Teen Suicide

As the parents of teenagers this is a tough one. The fact that your child trusts you is a biggie and I would not do anything to betray that trust. Ask your child if you can talk to the parents, and if she say's no encourage her to get the other child to talk to you. You might be able to get her to. If she won't at the least you can help her find appropriate support. Perhaps the school can intervene? If they do it's crucial your child be kept out of it.

I'm sure alot of people will disagree and say you should talk to the parents. This child is 18ish, and if she does not want to their she just won't. Frankly, she may have a legitimate reason. Your relationship with your daughter is paramount. Good luck

When it comes to a serious issue like suicide, I frankly think you have to put that teen's life before your own concerns about your kid feeling that you've betrayed a confidence. I've always told my own daughter that she can come to me with anything and I will keep a secret when asked to, EXCEPT if someone's health or life is in danger. Don't mess about. I speak as someone whose own family has lost two people to suicide. Whatever you can do to prevent another family from experiencing what I've witnessed my extended family go through, just do it. Your child will understand and ultimately respect you more for taking action.

A friend of mine who is very active with a suicide prevention center sent me the following advice:
The mother is wise to be concerned, as this young man needs and is expressing a classic "cry for help". He sounds like he is suffering, and feels both helpless & hopeless. Speaking to his friend is a positive sign, but now help must be immediately mobilized. Approximately 80% of individuals who complete a suicide have given advance warning in terms of a "cry for help." Deliberate cutting, in contrast, is usually done with the purpose of helping the person to feel better emotionally, and isn't likely to be life-threatening.

The mom should call Didi Hirsch Community Mental Health Center's Suicide Prevention Center and discuss how best to proceed. In fact, one out of every four calls the SPC Crisis Line receives is from a third party asking how best to help a suicidal individual. The 24-hour, toll free Crisis Line is: (877) 7-CRISIS, or (877) 727-4747. All areas: ###-###-####. Trained counselors are available 24 hours, seven days a week.

I would go to the school and they can go to the parents and help the child as well. Do it ASAP.