Tubes Tied or Not?!

Updated on February 20, 2008
S.B. asks from Kent, WA
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I just turned 25 years old and have 3 kids(Briana 5, Kayla 3, and Kainoa-Sean 2 months. I am pretty sure that I don't want anymore kids but i'm not sure that I don't. Should I get my tubes tied or not? I am 90% sure I should but I am worried that I will regret it. Any advice would but very helpful. Please...

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M.R.

answers from San Francisco on

I'm 38 and I'm trying to make the same decision myself. My first response might be that 25 is still kind of young to make a permanent decision, at least for me. I think the reason I'm possibly going to do it now is related to my age. Everybody's got their own decision, though. All these people talking about IUDs is making me think about them, though.

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T.M.

answers from Corpus Christi on

I have 4 kids, and also have had 4 miscarriages, so I got my tubes tied for my health (mentally and physically). I knew that I wanted more kids, but my body was giving out, and I was on bedrest for the entire last pregnancy (37wks), so I knew that I NEEDED to have them tied. I cried thru getting my tubes tied, I always wish that I hadn't, and not a day goes by, that I don't ache for another baby. DON'T get them tied.

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R.G.

answers from Seattle on

I would get an IUD instead. I would wait to get my tubes tied util I was 100%, and the IUD is the most effective (I have one) and it can be removed if you happen to want more children later down the road. They last a while (1-15 years depeding on the type) and you can remove it at any time. Just my two sense. :)

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M.P.

answers from Portland on

Whether or not you want another child is just one issue in deciding whether or not to have your tubes tied. More importantly, are you able to care for more children emotionally and financially? What is best for the children that you do have?

90% certain is really a high percentage. We make important decisions all the time. Some we do regret but there is no way of knowing if this will be one of them. Were you 100% certain that you were making the right marriage? Did that turn out OK. How about having the children that you do have? 100% certain that you wanted each one 100% of the time? Having the children is also irreversible. 90% surely seems like it's something that you should do.

It is a difficult decision. I'm glad that you are taking the time to make it.

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H.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Getting your tubes tied is reversible, if you change your mind. You should keep in mind, too, that the procedure only lasts for about 10 years, at which time, it is very possible that you may get pregnant again, as I've known several women who have had this happen.

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C.T.

answers from Los Angeles on

Wow...My advice, which I firmly believe in...If a person is healthy, emotional, psychological and financially set, willing and able to want to raise more children with two people equally sharing the responsiblity, why not? I stay home as well and attend college full-time. I love it. I love being with my children, no one can take that away from you. For me, I want another child, my husband on the other does not. The more I venture out, the more things I want in life, the less importance of having another baby for me. Look at your future. Where do you want to be in 5, 10, 15 years? Do you plan to return to work, retire early, travel. Having more children will limit things a bit. Volunteer time at school, use your values, etc to teach children who do not have the same background that you have been able to give your own children. Be a foster parent. There are so many children out there that do not have the inspiration they need to better themselves and want to become more. Please do not take this as 'dont have any more children', it is a personal choice. I just want people like yourself to realize life is more then having kids of your own to raise and instill great values and raise them to achieve their dreams and goals. Kids are wonderful. I love them! You also have to consider your age, children with developmental problems are born daily, age makes a big difference.

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E.T.

answers from Modesto on

If you are not 100% sure you want to get this done then I would suggest you wait. There are some other alternatives. check out this website.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/...

Im feeling the same way I had my first child at 17 and Im 27 now and Im 5 months pregnant. A big gap!! I know but I wasnt ready until now. Im really happy I waited. With this IUD birth control method it lasts I think about 10 to 12 yrs and you can get it removed when ever you want. There is another one like that called the mirena that one is for 5 yrs. I really suggest thinking about it befor you do something like that. Ive heard a lot of people regret getting that done. Good luck on your decision. Take Care.

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K.D.

answers from Seattle on

you know, if you're having any doubts, you might want to wait until you're completely sure. You can get an IUD, they're good for up to 10 years(depending on which one you get) and you can take them out at any time. Of course they work great for some women and others not, you should just ask your doctor. I've had mine for about a year and I love it. Some women say that they bled for a straight month after they got it, but my periods have been regular, so it just depends. Maybe you should just try a method of birth control until you decide for sure. My husband has a rule of thumb before he makes any major decisions, (which I've found very helpful) he waits an entire year, and if by the end of the year he still wants to do it, then he does. I hope that i've helped, good luck with whatever you decide......K.

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M.G.

answers from Medford on

I WOULD NOT! I GOT MY TUBES TIED WHEN I HAD MY LAST SON IN 2003 AND I REGRET IT VERY MUCH SO. I WISH I WOULD HAVE GONE ANOTHER WAY. TWO YEARS LATER ME AND MY HUSBAND GOT A DIVORCE AND WE HAD BEEN TOGETHER FOR 7 YEARS. NOT SAYING THAT WOULD HAPPEN TO YOU, BUT IT IS A VERY BIG QUESTION AND U REALLY NEED TO TAKE SOME TIME TO REALLY THINK ABOUT IT.

HERE I AM IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND HE HAS NO KIDS OF HIS OWN AND DEEP DOWN I FILL BAD BUT HE SAYS HE DOES NOT MIND AND HE LOVES MY 2 KIDS.

IF AT ALL POSSIBLY I WOULD GO ANOTHER ROUTE TO BIRTH CONTROL! UNTILL U ARE OLDER.

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C.B.

answers from Portland on

Hi, I got my tubes tied at the age of 25 and I have two wonderful baby girls. I was pretty sure i didn't want anymore. Every now and then I wonder what it would be like to have another but unfortunatly due to medical reasons I am not able even if I wanted too. But my advice to you would be to wait until you are completly sure that you don't want another baby because you might change your mind after you have it done.

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C.K.

answers from Seattle on

Hello,
I just had my second baby and on the advice of a docter I had my tubes tied. I had a lot of complications with both of my pregnancies and the dr. felt it was safer I didn't have anymore children. While I was pregnant the thought of not being able to have anymore babies made me really upset. Now that I have two beautiful, healthy children I know I want to devote my time between the ones I have. They are perfect and I would feel stretched too thin if we had anymore.
You should really think this through and if you have doubts have your husband get a vasectamy. It's reversible.
Hope this helps.

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D.J.

answers from Spokane on

Look into getting an iud.The copper one ishormone free and last for ten years and if you decide you want another child you just have it removed. I have one and I loveit.

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C.V.

answers from Los Angeles on

The decision to tie your tubes is a hard one to make, especially being so young. I'm 26 and have 3 daughters, Kalei-7, Keyra- 3 and Madison- 2. My husband and I decided that we didn't want to have anymore children during my last pregnancy. It was hard to make the decision, but everything seemed to fall into place and we actually had the procedure done after the c-section (the section was already planned). We were hoping to have a son, but the reality of having 4 children was just too much for us. We decided that, as a couple, we would like to focus all of our energy on raising the children we do have and hopefully being able to enjoy the freedom of being able to pick up and go out without lugging the stroller, diaper bags, baby carrier, etc. We started our family very young and we would also like to be able to enjoy each other as a couple as the kids become more independent from us. As for the hormone changes that I have read about in the earlier posts, I didn't even know that would be a possibility! I guess I didn't research the procedure that thoroughly, but I haven't had any negative side effects in the 2 years since I had it done. My advice to you is to make it a personal decision between you and your husband. If you talk it over and decide that it helps you and your goals for the future, go for it. If you have reservations against it in any way, it is probably best for a not so permanent solution. By the way, I loved being pregnant, I love my children with my whole heart, but I do not want any more children, even if I were to re-marry and I have realized this more and more since the baby was born. Good luck on your decision and listen to your heart!

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F.G.

answers from San Diego on

I think you should go with your gut feeling. You are young, but you also have three little ones. I wanted to tie my tubes after my first daughter, but it was actually my grandmother who changed my mind. I now have 2 daughters and my husband and I decided to have only two. For us it was a financial decision. I come from a big family and my husband and I always wanted a small family. How does your husband feel? As for regret, when you are able to give the one on one time to your little ones that they will cherish for a life time, I think happiness will overwhelm any regret. plus you will loose more "me-time" if you have any more. I'm not trying to persuade you in one direction or another, I'm just hoping I give you some things to think of, that might help you.

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L.W.

answers from Portland on

I am 28 and just had my 3rd child in Sept and had my tubes tied. I was 100% sure I was and done but even though I know I am still 100% sure in the back of my mind I wonder still. Or when I see someone pregnant or even a pregnancy test commerical I get teary eyed and wonder....so even if you are 100% sure, it's still a odd feeling...

Good Luck

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D.D.

answers from Portland on

I had 3 children (boys) by the time I was 22. I was, like you, about 90% sure I did not want any more children. So I got the copper IUD since I couldn't have any hormonal birth control and didn't feel comfortable having anything permanent done, even though my doctor thought I should! Then 6 years later we decided that we wanted to try for another one. I had my IUD removed and delivered my baby girl 2 years later.
When I got my IUD I told myself that if I didn't want anymore kids at the end of the 10 year mark then I would proceed with something more permanent. I'm glad I went with the choice I did. After delivering my daughter I had another IUD inserted. Even though we don't plan on any more children, I believe in them whole-heartedly. Especially since my first 3 were some sort of birth-control failure babies!

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K.S.

answers from Seattle on

HI,

I had my tubes tied when I was 24 after the birth of my son. I have four children and love them all dearly. My three daughters Ali-11, Abbie-10, and Kiara-8 are from a previous marraige. My son is from my now marriage. My husband was not thrilled when I decided to do it because he wanted one more and knew I would to. I swore I didn't, but now I do. My son is 5 and my husband and I both have discussed having another. Now I have to either reverse the tubal or invitro. I am scared of invitro because of the possibility of mutli-baby's. I would wait until your youngest is a little older to decide. I wish I had.

In the end it is your choice. But this is my personal experience. Good luck.

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C.W.

answers from San Francisco on

Definitely not!! I would not tie your tubes until you are 100% sure you are done having babies because tying your tubes is 100% final!!

I am pregnant right now with our second baby (we have a 2 year old son, Jaydin, and we are expecting our daughter, Makenna, in April) and we are 90% sure we are done after 2, but I am not going to finalize anything until I am 100% sure!!

I am going to get the IUD and then in 5 years (when I am 31) I will take it out and either have another baby or get my tubes tied then. But as for you...not to sound too bosy, but dont do anything final until you are sure you are done:)

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K.K.

answers from San Diego on

Hi I'm 26 and I have 3 kids as well. I want to get my tubes tied too but was afraid I would regret it myself. But I found a solution for that. Istead of having a tubal ligation done(snipping and burning the tubes) you can have the rubber band them. That is a reversable procedure and as far as I know won't harm you or you reproductive organs in any way. My sister did it and since she did I think I will just to be on the safe side. Ask your OB and make sure they still do them cuz I'm not even sure about it myself. I still have to ask my OB about it. Good Luck to you!!!

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J.D.

answers from Spokane on

Since you are not 100% sure of not wanting anymore children, I would try the IUD or the Depo shot. Those are more long term birth control that can be reversed.

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C.N.

answers from San Luis Obispo on

Dear S.,

Have you tubes tied. You are thinking of whether or not YOU will want another child. Well, honey, get on your children's side. You will have your hands full for many years just taking proper care of the ones that you have. Yes babies are nice, but you have to think of the ones that are here on earth now, and will need your attention for a loooong time.

C. N.

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I.H.

answers from San Francisco on

You could always become a surrogate mother. If your pregnancy did not have complications and your husband or significant other has been with you for 3 years you may look into becoming a surrogate. The pay is about $25,000 for surrogating one child for a family of your choice.

Copper IUD's have no hormones and do not contribute to weight gain. They cannot be used if you are being a surrogate. If you don't decide to do something like that then deffinatly go with the IUD. Some tubal ligations leave excessive scarring. Do your homework on this before making a decision.

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G.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi S., I am 26 and have two daughters. My youngest daughter (4 months) was my last!! I had a cesarian and had my tubes tied at the same time. Everyone in my family is upset because I don't have a boy.....well, I just smile and say how happy I am with what I have. I just knew for a fact that I did not want any more children or pregnancies. I think that you know in your heart what to do. If it "feels" right...do it. If it "feels" wrong...don't do it. I know that's vague but I hope it helps a little.

G.

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D.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

The fact that you are seeking advice from the web is a clear sign you are NOT ready. Circumstances change in our lives. I am with a man that is 10 years younger than me and I had my tubes tied. He has no children and wants his own. I am very angry with myself for having made that decision. You think now that you are done, but life can bring us curve balls and you need to be prepared. DONT DO IT!

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P.G.

answers from Reno on

NO NO NO NO NO!!! I was 24 when I had to hae my tubes removed after having 2 tubal pregnancies. I had 3 children at the time and thougth I wouldn't want anymore. Well years later at 36 I met a man and we married and we wanted a baby of our own. Problem can't no tubes IVF too expensive so we DO NOT have a child of our own that we so much wanted. YOu never knwo whta the future hold so for you and I would never want another women to go thru the emotional pain that my hubby and I went thru and still go thru even though now at 42 I have 4 grandbabies I love to death. I hope you will reconsider and look into alternatives for birth control!!

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T.M.

answers from Phoenix on

Hi S.!

This is a hard decision for anyone to make. Just think long and hard, don't make a sudden decision. A decision like this is not sommething you can just take back. If there is any doubt wait.

I am 34, a single mom and have two boys ages 8 and 12. I miscarried my baby girl between my boys. I have a blood disorder that caused some scary issues with my first pregnancy. I don't know if the blood disorder is what caused me to miscarry my baby girl. My pregnancy with my yongest son went very well, no compications at all. Due to my blood disorder and one miscarriage I knew after the birth of my second son that I didn't want anymore children.

I chose to have the Deprovera injection every 12 weeks for 8 years. Plus side was no getting pregnant and no monthly cycles. Down side was weight gain that I am now trying hard to get rid of. This past October I went to a female specialist that deals with issuse of not wanting to have more children and what the options were.

I looked at having a compelete hysterectomy, having my tues tied or a new procedure called Essure. I did the Essure procedure which is where the doctor went through the uterus and used a wand-like tool to insert metal blocks into each fallioapin tube. After the procedure tissue grows around the blocks sealing the tubes completely thus preventing pregancy permanently. The recovery time for me was about two weeks. Most people it is a week to a few days. I had a longer recovery time as I was under alot of stress due to two deaths in my family. This procedure is not reversible. There was no cutting into my body and it was done in the doctors' office as an out patient procedure. You can get more information about this procedure online. Just do a google search. I hope this has helped you. Like I said don't make a quik or rash decsion as this is something you can go back on. Good Luck!

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A.C.

answers from San Diego on

I'd say try something else first. I have an IUD (i think you spell it mirena) and it works for 5 years. and is 99.9% effective. It took 6 months or so toget use to. but since then i've had no problems and it's worry free. other than checking it's still in once a month. The new one has a very low risk of puncturing your uterus because it's made of plastic and is smooth.

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R.B.

answers from Seattle on

I'm trying to find a good place to go get a vasectomy reversed? My hubby &
I changed our mine & now we want a baby. He had the procedure done almost 2
years ago.

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E.A.

answers from Portland on

Hi S.,

If you are at all unsure, I wouldn't do it. Go with something a bit more steady but not permanent for a while like an IUD. You don't want to have to go back and have surgery (which may not even work) if you have decide you want another child after your tubes are tied. If you do something like a IUD, you won't have to mess with it every day/month like the pill or other methods. If you are completely sure a couple years down the line, then go for getting your tubes tied.

I had to have a hysterectomy at 23 and I was pretty sure I didn't want kids so it was OK at the time. But I think I would have had one more child had I not had the hyst. So if I were you, I'd go with the more conservative route until you are completely sure!

Good luck! :0)

E.

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D.N.

answers from Medford on

You are still very young and if you are uncertain at all - don't do it! You might end up regretting it. Just take or use birth control instead, at least until you are absolutely positive all you want is 3. And congrats on your newest baby, love that name. It so unique.

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B.C.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi,
I had the same question but I only have one baby so I didn't want to close the door on kids just yet. I decided to get an IUD (intrauterine device)It is a very small T shaped device that the doctor places in your uterus. It was not painful to have placed and it lasts 5 years! The brochure said that it is just as effective as a tubal ligation, but can be removed and you can instantly be fertile again. Hope this helps!
Brandi

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S.C.

answers from San Francisco on

It comes down to whatever is best for you and your family. I am about to have my second daughter in April and my husband and I are not sure if we want more children. But I am not getting my tubes tied just so I can have that option. I am 23 and for me it is to young to make such a life altering decision. I have decided to get Mirena. The IUD that stays in for 5 years. It actually has the same success rate as getting your tubes tied. Talk to your OBGYN they always have the best advice.

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K.E.

answers from Fresno on

If you are not 100% sure about getting your tubes tied, I would recommend an IUD instead. I just had one put in a few weeks ago after my second son. They are nice because (depending on which on you choose) they are an effective form of birth control for 5 to 10 years. (I have the 10 year one) There is virtually no maintance with an IUD, unlike the pill, condoms, diapharm, etc. The best part is that if you do decide to have kids later down the line the IUD can easily be removed and you'd be able to get pregnant again right away.

When you have your doctor insert it you'll feel a little pressure and discomfort, but it passes within a few minutes. I can't tell at all that I have one, they are very comfortable and practically unnoticable once in.

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D.C.

answers from Fresno on

If you aren't 3000% sure, I would not do it. Ten years ago, I was absolutely 100% positive I didn't want kids at all and had my tubes tied. Well that lasted about 5 years. I didn't get mine untied because I found out I couldn't have kids anyway (didn't know that before the surgery), but we did pursue surrogacy to have our daughter.

Long story short, if you have any doubts, don't do it. And if you're sure, give yourself a little time to really make sure. Not all tubal reversals work, and they are expensive and usually not covered by insurance.

Good luck with your decision!

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M.D.

answers from Anchorage on

I'm 26 and am pregnant with my 2nd child. We are not sure if we want anymore kids so I'm opting for an IUD. They have 2 kinds and they are good for several years. They can be removed easily if you want to have kids and it's done in a regular office visit. I've talk to a few women who use this method and they really like it.

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J.F.

answers from San Francisco on

i would talk to your ob/gyn. not only do you have to think about the fact that you MIGHT want more kids in the future, there are other side effects associated with having your tubes tied. i have a co-worker who knew she didnt want to have kids & she regrets having it done due to the bad side effects she has had since having her tubes tied 7 yrs. ago. i am 99.9% sure i do not want anymore kids & i did not have it done due to the side effects it could have & the advise of my ob/gyn. my husband offered to have the vas. done but i chose to get the Mirena. with out birth control pills i have heavy, painful 7 day long periods. since getting the Mirena almost 1 yr. ago it has been the best thing ever! light period and no cramps, hopefully soon they will go away all together!

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M.H.

answers from San Francisco on

S.
From a 44 year old mom,my kids are (12,18,nd 22 years old) having a tubal is very final if it were me, I would not do it until my kids were amost grown. I had it done at the age of 38 years old. And it was still an emotional event for me. You do not know what the future holds for you. WAIT

Good luck on your decision.

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J.S.

answers from Spokane on

When I had my third child, I was thinking about getting my tubes tied. He was my third and I was 22 years old, my husband & I were divorced before I had him so I didn't think I wanted anymore kids. But then I met my current husband & I got pregnant with our daughter (my 4th & I'm 25 now) and while I was pregnant I was so tired & miserable. I had always enjoyed being pregnant, but not so much this time! I thought for sure that I wanted to get my tubes tied so I started reading up on it & everything I read said if you had NEVER thought about it before you were pregnant, it wasn't a good idea to get them tied. My doctor said that she thought an IUD would be better. Well, after I delivered, about a day later, I thought, "I don't want to have my tubes tied" and my husband agreed-he actually wants to have one more & so do I! So I'm glad I didn't have it done.
One of my friend's had hers tied after her third baby, she is now 27, and she & her husband are divorced. She's sad...she thinks she might want to have one more...so once you go that route, you can never turn back.
So just make sure you REALLY think it through & do a lot of research before you make the decision! :-)
Good Luck!!!

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K.L.

answers from Seattle on

There are a lot of things to be heard about getting your tubes tied, good and bad.

There are a handful of serious things to take into consideration, especially since you're unsure if you want another child.

One of my close friends, who was actually my baby-sitter, got her tubes tied when she was 28. She was 100% sure it was what she wanted. She had read about possible side-effects, and made the decision. What she was NOT ready for was an uncommon response her body had by going into early menopause. At first it didn't bother her, because she didn't want children anyway, but she had trouble having any control over her weight (she'd always been in great shape) and she even started growing visible whiskers on her chin because of the hormone changes.

I'm not trying to share a horror story, but an uncommon, but possible side-effect. This is one reason that my husband will be getting the surgery when we decided we are done, and not me! He's perfectly fine with it.

Good luck in making your decision, and if you do decide to go through with it, then good luck, and I wish you the best!

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C.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

If your not sure I would go with an IUD they make 5 and 10 year ones. I had one put in after having my son decause I was sure that I wanted to wait at least 2-3 years before having another child. An IUD gives you the protection you don't have to worry about and the option to have another child when you want with no waiting for effects to wear off.

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L.B.

answers from Richland on

It is a hard decision to make since you cannot predict the future, but if you are 90% sure already, you should think more. Go to a doctor and discuss it w/them - that helps a lot and they give you other options. I got mine tied when I was 21 when my son was about 1 1/2. I knew I did not want to give birth to anymore children and now that I met a man who has a older daughter - I know it was the right decision for me. I did think about it for about a year though. It is definitly nice to not have to worry about birth control anymore; also nice not having to pay for the rx copay. You can also adopt a child if you want more children; this is something that I have always entertained this choice and who knows what the future will hold for me and my family. Good luck making your decision. The surgery is a day one and pretty easy. There was just two incisions and they were small, I dont even have any scars. E-mail me if you want to talk more.

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S.J.

answers from Spokane on

If it were me I would wait since you are not 100% sure that you do not want another one. My mom got her tubes tied after having me and then met my step-dad who didn't have any children and since she had her tubes tied they couldn’t have one and he never got a child of his own. If you were to have your tubes tied getting it reversed does not guarantee that you would be able to get pregnant again. So I would wait until you are 100% sure.

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L.L.

answers from Sacramento on

Just a thought, but have you looked at all into getting an IUD? I am 26 and have a 6 year old daughter. I don't believe I want anymore children but to be sure my doctor recommended I get an IUD first and get my tubes tied later. I have had a Mirena IUD for six months now and LOVE it. I got it while I was on my period and haven't had a period, or period symptoms since! The proceedure to have it inserted was mildly painful and I did cramp for a few days afterwards. But other than that there were no side effects for me. Now I have worry free birth control for the next five years and when it's time to remove it then I can make the decision to have my tubes tied.

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J.Q.

answers from San Diego on

I also have the five year mirena IUD, it is wonderful! It's Completely forgotten about. You can also opt. to have the ten year Brass IUD. My period have been alittle irregualr, before i was very regular, now when i do mense it is extreme light to nothing. I would swear by it if it done in a clena and professional clinic. Having your tubes tied seems so absolute and the possible side effects. well just some personal experiance with an IUD

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S.G.

answers from Seattle on

I wouldn't. 25 is actually young to be calling it quits on having any more children. Even though you have 3 children now. I would talk to your OB/Gyn and have him/her give you options besides having your tubes tied. I am 31 and have 2 children, Christine 8 and Carly 3. I have had the Mirena IUD in since my 6 week check up after Carly. This one is good for 5 years. Talk to your doctor first because as with everything else out there for birth control there are risks. If you are a spiritual person you could also pray on the subject. Good luck.

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J.K.

answers from San Diego on

Hi
My name is J.. With my experience. I am 43 and have a 19 year old and a 9 year old. Make sure that you are very very sure. I lost 3 babies to miscarriage and had to have hysterectomy. I was not finished having children. I always wondered if I should have had more medical advice. God had different plans for me and I have 2 healthy wonderful kiddos.

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A.E.

answers from Los Angeles on

i had my third daughter when i was 26... the day after she was born i had my tubes tied... i have mixed feelings about my decision... i dont really feel like a 'complete' woman now, and sometimes wish that i could have one more baby... BUT, realistically, i know that three is more then enough for me (im a single mom), and as much as i love babies and being pregnant, i do not want anymore kids of my own... right now im enjoying my daughters and look forward to being a grandma (several yrs from now)... make sure you take lots of time to think about what youre going to do, and if you decide to have your tubes tied keep in mind that you can also have them untied...

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C.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

I personally think that your husband should have a vasectomy, because to have your tubes tied is like haveing a surgery and a vasectomy is an office procedure that take about 15 minutes. If your insurance does not cover it, it is cheaper to have a vasectomy than to have your tubes tied. I looked into it personally and found that it would be about $3000 to have tubes tied vs $700 for you husband to have a vasectomy. If you have any questions contact a local Urologist and they will give you more info.

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R.B.

answers from Sacramento on

if you are not 100% sure if you are done having kids i would get the IUD i have it its great there are 2 you can get 1 is a five year and 1 is a 10 year. you can have it removed at any time if you want to have another baby. and but then you would now if you want to have another baby and get your tubes tied from that point. hope this helps

R.

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S.M.

answers from Portland on

I love my IUD.. you never know what the future holds. it isn't worth wondering forever... It doesn't even hurt to get and it lasts 5-10years!! it's perfect for us!!

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S.R.

answers from San Francisco on

It a totally personal decision, something that you and your partner should talk a lot about.

I know that my OBGYN won't do a tubal ligation on anyone under 30. Just from what he told me it can cause problems hormonally and more often then not a woman under 30 ends up regretting she had it done and then has to go through the pain of trying to get it reversed or the regret. Also another note, alot of insurance companies won't cover the cost of the reversal surgery, so whatever you do make sure your sure before you go through with anything.

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K.V.

answers from Las Vegas on

I would make for sure that you want to get this done 100%. I got my done at an early age, and I truly regret it now! I have 2 kids of my own and wanted all the same things that you are sayin, more "me time" but honestly, I really regretted it. There are other options for birth control, Please really think this out.

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K.N.

answers from San Francisco on

I don't think you should tie your tubes. My reason for giving you this advice is simple: you said you are worried that you will regret it. You must NEVER do anything that is irreversible if you are "not 100% sure" about it. You WILL more likely regret it and then live your life very unhappy. Many women have regretted doing this permanent procedure. Besides, you are too young to make this decision. DON'T DO IT. Find an alternative less permanent solution. Good Luck.

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J.M.

answers from Seattle on

Hi S.! I use to work in fertility and I can tell you it can be very difficult and expensive if you decide to have more children after a tubal ligation. I would definitely wait on deciding until after Kainoa-Sean is a least a year ago. I would also look at the option of your husband having a vasectomy just because it is an easier procedure to recover from. My husband is terrified of needles and did just fine. You could also look at Depo Provera which is great for a long term birth control. I used this method for years and the beauty of it is that many women don't have periods. Whatever you decide you both should be in agreement and 100% positive. Enjoy you new little one.

God Bless!

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E.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

if you're worried at all then don't, it can wait.

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E.M.

answers from Sacramento on

That is up to u... I am 24 yrs old.. I just had my second daughter on Jan 12th 2007 and I had my tubes tied right after they delivered her.. Right now im going through a thing where i miss being pregnant but i know what i can afford.. and it was better cuz of health reasons.. All I can say is look at the pros and cons of getting them tied...

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