Tooth Fairy Intrusion.

Yes. By now she's lost a lot of teeth, and has several more to go... I would've just been glad they remembered to make a deal about it. This tooth fairy has been guilty of forgetting a time or two.

I really would let it go. There will be MANY parenting moments, this is just one small one. If you are OK with being gone and leaving her with the in-laws, then don't be resentful that they got to "parent" her for a couple of days. Isn't that what you asked them to do?

Possession is 9/10 of the law. :p Really let it go, I would have done the same and wouldn't have been upset if it happened to me.

What is important is the tooth fairy came.

Well if they hadn't acted I can assure you that the child would have been very upset. They would not have bought the "visiting" tooth fairy thing. I would be glad my in-laws did something, as long as they didn't leave something unreasonable, like a $100 bill. I do think you are nitpicking.

We cannot control when the tooth will fall out. They did a great job of proving, the Tooth Fairy brings the money, where ever the child is..

You will get to to be the tooth fairy for all of the other teeth.. Not a big deal.

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Wow! I think your in-laws acted in the best interest of your child. They didn't call? Why would they? She lost a tooth not an arm and she is 9 years old. I think you are over reacting. Its how you feel but I think you should let this one go.

first off, i have to say how delighted i am at the title of this question!
but beyond that, i think you're way over-reacting. if the tooth fell out there, why would the tooth fairy NOT visit? i'm sure it was a wonderful opportunity for them, and i hope all enjoyed it thoroughly.
was it your daughter's first tooth? if that's the case i guess i can understand being proprietary about it. but really, it's just not that big a deal.
khairete
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By 9, she's probably already lost several teeth. She's still going to lose several more. I say let the grandparents act as Tooth Fairy for *one* of those teeth. No big deal, I'd even be thankful they did this in my absence.

If it had been her very first tooth ever in her life? Well, THEN I'd have been annoyed.

Haven't you done the tooth fairy before? She's 9 years old, so I would have thought that the tooth fairy would be old hat by now.

Since you have done many teeth by now, could you not let them enjoy just one?

I would think that you are doing good getting her all the way to 9 and she STILL believes in the tooth fairy...

Dawn

I would understand if it was her first tooth but she is 9. I would be happy that my in-laws reacted the way we did in our home by having the tooth fairy visit. There are sometimes that my husband and I will not be there for and if my the grandparents get to experience them that is the next best thing in our family.

Should they have called.. yes. Especially if your tooth fairy has a special name or something. Does it matter they didn't? no... But you have a happy child nonetheless. Try and focus on that.

Are you wrong to be annoyed? No, it's how you feel. It's just not the most logical feeling. Now if this was the first tooth, I might have been, but what were they gonna do tell her to wait till she got home? I don't know many kids who will go for that one.

Now, I am a little more cynical. I've got 8 kids and have done the tooth fairy more times then I can count. Sometimes the tooth fairy has forgot, other times she didn't have any ones and had to get creative (note to self, never pay more then 5 to any one child cause then they all expect that).

Your girl is 9, you still have a few more teeth to go before she catches on. Be happy that she didn't wake up disappointed and really grandparents got to relive a little fantasy that they have since lost with their grown children.

Ugh, this is tough... Honestly, I would be sad! They should have called, BUT can you imagine if they would have done nothing? That innocence you talk about may have been jeopardized if the tooth fairy couldn't find her where she was staying. So, yes, I would be upset... But it's probably best when you really stop to focus on your daughter vs. yourself (don't get me wrong, I'd have a hard time not focusing on the moment I missed for myself with my daughter - so I get it!).

Not wrong, but let it go. It probably won't happen again. They meant well, anyway.

Cute title to your post.

I would be upset, i wouldn't stop talking to them forever, but yeah that was intrusive.

the only way i'm a tiny bit ok with it, was if you were sort of unreachable for anything other than an emercency, OR if they gave exactly what the tooth fairy brings at your house.

My kids get a gold coin worth one dollar, if grandma was passing out fifties then she would be setting up a precident that would not be ok OR would make dd question the toothfairy etc.
So if it was equal then I would get over it faster otherwise grrrrrrr. I would be mad for a week.

If it was the first tooth I would be bothered. The other thing that would bother me is that our tooth fairy doesn't leave just coins. Our daughter gets a charm for a charm bracelet and our son gets collector cards. They would break the illusion if the routine changed.

It sounds like you have in-laws that care very much about your child and acted appropriately...I think it's sweet that they picked up the ball for you while you couldn't be there! It's family being family as I see it!

I think it depends on the parents. The grandparents should have known if you guys would be bothered by it. If not, then they should have called to be on the safe side because tooth fairy stuff can be very personal. What's done is done and I'd tell the grandparents that from now on you don't want them to do that without your permission. I'd try to move on from it.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets