, how do they know him to invite him? How he knows them and how close he is to either of them may sway my answer.
If he knows either one of them fairly well (like good friends) then I would go with separate gifts. If it is more casual like I suspect, I would get them a joint gift (like a board game or two, art/craft kit, and/or puzzles) that they can enjoy together and with others.
I would not go. He isn't really friends or even classmates with them. I personally do not have time for parties of such acquaintances. However if you decide to go, you should obviously get them each their own gift.
Buy a small gift for each, like a book, or craft items, or something. When we attend twin parties where DD is friends with both twins, we buy for both individually.
Is he friends with them? It seems odd to be invited to a party where he doesn't really seem to associate with the kids.
I would get each one their own little gift.
Each there own separate gifts. My two oldest always had a party together (they're 11 months apart), so I didn't expect anything big since it was for two kids and not one.
Should add I didn't expect anything. Just to make that clear lol
Just curious, why is he invited, does he know one or both of the kids from recess, or after school care? Just seems a little odd.
Anyway, my youngest went to a few twin parties. I usually gave one, slightly "bigger" gift, addressed to both, which was something they could share or do together, like board games, art/craft supplies, DVDs, pool/beach toys, stuff like that. Things that are meant to be shared and gender neutral seem to be safe when you don't really know the kids and what they're into.
As the mom of twins, I am totally understanding of however people decide to do the gift thing. We tell the girls that they might get a joint gift or a separate gift and that they need to be kind and appreciative in all circumstances. Just for reference, they had a b-day party last month and each girl invited a few friends (most of whom are mutual friends) and I think they got mostly separate gifts and one shared gift. It's really up to you. Since they are boy/girl I might get them each something small.
Does he know these kids? I would buy them each something small if he is going. But it's weird to me at that age to invite someone who is not in your class to a birthday party.
If he is friends with the children and you go to the party, they need to be treated as individuals not a set... So separate gifts/ cards etc.
Buy them each their own gift.
