Trying to Conceive Fo 2 Years

Hi G..

I'm so sorry. We've been trying for our first for almost 2 years as well with failed inseminations too.

Do you have a diagnosis? Most REs don't test for a whole lot of basic things like thyroid issues and other endocrine problems. don't let the name fool you, reproductive endocrinologist are not endocrinologist, they're obygns. So if you haven't had your pituitary and thyroid check, start there. If either of those things are not working properly, no amount of IUI or IVF will work. Also, have they talked you about the thickness of your uterus? There are so many little things that doctors ignore until your in so deep. And it might have been a simple fix. Not to say that it always is, but some times it can be.

I have been using acupuncture and it seems to be improving things. Sadly, we had an early miscarriage a couple of months ago, but it was the first time we even got close. I have tried several other things that I think are very helpful and can help anyone. Polarity therapy, homoepathics, yoga and eating whole foods. Seems so simple, but I feel huge changes in myself.

You might want to read the book Inconceivable. it's a quick read. And I felt it was inspirational.

Also, if you haven't already been - there’s a great group call Resolve. They are a great resource for those of us struggling with infertility. http://www.resolve.org/ They have support groups, doctor information and chat support.

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I don't think you're running out of time. I had my kids at 35 and 44 and my sister had her kids at 36 and 39. Anyway, have you had your thyroid checked? I have a friend who it took 2 years to get pregnant with her first and started thyroid meds after he was born and got pregnant quickly with her other 2. Go to an endocrynologist as opposed to your family doctor to have your thyroid checked. The family dr will just look at the ranges on the test results, the endo dr specializes in this area so he'll be more knowledgable. Good luck.

Hi, G. -
Here's some positive input for you. At 35, you are NOT running out of time, so please try to relax. I had my first child at 45, and my twins at 48, all through in vitro fertilization. I realize most women wouldn't want to wait that long, but I'm only trying to make the point that you don't have to be worried at 35 that you're out of time. I would recommend getting in touch with Dr. Randall Craig, a wonderful fertility specialist. He's very reassuring and caring, and he helped us understand the process we were undertaking every step of the way. You're already undergoing fertility treatments, so you know it can be both grueling and expensive, but from my perspective, the result is worth it. We did a total of 5 rounds, and got three beautiful, healthy, amazing kids.
Try to relax. It will happen for you.
God Bless.

Hi G.,

I too had trouble for years with conceiving. I had 3 miscarriages over many years, but ended up with two wonderful boys 12.5 and 3.5. Note the gap in years. When I turned 40, I figured I had to stop trying, and by some miracle ended up pregnant with our second one very quickly. I think the stress of trying so hard had something to do with it. However, in the last year I have learned that all the toxins in our environment, whether we consume them or not, could have been the cause of my infertility. I now work with a great company that manufactures almost 400 natural based products to help convert your home to a healthy home. Please give me a call at ###-###-#### if you are interested in learning more. Good luck to you!

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Hi G.,

This is what happened for us. I had my first son at 31. We started trying again when he turned 2. It wasn't until we gave up on having our second 3 years later and just did not protect against it that I got pregnant with my second son. I would suggest relaxing and just not protecting against it as the stress of wanting it so badly sometimes can effect whether or not you get pregnant. That is just my opinion and how it happened for us. My boys are years apart instead of the 3 years apart we wanted, but it is ok. I had my second child 5 days after I turned 37, so you still have time.

D. P.

My sister in law and her husband tried for a couple of years as well...she did in-vitro...fortunately last attempt blessed her with twins. But she also saw an accupunturist/naturapathic DR. who gave her TONS of suggestions of things she could try that would help her get pregnant. She said if she could do it over again, she would have tried the acupunturist route first before ever going in-vitro.(even though she has 2 healthy beautiful children) Invitro is very invasive and demands ALOT of time, money, and determination to do everything that you need to do, and results are not always positive. I've seen and heard first hand amazing results from others on their experience with accupunturist for other issues. Find a very reputable and knowledgable accupunturist and/or naturapathic Dr. who specializes in fertility issues. Another thing to look at is what adn how you are eating. Food has so much more to do with our health, our ability to conceive and have a healthy pregnancy than most people think.
What is your stress level like now? Stress plays a major factor in our health.
I hear your desperation. I know what it's like to want another child. I invite you to take another perspective on your situation. One..you are not running out of time. Two...be present in this moment and be grateful for what you do have. Three...Know that no matter what happens, you will be taken care of and you will come out of this even stronger.
Sometimes when we don't know what to do, is when we need to go within and listen to our inner wise self. That self is our higher self. It is never wrong. But you have to really listen with your belly ear.
I wish you much good energy as you move through this and I hope you conceive at exactly the time that is right for you and your family.

In peace,
A.
mom of 4. Birth and Parenting Mentor
www.birthingfromwithin.com

My heart breaks for you!
It is so unfair that that this happens to people who despretely WANT a baby...
The good news is you have proven fertility, having already conceived a child.
It sounds like your problems may be more than what I delt with if you have already tried insemination...
I found CLOMID and a good ovulation predictor kit to be the key for us. But if this is something you really want, (you are right time is running out at our age)...go for invitro if it is something you can afford to do...I would.
I will keep you in my prayers!

If you haven't read it yet, I suggest "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - it really helped me to get to know my body, and will also help deal with fertility issues. Blessings!

www.trueharmonyandwellness. They do natural class, something different for you to try. Good luck!

My girlfriend swears by Raspberry Leaf. You can buy it in capsule form and also make a raspberry tea (iced or warm). Raspberry is good for the uterus and it promotes a friendly uterine environment. When I was preparing to get pregnant at 39 years old, I started drinking iced raspberry tea all day and taking 2 capsules, 3 times a day and I was pregnant on my second try. I am not sure this had anything to do with it, but my girlfriend has shared this "secret" with many friends who had great results. I guess it is worth a try. It is relatively inexpensive and not invasive. Best of luck to you. Try to stop stressing. The pressure does not help. Remember, you are only 35:)

Hi G.! I wish you all the best! Most likely it will be a matter of time, but IF you arent successful with the invitro, you might want to seriously consider adoption. My friends tried invitro many times at great expense, but finally decided to adopt, and became the proud parents of a sweet little days old girl. Two years later they adopted another baby girl! They have become a wonderful family together, and the funny thing is, both girls look like each other and like their mom! They adopted through Catholic Social Services. I know a couple of other families who have successfully adopted through them. Good luck! You will be in my prayers!
E.